The contradictions between people are all cognitive conflicts
Contradictions and conflicts between people: one is interests, the other is cognition.
If you offend someone's interests, conflict will naturally arise; This is the instinctive consciousness of human beings, and it is also the nature of human beings.
If you go deep into life, you will also find that in addition to the conflict of interests, there is also a dispute of cognition between people; The conflict of cognition is more precisely a conflict of beliefs or opinions.
Different life experiences usually lead to differences in a person's cognition, beliefs and three views.
Because everyone will know the world they live in from themselves, this will naturally lead to differences in judgment and understanding, which will inevitably lead to cognitive disputes.
The resonance between people is the same frequency of cognition
Cognition refers to the process of people acquiring knowledge or applying knowledge, or the process of information processing, which is the most basic psychological process of people. It includes sensations, perceptions, memory, thinking, imagination, and language, among others.
The human brain receives information input from the outside world, and after the processing of the mind, it is converted into internal mental activities, and then dominates human behavior, which is the process of information processing, that is, the cognitive process. There are four levels of human cognition:
I don't know what I don't know: I don't have reverence, I think I know everything;
Know what you don't know: Begin to have a sense of awe and be able to embrace new knowledge;
Know that you know: have a certain depth of cognition, but still have your own blind spots;
I don't know if I know: the realm of great wisdom and foolishness, always maintain an empty cup mentality.
The lower the cognitive level, the more blindly confident they are in their own abilities, disdain to listen to other people's opinions, not good at accepting new ideas, and even conceited and arrogant.
This is not the case for people with high levels of cognition. They are "humble and humble" and "happy when they have heard it".
They are deeply aware of their limitations, they know that the knowledge they have is so small, and they have always maintained a strong desire to learn about the outside world.
They are humble and willing to discover their shortcomings, to correct them, to improve them, and there is no end to them.
Cognitive differences are equivalent to chickens talking to ducks, playing the piano to cows, complaining that ducks and cows don't understand all the time, or your own cognitive problems.
The cognition between people can only resonate at the same frequency, and resonance can resonate. There are fewer than a thousand cups of wine for a confidant, and there is no speculation for more than half a sentence.
To open up the channel of cognition is to understand human nature and understand human nature
From the perspective of wholeness, man is composed of three parts, that is, the three levels of human nature:
the physical level (material level); the psychological level (spiritual level); the spiritual plane (self-nature); It is also called the animal, the heart, and the spirituality of man.
The material level pursues the desire for physiological needs, and the corresponding behavior is taking, also called grasping outward, and the happiness and satisfaction at this level are fleeting. This belongs to the animal nature of human beings, the level of existence.
The spiritual level pursues the realm of psychological needs, and the corresponding behavior is giving, also called the release of energy, and the joy and satisfaction at this level is relatively long-lasting. This belongs to the human mind, the level of life.
The self-nature level pursues the origin of spiritual needs, and the corresponding behavior is existence, which is also called living in the present, and the happiness and satisfaction at this level are relatively eternal. This belongs to the spiritual nature of the person, the dimension of life.
The laws of human nature have been unchanged for thousands of years, this does not need to be studied, as long as you clearly see which level the other party is at, his pursuit and behavior will not jump out of that level.
For example, a woman has been living on the material level, she asks for love and attention from the other party every day, but she wants to get a long-term stable relationship, and all the desires she lives on the material level are destined to be short-lived, but she wants to get a long-term and stable satisfaction relationship at the spiritual level, which is called not understanding human nature and violating human nature.
For another example, if you live on the spiritual level, you are facing a person who is only living on the material level, the other party is more demanding from you, and you want to establish a stable and long-term relationship with the other party, you can be backward compatible, as long as you continue to output your realm and mind. This is called understanding human nature and understanding human nature.
Problems at the material level can only be solved from the spiritual level; Problems at the spiritual level can only be solved by rising to the level of self-nature; Problems at the level of self-nature are solved by self-conquest, which is called dimensional thinking.
The so-called understanding of human nature and understanding human nature means that you have opened up three levels, and you will freely cross up and down the three levels in Hongchen Middle School; In the face of low-level people, it is compatible with backwards, resonates with people at the same level, and admires and learns from high-level people.
Masters never compete with others on the same level, either with their mind and energy to be compatible with you, or to resonate with you at the same frequency.