After I crossed the threshold of 39 years old, marriage seemed to me to be a distant concept. I was immersed in my own world, enjoying the peaceful time of growing flowers and drinking tea alone. The house was carefully selected and furnished by me, and every inch was filled with my preferences and personality. I am obsessed with this kind of life, and I feel that the world of one person is so beautiful.
However, just as I was immersed in this tranquility, Zhu Yihui came into my life. He is 46 years old and I met at the intersection of work. He worked in the renovation and building materials industry, while I worked for a home improvement company. By chance, he helped me solve a difficult problem and made me feel good about him.
Our relationship began as a business cooperation and gradually developed into friends. He has been divorced for 7 years and has a son who is in college. His ex-wife left because of a personality disagreement, leaving him alone to face life's challenges. His story gave me more understanding and empathy for him.
However, when he asked me, "Why don't we live together?" I instinctively rejected him. I never thought about remarrying, let alone getting involved in other people's families. But his words made me think deeply: "It's a bit hypocritical to talk about love at our age." But the second half of my life is still very long, so it's better to be with each other, and life can be better. ”
I hesitated and began to think about the possibility of the relationship. Perhaps, I can really try to accept him and give each other a chance. So, we decided to get married. There was no cumbersome wedding, no bride price and no dowry, we simply got a marriage certificate and then invited friends and relatives to a meal.
After I got married, I continued to live in my own house and continue my work. Zhu Yihui is busy with his career, and we don't have much time to get along. Maybe it's because I'm used to being independent, and I don't think there's anything wrong with this kind of life. But as time went on, I began to realize that the marriage didn't seem to be what I wanted it to be.
On my mother's 70th birthday, I took Zhu Yihui back to my hometown. At the family dinner, the conversation of my relatives turned to me and advised me to have a child as soon as possible. I began to think seriously about this issue, but Zhu Yihui was firmly opposed. His attitude shocked me and made me re-examine the meaning of this marriage.
In the evening, I had an in-depth conversation with him. I asked him, "What are we getting married for?" He replied without hesitation: "Isn't it just to live together and have a companion when you are old?" "I woke up and realized how different our perceptions were. I told him, "If we get married just to live together, then this marriage may be wrong from the beginning." ”
I filed for divorce, although the decision was not easy. But I knew that I needed to take responsibility for my own life and couldn't sacrifice my happiness to meet other people's expectations. Zhu Yihui didn't keep it, maybe he had expected this result a long time ago. We went through the divorce process peacefully and ended this short marriage.
After the divorce, I started my life all over again. I still live in my own house and enjoy the peace of mind. I realized that marriage is not the whole story of life, and it is more important to find someone who matches my ideas to spend the rest of my life with. I believe that one day, I will meet that person who is willing to spend my life hand in hand.