An Jie, born in a wealthy family, grew up in a privileged environment, when she married the poor and motivated Jiang Defu, people will naturally wonder what kind of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts she will face. However, she was not allowed to experience this ordeal in the TV series, because when she married Jiang Defu, her mother-in-law had already passed away. Jiang Defu only has one sister who was widowed after a month of marriage, this is her sister-in-law Jiang Dehua.
In the play, the relationship between sister-in-law Jiang Dehua and sister-in-law An Jie can be described as loving and killing each other. When they met for the first time, Jiang Defu tried his best to marry An Jie, so he was naturally very careful. But as An Jie became pregnant, had difficulty moving, and had to juggle work and housework, Jiang Defu wanted his sister Jiang Dehua to help take care of it. However, An Jie refused. Although she was a carefree little princess when she was in her mother's house and did not experience the baptism of a difficult life, the woman's intuition told her that this sister-in-law was not suitable to take care of her.
Seeing this, Jiang Defu took the opportunity to play the emotional card in front of An Jie, and even came to cut first and then play. In desperation, An Jie had no choice but to accept this arrangement. However, the first meeting between the sister-in-law was not harmonious, and the smell of gunpowder was in the air. Anjie doesn't like the unhygienic habits of rural people, such as chirping when eating. It was not easy for her to get Jiang Defu to get rid of these habits, and now there is another sister-in-law Jiang Dehua who is also chirping. What's worse is that this sister-in-law is naturally sensitive, and as long as An Jie reacts slightly, she will think that it is aimed at herself.
In the play, there is a classic scene that shows the contradiction between the two sisters-in-law. The sister-in-law Jiang Dehua was dissatisfied with her sister-in-law An Jie's attitude, so she scolded her back to her parents' house in a fit of anger. An Jie, who has always done whatever he wants in front of Jiang Defu, said to him in private: "I'm afraid of your sister. And the sister-in-law Jiang Dehua said to the neighbor: "I'm afraid of this sister-in-law." Fear of each other did not stop them from loving and killing each other in life.
It can be said that An Jie's blessing is indeed envious of others, but her blessing is also inseparable from the mutual run-in and bickering with her sister-in-law Jiang Dehua. It is this love-and-kill relationship that makes people truly understand the true meaning of marriage. After work, Jiang Defu was always intercepted by his sister to complain, and when he got home, he was dragged into the bedroom by his wife to complain, and every day he was like a lawsuit for his relatives, which made him feel very irritable. But he always treats it fairly, and no matter who is wrong, he will point it out directly. The friction in the family is escalating day by day, and the conflict between the sister-in-law is intensifying. Jiang Dehua chose to confide in Xiu'e, the neighbor Lao Ding's family, the two were both born in the countryside and had little culture, so they naturally formed an alliance. Xiu'e gave her ideas from time to time and watched their sister-in-law fight.
However, an unexpected incident caused the conflict between the sister-in-law to completely explode. It turned out that Jiang Defu had missed the opportunity to be promoted because of marrying An Jie, and he hid this secret so much that even An Jie didn't know. And Lao Ding inadvertently revealed it to Xiu'e, and was learned by Jiang Dehua. Jiang Dehua felt very angry and felt that her brother had sacrificed too much for her sister-in-law. In a fierce sister-in-law quarrel, Jiang Dehua finally broke out, and An Jie was not to be outdone, asking her sister-in-law to get out of her house. However, Jiang Dehua is not an ordinary person, she retorted domineeringly, which shocked An Jie and returned to her parents' house. This plot shows the distinct personalities of An Jie and Jiang Dehua, which makes people sigh. Although An Jie is not used to some of the "bad problems" of Jiang Defu's brothers and sisters, she appreciates the simplicity of rural people in them.
Compared with her own brother and brother-in-law's urban man style, An Jie prefers the natural and simple atmosphere of the Jiang Defu brothers and sisters. As Sun Shaoping said in a letter to his sister Lanxiang in "Ordinary World": "We were born in a poor peasant family, and we should never despise our origins. The benefits it brings to us will last a lifetime. The Jiang Defu brothers and sisters did not hide their origins in front of An Jie, but showed more good qualities.
