Chinese New YearIn the future, I have been struggling with whether to go back to my parents' home, after all, I haven't been back once in a few years. Last night, my husband said to me, "My parents are already in their seventies, you should go back and see and let go."Heart knots。So, I left early in the morning to go back to my mother's house. When I arrived, I was greeted by my parents with joy, my mother hurriedly set out a sumptuous home-cooked meal, and my father happily hugged his son. As I sat down to eat, my parents chatted with me while serving food and asked me to invite the other sisters and children together. However, I refused to let my second child come, which made my parents embarrassed. Behind the words of our parents, there is an insurmountable gap between our sisters.
However, after returning to my parents' home, I unexpectedly received the warmth and love of my family. The home was filled with a festive atmosphere, and the scene of the sisters' reunion made people feel warm and touching. Although laughter and laughter are intertwined, the inner contradictions are still difficult to resolve. In the face of my family's expectations and worries, the entanglement in my heart became more and more deepChinese New YearThe joy of the reunion was beenHeart knotsmasked.
As an older sister, the conflict between me and my second child stemmed from a loan dispute many years ago. The second child, who had borrowed money many times, not only refused to pay it back, but even turned a blind eye when I needed it urgently. In the face of her defensiveness and coldness, I have long left a crack in my heart. Especially when I mentioned the debt problem in front of my parents, I was reprimanded by my father and acquiesced by my mother, which made me even more unable to let go.
Expand: Eight years ago, that debt dispute over money seemed to have become a scar in my heart that can never be erased. Every time I think of the debts that my second child has always refused to repay, the guilt and resentment in my heart are intertwined, which has a profound impact on my understanding and cognition of family relationships. Reminiscing about the past, I can't help but ponder whose persistence is more precious, and how to face and deal with the relationship in the family.
The expectations of my parents and the disputes between my sisters are hard for me to let go. In the face of the contradictions and disputes of the past, I once again felt powerless and helpless. I have always struggled to find a balance between the warmth and coldness of my family.
Expanding: When I returned home, all kinds of strife and contradictions seemed to surround me, and I felt breathless. The joy of reunion was mixed with memories of the past, and I seemed to be stuck in struggle and entanglement again. Perhaps, only by breaking the shackles in my heart can I truly let go and welcome the reunion and harmony in the future.
Between conflict and reconciliation, I chose to refuse my second child's visit. Although my parents were looking forward to the reunion of my sisters, I was unable to speak to the ups and downs and contradictions in my heart. Perhaps, the dusty past has always influenced my views and attitudes towards my family.
Expanding: In the decision to refuse the second child's visit, I seem to have found a trace of persistence and courage. Although my heart is full of contradictions and helplessness, I still stick to my bottom line and principles. Perhaps, only by sticking to my original intention can I get out of the haze, open my heart, and welcome the reunion and harmony in the future. May the contradictions and differences between family members be resolved, leaving behind a deeper understanding and cherishment.
Summary: Through this experience of returning to my parents' home, I deeply realized the contradictions and reconciliation in family relationships. Despite being connected by blood, different positions and ways of thinking can still cause friction and scars. Only by finding resonance in persistence and understanding can we truly realize the meaning of family reunion. Perhaps, let go of the entanglement of the past, we can have a more sincereEmotionand a warm reunion. In the days to come, may we understand each other and move forward together with a more tolerant and inclusive attitude.