After only three days of acquaintance, the mother and daughter squandered 140,000 yuan
In the relationship between men and women, in order to verify the sincerity of the other party, some people tend to test it in various ways. This actually reflects the individual's lack of confidence in himself, and at the same time shows a certain degree of distrust of the other party. However, testing is not absolutely undesirable in a relationship, the key is to observe in the right way at the right time and at the stage of emotional development.
It is worth noting that the word "test" is more applied to the stage when the relationship is clear. If both parties have not yet confirmed each other's love tendencies, it may seem a bit ahead of their time to put the test to the test too early. Before finalizing a relationship, it is even more important to have a comprehensive and in-depth understanding. Testing the other only if both sides decide to engage further is reasonable, otherwise the test should be based on in-depth knowledge rather than prematurely. 
Take Mr. Duan, 37, for example, who has always been eager to find the right partner to marry. After trying a variety of ways to socialize, he was introduced to a 26-year-old local lady, Ms. Lee. Mr. Duan has a good impression of her and hopes to get along with her with the expectation of marriage. However, an incident occurred not long after that left him feeling bad.
Within 3 days of the blind date, Ms. Li asked Mr. Duan to drive her and her mother to Xinmi for shopping. This request made Mr. Duan confused, because both parties were in Dengfeng, why did they drive to Xinmi to shop? In this regard, Ms. Li explained that she likes Xinmi's clothing style, which is why she made such a request. Although Mr. Duan was skeptical, out of politeness and anticipation of possible future developments, he finally agreed to the shopping trip, thinking that he would be a free driver. 
After arriving in Xinmi, Ms. Li's mother took the initiative to greet the owner of the clothing store, and the owner actually said to the mother and daughter, "You are here again", a small detail that once again aroused Mr. Duan's alarm. Although at the time he did not think deeply.
Ms. Li and her daughter went on a shopping spree at a clothing store, buying down jackets, shawls, windbreakers, two pendants, and a large number of socks. When Mr. Duan saw that they were shopping so much, doubts immediately rose in his heart, and he felt that something was a little unusual.
Sure enough, facts confirmed his guess. At the time of payment, Mr. Duan consciously walked out of the store and waited at the door for Ms. Li's mother and daughter to complete the settlement. As a result, Ms. Li quickly left the store with him, and confessed to him that the money she was carrying was not enough to pay the bills, and hoped that Mr. Duan could help pay the bill. 
At the same time, Ms. Li made a point of emphasizing to Mr. Duan that this was the first time her mother had seen him and hoped that he would behave well in front of her. This is seen as a test for Mr. Duan by their mother and daughter, to see if he can successfully pass this hurdle. Ms. Li also made it clear that Mr. Duan had advanced the money for her, and that she would let her father transfer it to pay it off immediately after returning to Dengfeng, and would never take advantage of him.
Hearing this, Mr. Duan breathed a sigh of relief, and as Ms. Li walked into the clothing store again to prepare for the checkout. However, when the shopkeeper told him that Ms. Li's mother and daughter had spent a total of 14,000 yuan, Mr. Duan was dumbfounded. He didn't expect such a high spending, and he didn't have that much money with him.
Mr. Duan's expression was embarrassed, and after hesitating for a moment, he looked at Ms. Li's mother. However, Ms. Li's mother stood by without saying a word, just watching him silently, as if waiting for Mr. Duan to pay the bill for the mother and daughter. In this embarrassing and helpless atmosphere, Mr. Duan had to say that he used Huabei and helped pay 14,000 yuan.
As soon as she returned home, Ms. Li's attitude changed drastically. Mr. Duan expected Ms. Li to repay the money quickly as promised, but he didn't expect the other party to accuse him of acting very strangely. Ms. Li claimed that she and her mother did not want to go out shopping, and that Mr. Duan had to drag her and her mother to Xinmi for her hospitality, and voluntarily paid 14,000 yuan to cater to her. After returning home, Mr. Duan actually asked her for this money, making Ms. Li think that Mr. Duan was a strange man and had no sincerity for her.
What's even more shocking is that during the chat, Ms. Li asked Mr. Duan: "Isn't it just a few clothes, don't I deserve to buy a single dress?" So what am I in your heart? Ms. Li's face-turning remarks surprised Mr. Duan. He didn't expect that he would be kind enough to help her pay for the shopping and face such a reproach.
