Jin Ling is a hardworking and intelligent girl who left home to work after graduating from junior high school, and sent her hard-earned money home to her parents every year. As time went on, she rose through the ranks in the factory and earned more and more money, sending most of her earnings home. Jinling's mother used her income to build a building, and used the money she sent back to raise her brother's bride price and help him marry his sister-in-law.
However, after getting married, Jinling returned to her parents' home for the New Year, and was told by her mother that the married daughter could not go back to her parents' house for the New Year, so as not to affect her brother's financial luck. This sudden request made Jinling's heart twist, and she realized that all the hard work and dedication she had done had been ignored and despised by her family.
For Jinling, although the daughter who marries out has her own family, she still has endless thoughts and concerns for her original family. However, her desire to return to her parents' home for the New Year was questioned and restricted, which made her feel the pain of being bound by her family.
It is believed that the daughter's return to her parents' house for the New Year will affect the fortune of her brother, but in fact, it hides the calculation and injustice of the girl. Family resources are limited, especially in rural families, where parents have limited earning power. When parents are faced with the choice of sending a child to school, most choose a boy. Because boys are able to inherit the family property and provide for their old age, they have the most distribution and possession of the family wealth.
The daughter, on the other hand, is considered to be spilled with water, and she no longer enjoys the family property if she leaves her mother's family, and the act of returning to her parents' house for the New Year after marrying is regarded as the possibility of taking away the brother's property. As a result, there is a belief that a daughter's return to her parents' home will affect her fortune, and this custom is used to limit the distribution of resources among women in the family of origin.
The example of Jinling fully illustrates the injustice and irrationality of this custom towards girls. She has made a great contribution to her family through her own efforts and hard work, but she has been treated so indifferently by her family. Her wish to return to her parents' home for the New Year was shattered by a word, and her tears flowed down her eyes, like a thunderbolt from the sky.
This custom is almost non-existent in large cities, where families usually have only one child, and even if they are not only children, the parents are more enlightened and have more abundant family resources. When many urban girls get married, their parents will marry the house, which is unrealistic in rural areas.
Therefore, in big cities, after the daughter gets married, she can still stay in her home for the New Year in the first and third Chinese New Year's Eve, and the life of her brothers and sisters will not be greatly affected, and even the daughter's marriage family will help her brothers and sisters if conditions permit. Therefore, the custom of a married woman returning to her parents' home to celebrate the New Year is actually an unfair treatment of girls.
The feudal mentality has long been abandoned by the times, and the distribution of wealth in the family should be based on the ability of the individual and not on gender. The notion of restricting daughters from returning to their parents' homes for the New Year should have been abandoned, and women should be treated and allocated resources equally.
While reading the original text, I couldn't help but think of some customs in my own home. Although the family was harmonious and harmonious, as I grew older, I gradually realized that some of the traditional customs in the family were not reasonable and unfair.
In my family, there is a custom that older children must give red envelopes to younger siblings during Chinese New Year. While it is a way of expressing love and blessing, it reveals to some extent the reality of the uneven distribution of resources. The inequality of older children having to use their income to give red envelopes to younger siblings, while younger siblings only have to wait to receive red envelopes, is puzzling and dissatisfying.
I believe that family traditions and customs should evolve with the times and adapt to the development of society and the needs of individuals. Resources should be distributed fairly and equitably, and both boys and girls should be treated equally. The return of a daughter to her parents' home for the Chinese New Year should not be seen as a factor affecting financial fortune, but should be an expression of family reunion and love.
In my opinion, family harmony and happiness should not come at the cost of depriving women of their rights and opportunities. We should break with stereotypes and pursue true equality and justice, and provide fair opportunities and treatment for everyone in the family.
I hope that through this article, more people can pay attention to and reflect on such unreasonable customs and habits, so that the family can become a truly fair and harmonious place.