Chen Guo, a professor at Fudan University, once said: Many people in our society are strong and strong, tall and tall, and many of them are even gray-haired ......These people are undoubtedly biologically mature. But if you look closely at what he says and does, you will find out. They're not really mature yet. And the true maturity of a person lies in the fact that he has three selves. 
no.1Enrich yourselfI once read a topic in Zhihu: What kind of life is worth living? One of the high praise replied with only four words: enrich yourself. Grandma Cai Gao, a famous Chinese picture book artist, once won the first international award with "The Fox Spirit of the Deserted Garden". Although he is over 70 years old, he lives a self-sufficient and abundant life. She built a garden on the roof, with red balustrades and bees dancing in the flowers. I often sit alone in the garden, set up an easel, spread out the white drawing paper, and sketch the beautiful moments in life. Everything in the world flows under her pen and lives in her spiritual world. Many people reach a certain age and feel a sense of loneliness when they are left alone. But Grandma Cai Gao doesn't, when the children are at home, she tells them picture book stories. When she is alone, she spends herself swimming in the magnificent nature. The richness of her soul gives her the strength to fight against time; Her body is old, and her heart has always burst with vigorous vitality. The meaning of life lies in your attitude towards life, and what kind of life you choose to live will have what kind of life you will have. If you are not satisfied with your current life, try to change it. 
Writer Lin Qingxuan once said:"The real quality of life is to return to oneself, clearly measure one's own abilities and conditions, and pursue the best things and life under these conditions. ”From now on, say goodbye to the self who lived in a mess and live a steaming life. Take three meals a day seriously, take hobbies seriously, and take work sports seriously. Maintain abundant energy, a healthy body, and patience with the world. Make the days to come fulfilling and fun. No matter what age you are, you have to listen to your heart. Be gentle with yourself and live the texture of life, so that you can meet beauty unexpectedly. 
no.2Please yourselfPeople, when you think about your previous life, you are always thinking about what others think and taking care of your feelings. Worry about life not going well, worry about friends not being satisfied, worry about your partner leaving ......I thought I could get back understanding and gratitude, but the more you tolerate, the less others take you seriously. **Writer Su Qing once regarded her husband's family as bigger than the sky, she was careful everywhere, accommodating everywhere, and what she got was contempt and abuse. When she turned around in style, she lived a different life. The poet Yu Xiuhua met unladylike people, was hurt several times, and finally learned to put expectations on herself. She returned to the countryside, read and wrote poems, listened to the wind and clouds, and found inner self-sufficiency and peace. It's not your job to cater to others; Pleasing yourself is the most important thing. The development of a relationship is never fulfilled by one party's compromise and low voice. On the contrary, it relies on being comfortable with each other and knowing how to respect and cherish each other. 
A quote I like:
"True happiness is not in the outside world, but in yourself. ”Really smart people will not bother themselves, but know how to be simple and make their lives more comfortable and relaxed. Be brave enough to be yourself, know how to give up unnecessary troubles, and focus on the present without distractions, and people will live more and more freely. Life is bitter or sweet, in fact, everything is in your own control. Only by knowing how to adjust your mentality and live every day optimally and positively can you make your life full of happiness. In this life, the most important thing to please is actually yourself. 
no.3Let yourself goMost of the pain in life is actually that you are fighting against yourself. "How many people give everything they have for the sake of obsession, do not hit the south wall and do not look back, and finally empty their hands. Maybe it's because you can't get out of the failure of a relationship, and you repeatedly collapse in worry. Or maybe you've put in a lot of effort, but it's backfired. Or because they failed to achieve their expected goals, they were depressed and panicked in self-blame. But that's how life is. There are ten unsatisfactory things, and no one knows whether the next moment will be candy or lemon that fate has prepared for you. If you don't even let go of yourself, you will only continue to consume the only happiness in your hands. From today onwards, don't dwell on it, don't look back, don't be annoyed, and let yourself go. Whether a person lives happily or not, firstly, whether he can fall asleep, secondly, whether he wants to wake up. 
I like a quote very much:"The biggest illusion in life is to think that everything will have a good outcome, and all feelings can be in vain. ”No one is born an island, and no one is always with us. After half a life, it is precisely because of the people around us who come and go that we understand how important the people who stay are. Every encounter has its meaning. Cherish all the unexpected encounters and look down on all the farewells. If you can't go together, it's better to let the light be light and scattered. What belongs to you has always been. 
no.4Final remarksCanoe once said in "Time Will Remember":"The most wonderful and cruel thing in life is the same thing, and that is not to do it again. ”Life is only a hundred years, and it will be empty in a blink of an eye, no one can be your eternal backer, and no one can take care of you for a lifetime. Even parents have to experience birth, old age, sickness and death; Even if it's a lover, it can't guarantee you a lifetime of companionship. The sign of a person's true maturity is knowing how to take care of themselves. You can't start over in life, please stay true to yourself and take care of yourself for the rest of your life. Light up [Like] and encourage your friends.
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