Although "Tang Ci Fu" has the profound philosophy of "plum blossoms can smell so fragrant without passing through the cold to the bones", its meaning is as wide as that of cold plums. The flowers that are proud of the frost and snow become beautiful and bloom with a refreshing fragrance after experiencing the severe cold of winter.
Life is like sailing in a sea of suffering. You have to go through many twists and turns and disasters to reach the other side of happiness. In this journey, every challenge is a refinement and sublimation of life.
A further explanation is that a person's performance level tends to be closely related to their ability to tolerate pain.
Those experiences that make us feel more difficult and difficult are actually the trials and baptisms of life for us.
If we can persevere and overcome difficulties, we will eventually break out of the cocoon and become excellent people.
On the contrary, if you can't survive, you're bound to be eliminated.
In other words, every pain is a way to achieve a better version of ourselves, a transition period in our lives.
Hurt feelings make you more open-minded.
There is such a sentence in the "Historical Records": "If it is broken again, it will be chaotic." This term is especially appropriate in the emotional world. When you're deeply emotionally entangled, you can only find peace and tranquility for the rest of your life by making decisions.
Li Qingzhao, a talented woman in the Song Dynasty, chose to remarry Zhang Ruzhou after experiencing many twists and turns in her life, and initially showed deep love for Zhang Ruzhou. However, soon after marriage, Li Qingzhao discovered that Zhang Ruzhou did not covet his own people, but his own property.
When Zhang Ruzhou realized that she did not have the legendary wealth, he began to insult her, punch and kick her, and mercilessly abuse her.
Li Qingzhao, who was nearly 50 years old, did not choose to endure the humiliation and decided to save himself by divorce. But according to the law of the Song Dynasty at the time, if a woman initiated a divorce, she would be sentenced to two years in prison, regardless of the reason.
She would rather endure a short prison life than the painful confinement of her marriage. By chance, Li Qingzhao collected conclusive evidence of Zhang Ruzhou's bribery, so he resolutely sentenced him to prison and insisted on dissolving the marriage contract. Eventually, with the help of an old friend, Li Qingzhao was released after only nine days in prison.
After getting out of the hesitation of marriage, Li Qingzhao devoted himself to writing words, attending friends gatherings, and even attending royal family activities, showing an inclusive and free attitude to life......
As Nietzsche said, "Whatever does not destroy you will make you stronger." This view is clearly confirmed in many emotional stories.
For example, in the movie "Thirty-three Days of Love", Huang Xiaoxian not only recognized his paranoia in the pain and anger of falling out of love, but also discovered the honest colleagues and friendly bosses around him, and unexpectedly discovered a new love. 。
For another example, in the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun began to live independently in the sadness and helplessness after the divorce, and finally gained independence and tenacity in the second half of his life.
Emotions are definitely the touchstone for sharpening people's minds, and those who can withstand the ups and downs of emotions tend to become more resilient and stronger after experiencing the baptism of emotions.
While some are mired in the fog of heartbreak, others choose to persevere, wipe away their tears, explore with bright eyes, and finally find their precious destiny.
Some people have no choice but to bow their heads in the tribulation of marriage, but some people are like sunflowers, persevering in the ordeal and blooming a brilliant life.
In the vastness of the emotional universe, we need to assert ourselves and not lose our way.
Possession is definitely a gift in life, and loss is not destined to be a sign of misfortune.
Always remember, whenever and wherever you are. When the god of fate quietly closes the door, we must learn to open a window for ourselves and promise ourselves a rich and peaceful life.
The experience of humiliation makes one stronger.
Wang Yangming once profoundly explained: "It is great wisdom to be able to tolerate things that others cannot tolerate, to be able to tolerate things that others cannot tolerate, and to remain calm when others cannot tolerate them. ”
"Patience" is actually a kind of sublimation, beyond the spiritual realm.
The degree to which a person endures humiliation often indicates the height of his or her future achievements. Take Fan Shu during the Warring States period as an example, he had great ambitions and outstanding intelligence.
Unfortunately, he was framed by China for having ties to the Qi state. The troubled prime minister ordered torture without substantiation, and in the end, Huang Zhu lost a tooth and broke a rib, leaving him in agony.
However, in the face of life and death, Huang Zhu chose to fake his death in order to survive, and successfully deceived the prime minister from the initial cry to silence. He was treated as a "corpse", wrapped in a bamboo mat, left in a toilet, and humiliated by bathing in the urine of the crowd.
After the crowd dispersed, Huang Zhu struggled to crawl out of the bathroom, although covered in bruises, but determined. Fortunately, with the help of sympathetic guards and well-wishers, he escaped to the state of Qin.
In the state of Qin, Fan Ju won the trust and attention of the king of Qin through his well-thought-out strategy of "making friends from afar, attacking secrets, withdrawing troops, and strengthening the country". He began an illustrious 16-year career as Prime Minister.
