After many years of wandering in the rivers and lakes, a senior who is well versed in the world told me that in order to gain a firm foothold in a complex society, it is inseparable from the help of others. Here are some crucial things to learn about:
1.Tactful and good at words. Language is the lowest-cost communication tool, but it is often overlooked. It is necessary to learn to say different things according to different people, such as paying attention to logic when communicating with men, paying attention to feelings with women, encouraging children to give, showing respect to the elderly, emphasizing interests with the poor, showing taste with the rich, being polite with the low, being direct with straight people, and conquering with strength with the strong, rather than pleasing them.
2.Have the courage to make mistakes and not be afraid of losing face. On the road to growth, it is inevitable to make mistakes. The important thing is to learn from it and keep improving. Don't let a single failure make you fall apart, but see it as a stepping stone on the road to success. People with a stable mind can continue to grow in failure; And people with an impetuous heart may be defeated with a single blow.
3.Control your emotions and be rational with others. Don't complain to people about small things, don't trust strangers easily, and don't expect anything from everyone. You must know that the reason why noble people help you is because of your own value. If you don't work hard and only rely on others, you will only lose your own abilities in the end.
4.Be cautious in what you say and do, and be respectful of others. Don't judge others lightly and don't give random advice. Everyone has their own values, and there is no need to force alignment. Tantrums don't solve the problem, but can hurt the body. Be silent and speak with action.
5.Learn from others and improve yourself. Don't waste time on people and things that don't deserve it, but put your energy into people and things that are meaningful. Surround yourself with good people, acknowledge their strengths, and try to make up for your shortcomings. People are self-aware, and recognizing their own shortcomings is the beginning of progress.
Cherish every opportunity to meet a noble person, and don't let excuses such as "next time", "wait", "still young" and other excuses hinder your growth.