14,000 yuan is not a small amount for Mr. Duan. In order to recover the money, Mr. Duan repeatedly asked Ms. Li for recovery, but the more he asked, the more impatient he became. Ms. Li simply blocked all of Mr. Duan's ***, as if she didn't plan to repay the purchase money at all.
In order to verify Mr. Duan's statement, the reporter took the initiative to contact Ms. Li through her mobile phone. After making her intentions clear, Ms. Li did not hesitate to say that she did not know the so-called Mr. Duan. Mr. Duan retorted angrily: "Don't you know me? After hearing Mr. Duan's voice, Ms. Li immediately hung up**. Even if the reporter called it again, he found that his ** was also blocked.
In order to recover the money for the purchase, Mr. Duan decided to take the reporter to the restaurant run by Ms. Li's father again. However, upon arrival at the hotel, the door was locked and there was no sign of business. The reporter contacted Ms. Li's father through ** and learned that the other party said that this was purely Mr. Duan's voluntary spending of shopping money for his wife and daughter, and there was no coercion or improper behavior.
Mr. Duan, who was on the side, once again elaborated on what happened, emphasizing that he did not pay voluntarily, and Ms. Li had also promised to let her father transfer money to repay the loan. The reporter also raised the accusation that the behavior of the Li family was extremely inappropriate and that there was a suspicion of cheating people.
Under constant questioning and pressure, Ms. Li's father changed his attitude in ** and promised to repay Mr. Duan. However, he claimed that he did not have enough money at the moment to make a lump sum payment of 14,000 yuan. He asked for a postponement of repayment, saying that it would take more than half a year. If Mr. Duan pushes too hard, he will not be able to meet the demand.
Hearing Ms. Li's father's statement, Mr. Duan said that he chose to believe the other party once and gave him a certain grace period. He said it was to give the other side a face. However, if the loan is still not repaid after half a year, Mr. Duan will take legal measures to protect his legitimate rights and interests.
Mr. Duan's experience is indeed sympathetic, and at the same time, he is dissatisfied with the woman's behavior. The two parties met through a blind date, and the two were still strangers who didn't know each other very well at that time. Since they are strangers, the most urgent need is to get to know each other, and this is the top priority.
The development of a relationship is a process of mutual understanding and mutual trust between the two parties, which needs to go through a stage from the surface to the inside. In the initial stages, both men and women should focus on understanding each other's background information and not rush into so-called mutual tests.
Even from a broader perspective, tests can take many forms. However, when the mother and daughter had known the young man for only 3 days, they were eager to pull him to go shopping and asked him to pay 14,000 yuan. Is this a true test or a trap? In hindsight, the answer is obvious.
If you really want to get married, understanding each other's thoughts is an important part of embodying human feelings, and morality is a crucial consideration. Thinking about it, standing in Mr. Duan's position, I believe that it is unlikely that anyone would be willing to voluntarily pay 14,000 yuan for a purchase. Because this is not a process of deepening understanding, but more like a means of satisfying one's own desires with a clear purpose, just in the name of a so-called test.
Although the woman's behavior is very offensive, from the man's point of view, we also need to maintain a certain degree of rationality and know how to refuse in a tactful way. In particular, when going out without being familiar with each other, both parties should fully communicate before traveling, especially for the parts that involve economic expenses. After all, a lot of emotional disputes actually have their origins in the economic aspect.
It was obvious that Mr. Duan did not actually have to make the payment for the Woman. This is not a small amount, and if the woman is willing to pay it herself, Mr. Duan can consider it according to the actual situation. However, if the woman asks Mr. Duan to behave well, then refusing is the wisest choice. There is no need to give in because of the so-called "face" in her heart, because such a woman is no longer worthy of her so-called test. There is no need to waste any more time on the road ahead.
Although Mr. Duan was unable to get back the 14,000 yuan purchased, through this shopping trip, he recognized Ms. Li's character. A woman who doesn't believe her words and behaves repeatedly is not worth his sincerity. He also deeply saw the so-called "heart" of the other party. As the saying goes, "Eat a trench, grow a wisdom." "Three days of time and 14,000 yuan of shopping money gave him a clear understanding of stop loss. Although the cost is relatively painful, at least it avoids further falling into the abyss, and it can be regarded as an effective screening on the road to mate selection.
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