"True estrangement is often hidden under the manifestation of enthusiasm, and true enthusiasm is often masked by the manifestation of alienation. "We always think that if we have more enthusiasm, relationships will improve. I'm thinking. But as you gain experience, you will be able to see through people's hearts and experience setbacks and difficulties. That's when I realized that keeping a proper distance and staying calm is the smart way to get along with people.
In life, we often treat others with sincerity, and even if we pay them a lot of money, we still don't get them to treat them sincerely. "The most beautiful thing in life is pure joy. "The most delicious thing in the world is pure joy. "Only when people become more indifferent can relationships stand the test of time and last. Actor Liu Yifei said that he tried not to be too active when making friends, so as not to let his friends rely too much on him. When her friends told her about her problems, she always listened quietly, didn't say much, and didn't express her opinions. "Friends who are too close to each other are prone to problems, and only by keeping a certain distance can the relationship be more stable. Liu Yifei's indifference did not keep her friends away from her, and she said that everyone began to pay more attention to her. 。Writer Qiu Guoping once said: "The best relationship between people is closeness and distance." "A relationship may be warm at first, but it may not last long, and yes, keeping the right distance will make the relationship more stable. 。When you get along with others, you don't have to try to please them or force yourself to fit in. A good relationship is based on mutual respect, open understanding, being sincere and comfortable without being indifferent.
Only by energizing yourself and getting rid of unnecessary noise will you be in control of your life. After the writer Mingyue became famous with "Everything of the Ming Dynasty", she received invitations from all over the world. Some invited him to participate in activities, some asked him to help write books, and some invited him to attend lectures and ......I'm busy answering invitations every day. Some people say that after he became famous, he behaved like a tycoon. As a result, he did not have time to write calmly. In order to escape the hustle and bustle, he turned down all invitations, and now that his hometown is calm again, he can finally write with peace of mind. There is a sentence in "We Should Be Like Birds Flying to the Mountains": "We spend our lives breaking free from other people's expectations and finding our true selves." "Be considerate of others and know what you want. Take the initiative to abandon the hustle and bustle of the outside world and give up unnecessary socialization. When you become indifferent to people and things and keep a certain distance, you have more time and energy to do what you want to do.
Psychologist Carl Jung once said, "Some people think, "Don't think about changing other people's minds." Learn to be like the sun, emitting only light and heat. Everyone reacts differently to sunlight. "Some people feel the sun is shining, some people feel hot, and some people avoid the sun. "People have limited energy in their lives, so learn to deal with relationships calmly. Don't try to change the trajectory of other people's lives, let alone go along with other people's bad lives. It is only when we become "calm" with others and surrender our energy and kindness to ourselves that we can find our place in a complex world.