There's an old saying about "meddling."
No matter who you're dating, you should avoid interfering in other people's affairs.
Everyone has their own life trajectory and choices, and interfering too much in other people's affairs often leads to trouble.
So no matter who you get along with, don't worry about these three things.
01 Others' Privacy.
Blogger @sayako used to say something like this.
In her previous company, she had a colleague named Xiao Ran. She is a bit of a gossip and always likes to inquire about other people's privacy.
I have a female colleague who is a single mother. Whenever Mr. Xiao Ran saw someone talking to the opposite sex, he completely ignored the increasingly ugly face of his female colleague and asked her if she had a new partner.
Another colleague was particularly valued by the leader, so he asked around and asked if they were related. So for a while, everyone was confused.
He also apologized to everyone, and his colleague Xiao Li took three days off for personal reasons, worried that it would increase the burden on his colleagues.
Everyone reassured Xiao Li.
Only Xiao Ranran kept asking: "Why do you want to take such a long vacation all at once?" ”
Xiao Li perfunctorily said that there was something at home.
However, Xiao Ranran did not give up, and seeing that Xiao Li did not speak, she asked her colleagues what was going on.
All her colleagues told her not to ask any questions, but she refused.
Everyone has a city in their heart, and it has some secrets that they don't want others to know.
These secrets are the most sensitive places in their hearts, and they are also the softest sore spots.
As Mark Twain said, "Everyone is the moon." There is always a dark side that we can't see. ”
No matter how close your relationship is, you shouldn't go too far. Enter this forbidden world. You can explore areas of privacy that the other person doesn't want to reveal.
Because no one wants their deepest secrets to be exposed.
02 Someone else's fight.
Everyone has their own path, and everyone has their own trajectory in life.
It's hard for different people to walk the same path hand in hand.
If you always try to interfere in other people's affairs, relationships can become strained.
Writer Qiu Guoping once said: "Don't try to change others, everyone has their own character and habits. ”
Xiao Zhang and Xiao Li are good friends and work in the same company.
One day, Xiao Zhang and his colleague had a dispute over work, and Xiao Li was on the side**.
Xiao Li felt that Xiao Zhang was a little aggressive in handling this matter, and wanted to persuade him to calm down.
However, when Xiao Li tried to intervene in their dispute, Xiao Qiang appeared very dissatisfied, believing that Xiao Li should not interfere in his affairs.
Xiao Li reflects on his behavior.
He realized that everyone approaches problems differently. As a friend, you should respect the choice of ** and not forcibly intervene.
While we may have good intentions and want to help others solve their problems, we must also consider their feelings and needs.
Mr. Emerson said, "Respect the individuality of others and don't try to change them. ”
In the process of getting along with others, we need to learn to keep an appropriate distance and respect other people's choices and decisions.
If they are struggling, we can give care and support, but don't overly interfere.
Everyone is following their own path in life, and we can't go every way for others.
What we can do is to respect other people's choices and not interfere in other people's affairs easily.
03 The emotions of others.
A colleague told me that she once encountered a very embarrassing incident.
There was a time when a good friend of his had a problem with her boyfriend and he often came to her for advice.
After hearing this, Zhang Jin gave some advice to her friend and persuaded her to break up with her boyfriend.
Unexpectedly, it didn't take long for the two to reconcile.
In order to embarrass his colleague even more, his friend also told her boyfriend his advice, leaving Zhang Jin speechless.
Indeed, interfering in the emotional life of others is extremely irrational. If you convince someone to break up with you 10 times, but get back together 11 times, you are no longer human.
After that, I was silent.
In life, it is a basic discipline not to interfere with the emotional lives of others.
Since everyone's emotions are different, it is difficult to measure and judge with simple standards.
Turgenev said: "He who cannot tolerate others does not deserve to be tolerated by others. ”
We should respect our friends' choices and give them enough space and time to deal with their emotional issues.
Not only does interfering with other people's feelings not solve the problem, but it can also put yourself in an awkward situation and affect your relationship with friends.
When dealing with people, you need to learn to keep an appropriate distance.
Sometimes listening is more important than advice, and letting go is better than intervening.
Don't think of yourself as the all-powerful savior, try to solve everyone's emotional problems.
Don't interfere with other people's love lives, respect their choices, give them enough space and time, and at the same time protect yourself and avoid unnecessary trouble and pain.
For the rest of your life, keep your mouth shut and be careful with what you say and do.
No matter how close your relationship is, keep a balance and never cross the line.
Everyone has their own destiny, and everyone has their own cause and effect.
Live your life in your own world.
There are too many things that cannot be loved and unsatisfactory, instead of sinking into pain, it is better to follow the following set of books to learn, be a sober person, and you will find that after going with the flow, everything becomes beautiful.
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