There is a sentence in "The Theory of Miserliness": "Shame is almost brave". To endure temporary humiliation is in exchange for infinite splendor in the future. It is touching that many people in history have endured humiliation.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Wang Jian of Yuewu was captured, humiliated, and lost his national prestige. However, after three years of suffering and ten years of hard work, he finally washed away the humiliation, destroyed the state of Wu, and became the hegemon.
Although Sima Qian of the former Han Dynasty suffered the extreme pain and humiliation of "castration", he persevered and continued to write for 14 years, and finally created "Li Mu without Rhyme", which is known as the "swan song of historians". Historical.
Tsang explained profoundly: "The great growth and progress in my life has come from moments of setbacks and humiliation. "True gold in the fire is unyielding perseverance, perseverance that cultivates patience and unwavering perseverance.
When we encounter calculation, suffering arises. Inevitably, this is an opportunity to hone your wisdom and gain insight. Learn the survival philosophy of "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages" and learn how to protect yourself from harm.
He awakened the power of loneliness and helplessness in the heart when he was neglected, and taught people that "the philosophy of life is to learn to seek others instead of themselves, to move forward independently, and to strive for self-improvement." This will help you understand what this is all about.
Steel is not a day's cold, if a person can move forward in the furnace of humiliation, endure all kinds of trials and tribulations, will definitely be able to forge a very strong and solid self.
The bumpy experience gives you confidence.
Liu Yuxi once used the sentence "the sun rises from the east, the rain falls from the west, and the road seems to be ruthless, but there is emotion" to vividly describe the vagaries of the world and the subtle interweaving of emotions. 'Everything in the world is full of joy and sorrow, and it is unpredictable.
The tribulations of the world are like carefully carved gifts, wrapped in the ups and downs of life, and finally create a rich and unique chapter of life.
Despite the ups and downs in his career and setbacks, the talented Tang Dynasty Li Bai transformed his turbulent life and inner emotions into grand and passionate poems.
When Li Bai was young, he was given a cold reception by the scholar Li Yong, and when he was in his twenties, he wrote down the ambition of "the mountain rises by the wind and soars to 90,000 miles".
As he entered his thirties and his political career came to a standstill, he inspired himself with poetry, saying, "I was born with a useful gift. I'll come back when I run out of money. He expressed his persistence and persistence. Fortitude. Instructions. Spirit.
At the age of 42, he was finally summoned by the emperor, and in the midst of ecstasy, he expressed his feelings in song: "Look up at the sky, laugh, and go away, how can I be from Penglai?" Feel confident and proud to know that you are proud of others.
Then, full of anger and with an indomitable spirit, he left Chang'an. So there is an inspirational saying that "sometimes crossing the sea, the wind breaks the waves, and the sail hangs down". Ocean. ”
In his fifties, Li Bai was summoned to the Eiwang shogunate. With respect for Xie An, whom he admired, he wrote a poem to express his feelings. "But I want to use Dongshan to thank An Shi, laugh for you, and 'calm the wind and sand'", which shows his ambition to serve the country.
Now in his 60s, after being exiled and pardoned, he returned to his hometown and happily wrote: "The monkeys on both sides of the strait could not stop crying, and the ship had crossed the Wanzhong Mountain. "Broad-mindedness and detachment after experiencing adversity in life.
Zengguang Xianwen "cloud: "Intentionally plant flowers, flowers do not bloom, no willow heart, then shade." Li Bai was dissatisfied with being an official, so he wrote poems. .I use it as: He has translated his life into works that will be passed down from generation to generation, and his name will shine in history through the ages.
Life is like reincarnation. When you collide with countless difficulties, maybe you can grasp the hidden business opportunities like a ray of light and put your life on a new track.
Or it could be something that you monotonously repeat day after day. A sudden inspiration is enough to make a qualitative leap in any area of life.
Fate, its mysteries are deep and fascinating.
The so-called strong are not born like this. They forge themselves in the crucible of pain, hold on to their beliefs, and never give up.
The lucky ones we admire are actually those who face difficulties with a smile, endure silently, and finally be able to see the beautiful rainbow firmly after the storm.
In the vast heavens and the earth, there is no mountain higher than the will of man, and there is no road longer than the steps under man's feet.
The road is long and challenging, but as long as you keep going, at the end of the trek, you will be rewarded with a unique and unique view: "a view of the dangerous peaks".
There is a profound wisdom in Buddhism that once said, "All living beings are suffering, and we have no choice but to overcome them on our own." "Wind and rain are part of nature in life's long journey, but they have the power to make it all possible. Conquer yourself and save yourself. This is the highest state of self-disciplined life.
Even in the face of emotional trauma, the process of self-** can make you suddenly have an epiphany. Surviving humiliating moments will train your will to be stronger, overcome the bumps in the road, and change your path. You will be stronger, more determined, and your beliefs will be stronger.
Firmly believe that luck may come later, but it will never be absent from the stage of your life.
Every painful experience becomes a stepping stone for the rest of your life to climb to the top, to reach the unique.
2. The irreplaceable self helps you achieve true self-redemption and transcendence.