Family Relationships Students who have never quarreled, the warning from the head teacher is unexpected!
A child who never quarrels with his parents will not achieve much.
Education is not limited to the classroom, and family education plays a pivotal role in human development. Education is education, and the parenting methods have a great impact on the personality of the child.
In this respect, the thinking of Chinese parents is very different from that of foreign parents. There was once a Chinese teacher who went abroad to study, and his teaching method was Chinese.
In the interaction with the students, the topic of "do what your parents say" caused a heated debate. At this time, many parents are doubting the original idea.
For these children, there is no such thing as "talking back", and arguing and arguing with their parents is considered commonplace. This reminds me of a quote from a teacher-tutor meeting.
The principal warns that children who have never had an argument with their parents will have a hard time in the future. Ms. Liu, a local primary school teacher with several years of teaching experience, was once complained by a parent for a long time to stop arguing with her daughter and become more well-behaved.
Surprisingly, the teacher's reaction was the exact opposite of what many expected. She confessed in front of her classmates: When children grow up, it is very common for them to have conflicts with their parents, and this should not be regarded as a bad thing.
In fact, children who have never had a conflict with their parents will encounter many problems in the process of growing up. The principal's words really surprised many parents, do you really want to make the children obedient?
The teacher said that just because children are well-behaved and sensible does not mean that they must do what their parents want. Even though parents are older, their thinking style and judgment will not be questioned?
In primary school, children may not have as much independent thinking skills, but as they are educated and knowledgeable, their thinking will change.
During this period, it is more rational to differ from the traditional ideas of parents and not agree with the views of some parents. The teacher concluded by saying that she has taught students for many years, and many of them will go back to communicate with everyone after graduation.
After talking to these graduates, she found that classmates who have behaved well since childhood, and who dare not compete with their parents and teachers, are often not popular at work.
Parents are their closest supporters. If a student is reluctant to even quarrel with his parents in childhood, it means that he has no mind of his own and only knows how to follow the crowd.
Or they just don't know how to resist, to resist. When I was in school, I was fine, but the relationship at work was more complicated, and I was easily bullied by my colleagues. How can you win in such a situation?
"Talking back" is actually a method of debate, and there are indeed differences in educational thinking between China and the West. In fact, the word "backmouth" is unique in our culture.
When parents say such things frequently, it often means that they think they are in a high position and the child should be completely obedient. Children don't have an equal voice, and they don't know how to express their needs or how to refuse unreasonable requests. In fact, this is also a debate, not a "rhetoric".
Overseas, many parents find that their children feel a sense of relief when they express a different opinion, which shows that their child already has his own ideas.
There are obvious differences between China and the West in terms of family education thinking. It is difficult to say which is better or worse, but the author believes that only by respecting students and giving them sufficient space for expression will students be more confident and bold in expressing their opinions in external situations.
As mentioned earlier, a child will not talk back to his parents when he is young, and it will be difficult for him to perform well at work in the future. Children's careers are not going well, and parents are worried. Therefore, whether it is from the child's own position or from the parent's standpoint, we will try not to let the child become a "subordinate" person in the process of educating the child.
It is very important to instruct your child to behave in an appropriate way. When dealing with disputes between teachers and students, it is necessary to grasp the scale. This is not to say that arguing will accommodate the other party, quarreling and being unreasonable are two different things.
It is the duty of parents to teach their children to express their opinions in a rational and correct way, not to remain silent and not to be too aggressive. However, in the process of judging, it is difficult to form a unified judging criterion.
Therefore, parents should have a deeper understanding of today's children's thoughts and go outdoors to have a look, so as to improve their level of understanding and ability to deal with problems. Only in this way will our family education be more reasonable.
Today's discussion] When did your child start to have conflicts with himself?
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