Observation of the phenomenon of "new unfilial piety" Analysis of the reasons why children struggle and parents feel disappointed!
The path opened by parents for the educational problems of their students began even before they were born.
In order to provide students with high-quality educational resources, and strive to buy the best house in the school district before marriage, the schools in the region should make a detailed comparison, even if they wash their hands in the golden basin, they should also occupy the first place in the school district, so that students can receive rich educational conditions and strong teachers.
After students enter primary school, parents pay attention to students' grades, and constantly improve students' mastery of cultural courses through various ways, and so on to students go to primary and secondary schools, the pressure of learning is increasing, and the family's economic conditions are getting better and better, expecting students not to lose at the starting line, as much as possible to create advantageous educational resources and living conditions for students, many students have faced the elite educational environment since childhood, and when they grow up, their education level tends to be more international. Many students are exposed to an elite educational environment from an early age, and when they grow up, their education level tends to be more international.
Families with very superior economic conditions account for about 20% of the total, and most ordinary families are trying to provide students with international elite education, hoping that through their own diligent efforts, students will not lose at the starting line, but they are often unable to provide students with the material conditions they need.
Parents have been ordinary people all their lives, and they still hope that their children can leave this ordinary, enter a better university, and work hard in a better position in the future, preferably under the iron rice bowl post system, or in a private company can get a monthly salary of more than 10,000 salary and benefits, and live on the basis of the material conditions of all walks of life.
After entering a higher education institution, the student enters the ideal university, and parents can also raise their heads in front of their families, if the student does not do this, the parents are likely to think that the student is not filial enough, this situation is also known as a new type of lack of belonging, whether it is a student whose academic performance is not outstanding enough, or a student who does not work hard at home after graduating from college, it makes parents feel very power..less
a"A new type of non-family"It is emerging, where children are working hard at the bottom, but parents are frustrated.
In Shandong, Xiao Wang graduated from 211 engineering colleges, after graduation, he initially planned to continue to take the postgraduate examination and improve his academic qualifications, but his parents persuaded him to find some work to subsidize the family.
He found a job in a private company, with an average internship salary of about 3,000 yuan, plus Xiao Wang needs to rent a house every day, and an independent living standard of 3,000 yuan, so he can't gain a foothold in an economically developed area at all. In order to reduce the burden on his parents, Xiao Wang can only go out every night to do a job such as delivering a car or taking out to subsidize the family.
Parents often call Xiao Wang, thinking that he gives too little living expenses, saying that he is old, often unwell, and needs to buy some health products or go to the hospital for a check-up, as if the neighbor's son remits about 10,000 yuan every month, and he only has 2,000 yuan, which is not enough to make ends meet.
Xiao Wang listened to his parents' words, he felt very uncomfortable, he was also full of grievances, and he was also reflecting on himself, why he didn't give his parents a good life, he worked in a big city, he didn't have any connections, and he had a social background, he didn't have any subsidies at home, and he had to repay some student loans.
In the face of Xiao Wang's complaints, his parents were very angry and scolded Xiao Wang for being unfilial. His parents worked hard for Xiao Wang to study, and they put a lot of effort into it, but after Xiao Wang graduated, his work at the grassroots level was not smooth, and he had to work for his elderly parents to relieve economic pressure.
Some time ago, the topic was discussed:
The employment situation for graduates is very serious. What can parents do to help their children through this difficult time? What good job search advice do you have for graduates?