I heard that traveling after retirement is a happy way of life, so my wife and I decided to go to a small town in the south.
For me, retirement is a relief from the pressure of work, but it also means working with my wife to solve the chores of daily life.
The Mid-Autumn Festival is approaching, and my wife decided to hold a family banquet at home and invited some relatives and friends. One day, we met a kind old man during our trip, who recommended us a local specialty restaurant.
In this restaurant, we were impressed by the taste of their family, which was very different from that of our hometown, but also had a different flavor.
When my wife and I discussed the menu, our conflict became apparent.
At first, I jokingly proposed a request system, that is, half of the money for each person, but my wife agreed very seriously.
I was stupid because I wasn't ready to ask for it, I was just joking.
I endured it for a while, and finally I couldn't resist it. I said, "We are a family, what is there to worry about, you see that we go out to travel, and it has always been a common expense."
This frustrated me, but I didn't argue any further.
As the Mid-Autumn Festival approached, my wife and I were busy in the kitchen, preparing different kinds of dishes.
I cut vegetables and rolled noodles, and my wife stir-fried and cooked rice, and they worked together seamlessly.
On the day of the family dinner, relatives and friends thought that our husband and wife were harmonious and happy. But no one knew that the conflict between my wife and me had not been resolved at this family dinner.
This unexpected journey made me aware of the communication problems between husband and wife. The contradiction between us is not in the system itself, but in the fact that we have a senseless dispute over the trivial matter of sesame mung beans.
On this Mid-Autumn Festival, although our family feast was sumptuous, it did not completely eliminate the conflict between my wife and me.
In the month after the family dinner, my wife and I didn't actually communicate openly and honestly to solve the problem, but went about our own things.
I felt that this idea was also important, but I was a little disgusted because I had been managing our expenses before.
We had a disagreement on the issue, and she felt that I wasn't paying enough attention to my family finances, and I felt that she was interfering too much in my field.
This new contradiction made me feel confused and aggrieved, I felt that I had worked hard all my life, and I wanted to enjoy a peaceful life after retirement, but I did not expect that there would be another disagreement on the issue of family finances.
I wanted to be able to communicate openly with my wife, but I was worried about starting a bigger dispute. At the same time, I also realized that the issue between us is not only about the system and family finances, but also about the respect, trust and tolerance between husband and wife.
In the midst of this chaotic mood, I began to think back to the years we had walked together, those sweet moments and the difficulties we faced together, and I felt that this question should not be a stumbling block between us.
I didn't know how to start such a conversation with my wife, and I felt a little dazed and helpless. But I hope that through this new contradiction, we can understand each other better and know how to tolerate and understand.
So, even though we are at odds now, I am still hopeful for the future. I hope that we can find a mutually satisfactory solution to this problem, face each other more honestly, and make our lives more harmonious.
After our Mid-Autumn Festival dinner, my wife and I tried to communicate and try to fix the small conflicts between us.
However, a sudden incident once again triggered a conflict between us.
One day, the TV at home broke down, and I suggested finding a professional to fix it, but my wife thought she could fix it herself.
I thought it was risky to do it myself, but my wife thought it was a great learning opportunity. In our differences, the contradictions gradually escalated.
My wife's insistence on doing the repairs herself made me feel uneasy. I'm worried that she won't be able to fix it and even break the TV.
This time, I stood my mind and decided not to follow her wishes. This dispute was not resolved as smoothly as the previous system.
The conflict between us is gradually exacerbated by the failure of the TV at home. I felt that my wife was acting irrationally, and she felt that I did not trust her abilities.
This accident once again made me realize that the contradictions between us are not over. We need more time and effort to communicate, understand and be inclusive.
I hope we can find a solution to the problem and repair the relationship between us. As for the problem of television, perhaps it is not only the television that needs to be repaired, but also the relationship between us.
A long time ago, we parted ways when we walked through the woods, with a stream flowing deep in the forest and an empty path on the other.
While wandering around the mountains, I happened to meet an old local man who invited me to see a waterfall.
When I returned to the camp, my wife had already sorted out the wild vegetables she had collected, and when she saw me, she frowned, then smiled again and said, "Don't do this in the future, we will go our separate ways, I am a little scared."
I patted her lightly on the shoulder and said, "Got it, let's go together in the future." The wife nodded, indicating that she was still a little uncomfortable.
When we got home, our lives were the same as before, I was in charge of the garden and cooking, while my wife was in charge of the housework and helping me.
The contradictions between us have quietly bred and become an unspeakable topic. Every time we eat, we tacitly and no one mentions it after eating.
Until one day, a small incident happened in my sister's house, and my wife and I had different opinions on the matter, and the small matter in my sister's house caused a big quarrel between us.
My sister's child is sick, and my sister wants to ask an aunt to come over and help take care of it, but the cost is not small.
How can you do that, don't you think about our lives? My wife asked me angrily.
"I didn't lend her a lot of money, and it was our own business, and our family's lives weren't affected too much," I explained.
But our family's economy is not well-off in the first place, how can you make such a decision? "My wife obviously couldn't accept what I was doing.
Our quarrel escalated, and it seemed that the conflict between us was not alleviated by the unexpected experience between us, but only intensified by other trivial matters.
Many years have passed, and our family has never stopped having unexpected things.
During a family reunion during the Spring Festival, my wife and I had a new conflict over firewood, rice, oil and salt. At that time, I had just retired and did not know much about the trivial matters of life, so I asked my wife for some tips on how to do housework.
The wife said, "You're retired, don't you know even that?" "At that time, I was very wronged, I just wanted to communicate with her, but I was misunderstood by her as an incompetent person who couldn't do housework, which bothered me.
This time the conflict was not resolved immediately, and I chose to remain silent. But that's not a long-term solution for me.
During this unexpected journey, I found that the conflict between me and my wife seemed to never be resolved.
Although we tried to solve these problems, we always couldn't find a common solution in the quarrel.
At the same time, I noticed that my wife was starting to become a little distant from me. She seems to be leaning more towards making decisions on her own, rather than consulting with me as she used to.
In this atmosphere, I decided to sit down with my wife and have a good talk. I hope that we can honestly face each other's contradictions and solve potential problems.
I wonder if this conversation will be a new beginning for us? May everything develop in a better direction.