I can t control myself, I always don t work hard, what should I do?

Mondo Education Updated on 2024-02-08

1. Reasons for not working hard.

Many friends have asked me in private: I always don't work hard? What to do?

Recently, I also saw in a doctor's degree at Tsinghua University: "99% of people are not diligent at all." ”

I think the implication behind him is: as long as you keep working hard and are diligent and studious, you are already in the top 1%, and you have won to a large extent. February**Dynamic Incentive Plan Why can't we control our own efforts?

There are probably a large number of people who have been used to being managed, managed by their parents, and managed by teachers since they were children, and have developed the habit of working hard when someone "manages" me.

When I went to work, there was a leader in charge, so I did things in a disciplined manner, and if there was no leader, I quickly touched the fish.

So, self-management skills are poorer.

So what to do? I've been fighting my own inertia lately, and I'm going to share my experience with you.

2. Make a list.

When I decided to work hard, I observed myself for a few days and made a list, which helped me record that "I wasted my time when I wasn't working hard."

My list goes like this::

1. Swipe your mobile phone to buy things online;

2. If you are in a good mood or too bad, you have no intention of studying;

3. Indulge in a daze of desires: want to eat well, dress well, and play well;

4. Indulge in looking in the mirror with all kinds of clothes;

5. Obsessed with reading the data of the article;

6. Take the time to reply to other people's criticisms and want to prove that you are very good;

7. Because things are placed randomly, they are endlessly looking for things;

Okay, now that I've made the list, I finally know what I need to improve.

Whenever I am doing the above 7 things again, I will ask myself to stop, return the time to study, and return the things that should be done.

3. Procrastination.

I believe that many people who decide to work hard will be like me, and often swear secretly:

From a certain day on, (this day may be a birthday, New Year's Day, or Lunar New Year, etc.) I must go against the norm, change my mind, and start working hard wholeheartedly.

This is actually a manifestation of procrastination, and when that day comes, it is still difficult to change, after all, bad habits are not something that can be broken in a day, and it needs to be persisted for a long time.

Besides, every day is a good day, and any day can be used to start, and it is precisely because we don't want to change it immediately and want to delay it that we will decide to start from such and such a day.

If you really want to change, you will tell yourself to start working hard from the current second.

4. Set tasks.

It's easier to work hard when you have a task, and my daily task now is to read at least 100 pages and write a manuscript.

I also bought a silver ring with the word "self-discipline", just like Lu Xun carved the word "morning" on his desk, reminding himself that he had a task on his shoulders.

Even so, it is inevitable that he can't control himself, so he cooperates with a ruthless move to "summon punishment".

Secretly vowed: "If you don't work hard, you will be punished differently according to the degree of laziness." ”

Well, this ruthless move is ruthless enough for me not to dare not improve.

Related Pages