Yesterday's Jiang Wumo Excellent Circle Sharing Meeting, I broke 3 firsts, which made me see a different version of myself. The first time I did only an outline sharing, the first time I "disrupted" the rhythm of the moderator, and the first time I said a lot in the free discussion session. These 3 "firsts" made me see that I can accept that I am not good. 
Acceptance is not excellentGiving up verbatim scripts, I saw myself who dared to accept that I was not good. In the past, if I knew the topic of the conference in advance, I would prepare a verbatim draft, even if it might take 1 to 2 hours, so that I could perform better at the meeting. In fact, when I saw other friends talking, I was also envious. It wasn't until I found out that I needed to "refute" immediately when I encountered an emergency in the unit, and I was really short of words. Unexpectedly, I flipped to the WeChat group of Excellent Circle, and Mr. Jiang Wumo once gave me encouragement: "Your article is very well written. ”I instantly understood that it wasn't that I didn't have something in my head, it was that I lacked the ability to react in time, and that what I needed was more practice. So, this time, I deliberately only prepared an outline. Who knew that there was an emergency situation at the meeting, and on duty that day, a serious patient suddenly came, and I accelerated the treatment and immediately entered the meeting. Luckily, I got into the groove quickly and finished sharing. Although the pace of speech was a bit fast, it was finally done. Thinking back to why I dared not prepare a verbatim draft, it was not only the reality that forced me to do so, but more importantly, I was able to accept that I might not be doing well. Only by giving up the perception that you are not good enough can you grow.
Acceptance is hatedHaving the courage to "disrupt" the host's rhythm, I accepted what might have been a nuisance of myself. When I finished my work and entered the meeting, I heard the first friend sharing, and then the moderator asked the second partner to share, I was really anxious, because I was worried that the patient would have problems again. So, I couldn't care so much about it, and immediately interrupted the second guy when she just took the microphone and asked myself to share it first. After getting the consent of my friends and the host, I shared it freely. Now think about it, the reason why you dare to disrupt the rhythm of the meeting on such a serious occasionIt stems from the fact that I no longer worry that I might be hated. You know, in the past, I couldn't interrupt other people's meetings, let alone interrupt other people's meetings. So, I've always been the one who "can't grab the slot". In the past, even if others had finished speaking, when it was time for me to speak, I was hesitant to express myself and could not express myself fluently. I am afraid that I will talk too much and annoy the other party, or feel that I am delaying the other party's time. It turns out that it takes courage to accept that you are hated. And at this time, I did it. Dare to accept being hated is also a kind of self-confidence. 
The undertaking was deniedExpressing my feelings "with confidence", I saw myself who dared to accept that I might not be recognized. When sharing in the circle meeting, I expressed what was not expressed in the first round together with the content of the second round. I looked at the time, and it was exactly 7 minutes. After sharing, I was very happy. Because, in the previous sharing, especially in the second round of sharing, most of the time I expressed was 3 minutes, which was nearly half of the required 5 minutes!And this time, the time was just full. Even in the third round, the free discussion session, I listed 4 points for expression. You know, in the previous third round, it was difficult for me to remember the previous content, but now I can still say 4 points, and every point is not less. It turns out that I can also "talk eloquently". The key here is to let go of yourself, whether it's good or bad, show it. Because, only by showing it, can we see that the problem is in**. And the reason why I don't dare to express it is because I am afraid of being denied and it is difficult to accept myself who is not recognized. I finally figured out that I was not confident because I was afraid that I would not perform well. I always think that only by performing well can we have confidence.
In fact, to gain self-confidence, it is not how good you are, but to dare to admit that you are not good enough, dare to accept that you are not good enough, and dare to show that you are not good enough. Dare to accept yourself who is not good enough, dare to make mistakes, and dare to train yourself;Have the courage to be hated, dare to take the "first step", and discover the unknown self;Bear the consequences of being denied, only then can you know what to do right, and become a better version of yourself. In the process of accepting not being excellent, accepting being hated, and being denied, you can find your own points that are not shining enough, and only then can you solve them in a targeted manner and make things better. In a circle meeting, I saw my growth and self-confidence. Author丨Jiu'er.
Editor丨Jiang Wumo.