People who are controlled by the rescue complex are always burning themselves to illuminate others, and in the end, others may not be moved, and they themselves are also burning. One can imagine how hard Yun tried to save her ex-husband in her first marriage, and how she endured the frustration of ineffective salvation.
Yun's psychological and behavioral patterns are enough to explain why she feels controlled in her current marriage, and why she struggles to nurture and reform her husband. She felt that it was obvious that he had a problem, but for some reason she felt that I was controlled by him, and it was not easy at all. She doesn't know that it is her husband's impotence that restrains her desire to help, her own resentment and incompetence, and the psychological mission of her incompetence.
She is driven to help her husband become a capable person, and if she does not achieve it, she will continue to be controlled by her sense of mission, of course, it will not be easy. In the same way, it is this unfulfilled psychological mission and the behavioral patterns related to Yun's psychological mission that compel Yun to consider not being able to divorce and not daring to divorce.
Regarding Gang, from his various feelings in the relationship between husband and wife, people can see that he seems to be living in oppression, and behind his obedience and forbearance, there seems to be a psychological level of masochism, and the relationship between the two of them is the relationship of masochism and masochism.
From the description I just described, I felt very heavy and depressed, and I felt that I could not bear her expectations, not that I was afraid of her expectations. can see that he is in a masochistic position, on the surface, his wife Yun abused him with responsibility, but if there is no cooperation with his deep dependence complex, Yun's abuse will not be established. Therefore, gang masochism is only an unconscious means of satisfying the need for dependence.
I changed a lot of things for her and even hurt my self-esteem, but he was not grateful that she was a capable and kind woman who gave me a lot, but I was not happy. In the face of her, I felt both dependent and angry, helpless, and we saw a fragile little boy who was obedient to his subconscious ideal mother. And his motivation to make a sacrificial change was not only to win his mother's acceptance, but also to fear separation.
Gang didn't know that his wife Yun's real need was to save him from becoming a big man, and his dependence complex doomed him to become the person Yun expected, which also determined that he had to rely on a capable mother like Yun to have a sense of security. This makes people understand why he did not dare and could not divorce, and why he could only be obedient or silent in marriage.