Once, An Jie had an argument with his sister-in-law, and Jiang Defu lived in the original dormitory in a fit of anger, leaving only two women at home. At that time, An Jie was about to give birth to her second child, and there were still two weeks before the due date. However, due to a quarrel with his sister-in-law during the day, the child came to this world ahead of schedule. That night, An Jie's amniotic water broke, and she had to call her sister-in-law for help. Jiang Dehua, who was panicked, hurried to call Xiu'e on the other side. The men from both families were not at home, and it was too late to take them to the hospital. With her experience of giving birth to three children, Xiu'e successfully helped An Jie deliver the baby.
This premature birth made Jiang Dehua restrain a lot, and she thought that her sister-in-law's premature birth was caused by herself. Since then, An Jie's opinion of her sister-in-law has completely changed. Although she did not clearly express her thoughts, it can be seen from her words and actions that she began to look like a sister-in-law, no longer-for-tat with her sister-in-law, and no longer always spoke ill of her sister-in-law in front of her husband. Although they still quarrel sometimes, the current bickering is more like a joke between sisters and sisters, and they just forget it. It can be said that the sister-in-law played a big role in An Jie's change of character. An Jie, a pampered eldest lady, still maintains her elegance and pride after marrying Jiang Defu. However, it was Jiang Defu's brother and sister who slowly influenced her unconsciously. On that cold night, An Jie was born prematurely, and this experience became the key to the transformation of her relationship with Jiang Dehua. Faced with the family's predicament, An Jie chose to advance and retreat with her husband and took her two sons to the island. There, she became pregnant again. When Jiang Defu offered to let his sister help, An Jie did not refuse.
So, Jiang Dehua stepped into their lives and stayed for many years. When Anjie's five children were growing up, her sister-in-law Jiang Dehua was their indispensable companion. Although they are both stubborn personalities, over time, the two gradually develop a deep affection. However, it wasn't until an incident happened at home that this family relationship was sublimated.
When Jiang Defu found good jobs for An Jie's niece and niece, Jiang Dehua felt extremely unbalanced inside. She decided to take action and let her children write back to the village to inform her brother of the situation. Soon, the second aunt appeared with her son and granddaughter and asked Jiang Defu to arrange a job for her granddaughter. He fulfilled their request, but it brought new problems.
The second aunt who returned to the village trumpeted Jiang Defu's influence, attracting many people who had nothing to do with An Jie's family. For a while, An Jie's home became chaotic. Despite this, An Jie did not blame her sister-in-law Jiang Dehua. She remains optimistic and manages the chain of issues. From this incident, we can see that An Jie really regards Jiang Dehua as a relative. Recalling that at the beginning, she complained about Jiang Defu, but now in the face of chaos at home, she has no blame for her sister-in-law. On the contrary, when Jiang Dehua was ridiculed by the villagers, he gave warm support and encouragement. In that special era, Jiang Dehua, as an unmarried sister-in-law, lived with her sister-in-law An Jie. One day, someone from his hometown lay down on his sister-in-law's bed at will, and Jiang Dehua couldn't look past it and made accusations. But the man was arrogant and replied contemptuously: "You are a widow, but you are only helping, how old are you?" In the face of such a provocation, An Jie did not hesitate to stand up and firmly defend the dignity of her sister-in-law: "She is a member of our family, our aunt and grandmother, and she has the final say here." ”
This incident undoubtedly highlights two important points:
First of all, under the influence of her sister-in-law, Jiang Dehua began to pay attention to hygiene habits, and she is no longer the informal girl she was when she first arrived. The subtlety of her sister-in-law made her disgusted with people who did not pay attention to hygiene.
Secondly, Jiang Dehua began to really care for and protect her sister-in-law. When she saw someone else lying on her sister-in-law's bed in clothes, she was displeased and bluntly expressed her awe of her sister-in-law. This shows that she already regards her sister-in-law as a relative in her heart.
And Anjie's approach is even more admirable. She didn't have a grudge against her sister-in-law because of the previous contradictions, and she didn't sue in front of her husband. On the contrary, she sincerely defended the rights and interests of her sister-in-law, and did not hesitate to stand by her sister-in-law's side, showing her deep brotherhood. Even if the sister-in-law caused a series of turmoil because of the imbalance in her heart, she never complained, which proved her sincerity.
As for Lao Ding, although he had a good impression of Jiang Dehua, he did not accept her due to differences in culture and marriage experience. He once envied Jiang Defu for marrying the knowledgeable An Jie, so he failed to make his own choice in his first marriage. This time, he had the opportunity to choose a partner, and naturally he was reluctant to accept the illiterate Jiang Dehua.
