Middle-aged men, unlike younger men, don't always talk about love verbally, and although they may not have a happy married life, they don't easily show their heart's desires.
For middle-aged men who are successful in their careers, have high social status, and are wealthy, they also tend to pursue emotional fulfillment, but often do not prioritize emotions as the most important thing. They prefer to choose a romantic and warm way to express love and hope. What they pursue is to add more color to their lives with sincere love without disturbing their careers and daily lives.
Therefore, middle-aged men need to weigh the pros and cons first when they develop feelings for women. As Song Siming in "Snail House" shows, his feelings for Guo Haizao are not love at first sight, but because Guo Haizao meets his inner needs, which leads to the emotional entanglement between them.
01. A strong desire to conquer that was stimulated.
Among the various women Song Siming has met, seaweed is not the most beautiful, nor can it be said to be the most attractive and charming, she only gives people the impression of being like somen in clear soup. Seaweed is a very ordinary creature, there is nothing special about it, and I don't know why I like seaweed. However, in the face of the ordinary seaweed, Song Siming's heart seemed to be attracted by a strong magnetic force, and new vitality began to emerge.
Not only did Seaweed's innocence bring a touch of freshness to the experienced Song Siming, but more importantly, Seaweed unexpectedly grew a face of first love, and she had a striking resemblance to Su Hui, whom Song Siming had a crush on in college. Due to various factors, Song Siming was unable to spend his life with the daughter of a university professor, which undoubtedly brought him a trace of regret. Therefore, the moment Song saw the seaweed, ripples swelled in his heart.
However, this young girl is not particularly obedient and obedient, she will act according to her own wishes, and in the face of Song, she will not think about the problem of interacting with people at all.
Seaweed and Song took a Land Rover on a business trip, and on the way he borrowed 20,000 yuan from Song, but when he turned his head, he felt that Song was more like an uncle. Seaweed is an "old" word. For his part, Song has always been a highly regarded figure in his social circles, and he has become so accustomed to the youthful and energetic rhetoric that no one has yet associated him with the word "old." He said, I'm an old school and has nothing to do with you! Seaweed, who was standing in front of him, pointed at him with a cute expression, claiming that he was already old, and even reluctantly said that Song was a little older out of the consideration of borrowing.
Song Siming and the mischievous seaweed experience the breath of youth together, but the resilience of the seaweed once again stimulates Song Siming's desire to conquer. Therefore, he decided to take this little girl who had just entered society into his arms, hoping that she would be completely obedient to him.
02. The sense of accomplishment pursued by men needs to be satisfied.
In the face of seaweed, Song Siming did not hesitate to lend a hand, twice provided her with funds to relieve her financial pressure, and provided her with funds to buy her favorite clothing. The owner of Seaweed is a young white-collar woman who has a lot of trust and dependence on Seaweed. Song Siming not only asked Haizao's boss to provide her with opportunities for promotion and salary increase, but also took the initiative to solve various problems in the workplace for her. To Seaweed, Song is undoubtedly her guardian.
Therefore, Seaweed's admiration for Song Siming is obvious, which not only satisfies Song Siming's desire to conquer, but also makes him feel more accomplished.
On the other hand, Song Siming and his spouse started from ordinary daily life and entered the enviable stage of affluent life together. In the process, they have experienced many hardships and setbacks. His wife saw Song Siming grow from a poor college student to a person who had gone through countless difficulties and got to know him in depth. In their marriage, the wife was a gentle and considerate woman. Even in middle age, Song's career and future will be bright, and his wife will not have any special respect for him, she will only silently accompany and support him.
As time passed, Song Siming's wealth and status gradually rose, but his relationship with his wife became more and more cold. They lay on their beds, unable to utter even a warm word. What's even more embarrassing is that their married life has become a reality in name only, and it is difficult to recall what happened last time.
When Song Siming and Seaweed coexist, the intimacy between them brings him more freshness and passion, and this strong sense of presence and pride makes him deeply feel the tenacity of men.
It must be admitted that the emotional estrangement between middle-aged couples is a key factor that leads to the breakdown of the relationship. If there is a lack of communication and understanding between husband and wife, then each other's hearts will be hollowed out. If couples lose the opportunity to communicate and the willingness to be close, then their marital relationship can be at serious risk. Men play a key role in the family. At all times, men crave praise and dependence from others, and at the same time, they also want their partners to show deep affection.
Therefore, in the long run, we should not forget to add color to the marriage and have more in-depth communication and communication with the partner, only in this way can we ensure the stability and harmony of the marriage. In this article, let's listen to how to make a marriage last longer! The end result of a marriage relationship constructed with and without care will be significantly different.
03. Men prefer innocent women.
After Song Siming forcibly had a relationship with Guo Haizao, he sent Guo Haizao home and found a red mark on the car seat. This discovery shocked Song Siming, because it turned out that Guo Haizao was still an innocent young woman. At that particular moment, Song Siming decided to take possession of the seaweed alone in his excitement, and he firmly believed that the seaweed existed for him.
He tells Seaweed that she dedicated her first time to him and that it was the most precious moment of his life, so he wanted her to be his partner and accompany him.
For Song Siming, his wife's first experience was not his, and it has always been a difficult problem in his heart. In his eyes, she is a gentle and strong woman. No matter how amorous men are, they tend to like women who are as pure as the White Lotus.
This also reflects Song Siming's self-centeredness and overindulgence, he is able to let his emotions flood without feeling guilty about his wife, and he domineeringly asks Seaweed to cut ties with her ex-boyfriend instead of reflecting on his mistakes. This behavior of his not only did not win Seazao's sympathy, but instead caused Seazao to fall into pain. From this point of view, although Song Siming only allows himself to find a lover, he does not let other people have feelings, he just uses the innocence of the other party as an excuse to fall into the love network.
The ruthlessness of real life is that men often want to make up for the regrets in their marriage, but no matter how much they initially develop a crush on a woman, their attitude changes after marriage. Men often turn their eyes to each other after a failed relationship, because if he can have a love of his own, how happy it would be! Perhaps, whether it is a man or a woman, they will have good expectations and disappointments for their other half, and this is what marriage is really about.
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