Two days ago, I saw a question on Weibo: How should people with low self-esteem ** themselves?This sentence touched me deeply, because I, like many children who grew up in poor families, always seemed to have an inferiority complex deep down.
When we were children, when we were accused by our parents of not being careful enough because we scored 99 points, other children scored 80 points but could be praised by their parents. In adolescence, when we put on a bright dress but our family questioned whether we were distracted from our studies, other classmates wore beautiful clothes but got praise from our families. When we grow up, we can only silently insist on working, because we are afraid of being accused of poor psychological tolerance or low eyesight.
How can children who grow up under "repressive education" become adults with self-confidence and no inferiority?Sometimes, I really envy those confident peers, they talk and laugh freely in front of outsiders, they are not afraid of embarrassment, they do not habitually apologize and blame themselves when they encounter problems, they can always see their own shining points, and they like themselves from the bottom of their hearts.
In the variety show "Friends, Please Listen", a girl admitted that she was not smart, and her admission qualifications to prestigious schools depended on her parents' heavy money to make up for classes. Teacher He Jiong told her seriously: "I don't allow you to dislike yourself so much. You're not stupid, and you're not bad at learning. The whole world can give up on you, but you must see your own light. This passage really ** many people with low self-esteem and sensitivity.
In fact, many people have low self-esteem because they are good enough, but they don't realize it. The educational environment from childhood to adulthood makes them mistakenly think that this is not called excellent, and over time, they will habitually belittle themselves.
In order to redeem themselves, people with low self-esteem need to first learn self-acceptance and self-recognition. Throw aside the standards of the outside world and re-"raise" yourself with your own standards. Because the advantages and disadvantages in the eyes of many worlds do not correspond to our own perceptions.
Not everyone has to grow into a rose, and being a daisy, a weed, and a nameless flower deserves to be praised. Don't feel unworthy or unworthy, you deserve it!You deserve it!All the good things in this world can be a part of you. From today onwards, please discover a small advantage in yourself every day, okay?