However, after some twists and turns, Lao Ding realized that Jiang Dehua was commensurate with him in other aspects except for his lack of cultural literacy. He felt that Jiang Dehua had him in his heart, and this was exactly what he was pursuing. In the end, he decided to choose Jiang Dehua as his partner. As a sister-in-law, An Jie's attitude towards her sister-in-law Jiang Dehua has changed a lot. Initially, when Lao Ding disagreed with Jiang Dehua, An Jie angrily scolded Lao Ding for his sister-in-law, showing a real sister-in-law's demeanor. Although Jiang Dehua once complained about squeezing her, An Jie had learned to laugh it off, and the change of mentality made her treat her sister-in-law as a relative. When Lao Ding finally chose Jiang Dehua, An Jie privately comforted and did Lao Ding's work, which was also the last sublimation of the relationship between his aunt and sister-in-law. Although the two have quarrels from time to time, this kind of quarrel is a family-like concern and hatred, and there is no longer the original saber-rattling with the strong smell of gunpowder.
An Jie's blessed sister-in-law contributed the most. First of all, without a sister-in-law, An Jie may encounter accidents when she gives birth to her second child. If there is no sister-in-law to call someone on the other side, it may be too late to send to the hospital. Secondly, An Jie's five children were all raised by her sister-in-law. At that time, it was not common to hire a nanny, especially for people like Jiang Defu who came from rural backgrounds and were not used to exploiting people. An Jie also tried to ask his grandmother for help, but Jiang Defu disagreed. It is unlikely that such a principled person would agree to hire a babysitter. Therefore, An Jie's five children have a lot to do with her sister-in-law's efforts. Assuming that they hired a nanny at that time, in that sport, Anjie might be deducted all kinds of hats just for hiring a nanny.
Her clothes and shoes were forced to be reduced, and in the end, it was Jiang Defu who stepped in to protect her, and she was spared from being affected by that political movement. Without her sister-in-law to help take care of the family, An Jie may not be able to go to school to teach easily, and she will not be able to withdraw at all. Considering An Jie's personality, if she becomes a housewife completely, revolving around her children and husband every day and dealing with endless household chores, she will lose her leisure and leisure, and she will no longer be the woman who enjoys life, loves coffee, and pursues spiritual satisfaction. The flowers she planted in her yard may also disappear, and all this change is huge for An Jie.
If An Jie really becomes a housewife, she may become complaining, constantly complaining to her husband about her efforts and sacrifices. A resentful woman who complains a lot can't communicate well with her children. In the midst of a long period of regret and complaining, she may gradually lose herself. Unlike An Jie's sister An Xin, An Xin's personality is more tolerant and can comfort her husband in a difficult environment. And Anjie may not be able to do this, and if she is in such an environment all the time, she may face a breakdown.
It can be said that without the help of her sister-in-law over the years, An Jie may not be the positive and optimistic she she is today. This story may also be completely rewritten. Through the interaction between An Jie and her sister-in-law, we can see that it is difficult for a woman to get rid of the influence of her husband's original family after marriage. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and sister-in-law is a challenge that every woman must face. An Jie was initially dissatisfied with her sister-in-law, but as time went on, their relationship gradually became harmonious, and finally reached the point where they were like sisters. The process is quite difficult for both of them.
When people reach old age, they finally realize that no matter how many conflicts and frictions there were in the past, they will never be able to get rid of the blood ties with this family. In this case, it may be better to accept and seek reconciliation sooner. In this process, Jiang Defu's role as a husband is particularly important. He needs to manage these complex relationships properly and help his wife and sister-in-law build good communication and trust. It is only through joint efforts and understanding that they can find a way to live together in harmony and create a warmer and happier family environment. As a man, learning to balance the relationship between his wife and loved ones is an important practice.
In the face of such conflicts, it is necessary to remain calm and rational, and to adopt effective methods to resolve the conflicts. First of all, we must be clear about our position and principles, not take sides, and try to be just and fair. Second, strengthen communication with your wife and loved ones to understand their thoughts and feelings and seek common solutions. At the same time, we should also respect each other's privacy and independence, and do not interfere too much in each other's lives. Finally, maintain patience and perseverance, constantly strive to improve your own handling methods, and make a positive contribution to the harmony and happiness of the family.