The reason why many people live unhappy lives is because they have a good memory and always stay in the past.
But only by learning to forget can we move forward with ease.
01 Learn to let go.
There is one such story.
A young man was traveling in a snowstorm and his car got stuck in a snowdrift.
He tried his best to get the car out, but to no avail.
While he was struggling, he met an old man.
After listening to the old man's experience, the old man smiled and said to him, "Boy, why don't you throw the car outside? This is perhaps the fastest way to do it. ”
After the young man listened, I was deeply moved by the old man's words.
There, he braved a snowstorm and walked for hours before finally finding a small village.
Wong Kar-wai said: "The biggest problem people have is that they don't want to throw things. How happy it would be if you could throw things away and make every day a new beginning. ”
You can't change the past. We need to learn to forget unpleasant experiences and let go of emotional baggage in order to better face the challenges ahead.
02 Learn to forget.
There is an opinion that forgetting is a human instinct for self-preservation.
It is true that thinking about bad things every day can lead to a mental breakdown.
Spirited Away has the following text in it:
Life is like a train to the grave. There are many stops along the way, and there are very few people who can accompany you from start to finish. If your companion wants to get out of the car, wave goodbye, even if reluctantly.
On the journey of life, we will inevitably encounter unsatisfactory things and experience countless misunderstandings and setbacks.
If you worry too much, or hold too many grudges, it's hard to be happy. Only by learning to forget can we live a life of ease and ease.
The ship of life may be anchored temporarily, but in the end we must learn to let go, learn to forget, say goodbye to everything, and start anew.
03 Learn to cherish.
In this world, it is often easier to lose than to meet. Because meeting is the beautiful fate of hundreds of millions of people, and losing is the inevitable result of the passage of time.
Haruki Murakami once said:
Life, as we say, is a process of constant loss. Like a comb with broken teeth, important things will slip out of your hands one after another, and the people you love will fall out of your hands. "I offer it to you. A person will quietly leave your side. ”
On the road of life, we will meet many people.
Every time we meet, we have exhausted all the fate and opportunities in this life, in exchange for joy and laughter.
Moreover, most of the good things in the world are not strong, and no matter how deep the relationship is, it will not stand the test of time.
No one knows what happens first, tomorrow or an accident.
Therefore, the most important thing is to cherish the moment, cherish the people around you, and don't wait until you lose to regret it.
I once saw such a sentence.
If you love life, life will be beautiful everywhere. If you hate life, life will be hateful everywhere. If you are grateful, you will be grateful everywhere. As you grow, everything will be beautiful. Things can grow. ”
I take it for granted.
Life is a mood, and life is a state of mind.
We must recognize the path we want to take and find the direction. Knowing how to let go, forget, and cherish in the days to come is the best thing we can do for the rest of our lives.