Good evening, friends, I don't know if there is someone like me, who belongs to the category of social terrorism, that is, the kind of person who can communicate in words and never meet. When you see someone who can hide, you don't talk in the crowd, a person is embarrassed to buckle his mobile phone, and his work is also a person who is bored, and he belongs to the number one who does not please the leader.
Recently, because of some problems at work, I feel like I've been PUA, so I've been trying to find a way to let some of my emotions come out. So, I read one such book, "You May Be Allergic to People".
Jane shares with my friends how I feel about reading this book, if you also have such a situation, please check yourself:
Talk less, slow heat, like quiet.
I like to stay at home, and I don't like to go out in lively places.
I don't like noisy environments, and I feel tired after staying for a long time.
I don't like to socialize, I like to be alone.
When I meet people, I don't know what to say, and I always feel that it's not right to say anything.
What kind of experience is it to have all these symptoms. I am such a person, I am the most silent when there are many people, afraid of going out, afraid of many people.
The book says: Introverts don't like to communicate, and they always do it alone at work, and others don't know what they do and to what extent, which makes the leader psychologically restless. This sentence is too high, I am such a person, and it is because of such things that I am emotionally anxious, I am not afraid to do work, and I am afraid to deal with interpersonal relationships.
After reading this book, you will find that introversion is not a defect, it is like a huge iceberg, there are too many treasures and energies hidden under the surface of the sea that people can't see.
There are only differences in personality, there is no good or bad character.
In the book, I found the root of my people-pleasing personality, always afraid that others would not like me, so I habitually pleased. "The 1+2+7 rule of favorability", allow and accept that there are some people who don't like you.
Slow heat is a kind of protection for us, which can help us resist all insincerity, and please have a deep friendship with people who are slow heat. Therefore, we need to accept our slowness from the mentality and be true to ourselves from the behavior. Fast and slow are just different rhythms, and there is no good or bad thing.
I'm the one who doesn't know what to say in social situations. If that's the case for you, remember to talk more if you like to chat, and if you feel like there's nothing to talk about, keep quiet. Just be yourself.
The author says that you don't have to be likable, what you need is the courage to be hated. There is no need to curry favor with each other, conflicts between people are the norm, and some things can be solved without giving way. So, I always remind myself that you can not lose your temper, but you can't lose your temper, and don't easily lose your aggression, which is the foundation of your survival.
It's really important who you are with, anyone who consumes you, it's your fault to take a second look, don't let the bottomless trust ruin your life, get along with adults, the sense of proportion is a tacit understanding to the point, you have to learn to refuse, learn to refuse words, and learn to get along with people you hate.
How do you get through those difficult times in your life? There is a **way, introverts** their own 43 little things when they are unhappy, it is recommended that introverted friends, friends who are allergic to people, can follow along.
Introverts live in their own world in the first half of their lives, and are full of anxiety and resistance to the external world, but from middle age, they begin to explore the external world, and the focus of life begins to change from the inside to the outside.
The essence of life is a time-limited experience, accepting the imperfections of life, accepting one's own limitations and imperfections, having the courage to be hated, and seeing one's true inner feelings. Be reconciled with yourself and with the world.
There are some scenario-based schemes that are more empathetic to read.
If you like it, you can search for this book.
Simply share your feelings with your friends, I believe everyone will have a different harvest when they read it.
It's over, interested friends read it for themselves.
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