Someone kindly and solemnly explained. "The family feast is definitely the highest level of civilization. ”
The feelings of the Chinese people for the motherland are deeply engraved in their bones and blood.
When someone sincerely invites you to their home, it is definitely a sign of sincere recognition and respect for you. We hope that you can feel our sincere friendship through the warmth of our home.
In the face of such a warm invitation, we naturally cannot return empty-handed, let alone respond to the enthusiasm of the host and take it lightly. Etiquette is like a river of flowing water, and it is essential.
Be careful when choosing a gift, though, because while gifts can convey emotions and blessings, they can also create feelings of embarrassment and alienation.
Some items bring affection and respect, while others inadvertently cause trouble and distance.
No matter how intimate the relationship is, if you are invited to someone else's house as a guest, avoid bringing in the following three types, especially the second type, so as not to spoil goodwill and harm harmony.
Don't worry about disturbing others' moods.
I often hear the saying, "When you are with friends, talking and laughing, the worries and worries of life will be blown away by the wind and disappear without a trace." "In real life, some people inadvertently deviate from the original purpose of the party and see it as an opportunity to vent their resentment.
As a result, unfortunately, a sincere invitation from another person can turn into a "whining session" full of negative energy, and the otherwise relaxed and pleasant atmosphere can become oppressive and boring.
On New Year's Day, my friend Li Xi lamented that we hadn't seen each other for a long time, and warmly invited a few friends to his house to share the happy time. On this day, my three friends and I arrived early and had a great time, laughing and helping to cook delicious food, while sharing stories of daily life, interesting stories about fishing, and silly things in daily life.
Another friend, Song Hao, was a little late for some reason and rushed over before dinner time. We joked, "Song Hao, are you just buying groceries to join in the fun?" Song Hao took a deep breath and said, "Don't mention it, something bad happened early in the morning." ”
What's next? At this time, Ms. Song Hao began to tell about her experience of having her car scratched in the community, and then mentioned the dispute with her husband.
At first, he also comforted her with delicious food, but Song Hao's dissatisfaction became stronger and stronger, like the water that burst the embankment, and began to pour out all the unhappiness accumulated on weekdays.
The atmosphere of the party was originally cheerful and friendly, but gradually became solemn and melancholy. I saw that Li Xijun's face was a little uncomfortable, so I raised my glass and said: "Let's put aside these troubles for the time being, and raise a glass to welcome the hopeful 2024!" ”
However, Mr. Song replied, "It's not the same as before, what do you welcome?"
This sentence completely ignited Li Xi's anger, and she said frankly to Song Hao: "If you came to my house just for **, then 'Gong Shui', then you can go home now." ”
The dissatisfaction in Song Hao's heart grew rapidly, and he scolded Li Xi sadly and angrily. "I thought you were my best friend, so I decided to pour out my heart. ”
The rest of the people found that the atmosphere suddenly became tense, and in order to resolve the situation, they had to act quickly and cooperate with the persuasion of the excited Song Hao to leave the scene. In desperation, the party had to end in a hurry and could not end successfully.
There is a saying that is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. "No one is obligated to bear your emotional burden. No one lives by reciprocating your pain. ”
Communicating with one's own troubles and pains is actually ignoring the emotional experiences of others, which is an unconscious act of selfishness.
In addition, when invited to someone's home, the opportunity to meet is especially valuable. We need to share more joy, talk less about sadness, and let beauty be the main theme.
There are all kinds of joys and sorrows in the world. For those who have never experienced it, your difficulties and worries may be difficult to comprehend. Speaking may disturb the peace of mind of others, but if you remain silent, these issues will eventually fade from your memory over time.
Everyone wants their lives to be full of positive energy. Let's forget about the little troubles in daily life, focus on it, and enjoy this rare good time together!
After all, in the world, no one has the troubles of life. That pure joy is exactly what we lack.
Don't live arrogantly, and don't be critical of others.
A long time ago, I noticed a personal experience shared by a netizen, which is very meaningful.
One day, the netizen and his colleague went out on a business trip, passing by his residence on the way, and he warmly invited them to his house for a simple home-cooked meal. As soon as I entered the house, my colleague asked, "Isn't there heating in your house?" It felt colder than outside. ”
Netizens calmly replied that the purpose of not heating is to save money and repay the mortgage. The house is fully equipped, and the wife smiled and said, "The cold days will only last for a little more than a month, and if you can bear it, it's over." ”
However, my colleague didn't give up on that. "If it were me, I would definitely not be able to stand the cold. Every autumn when the weather gets cooler, I start turning on the heating 24 hours a day. ”
The netizen subtly shifted the subject, trying to sit down to a dinner party to which he invited his colleagues, explaining that his family did not know him. I'm going to pick up my colleagues home, so I'm just cooking some simple home-cooked meals. Colleagues replied politely without hesitation: "Eat whatever you like, I usually eat too much fish, but these home-cooked meals taste better." ”
At the dinner table, colleagues talked a lot. My parents have been in business for many years, the family is wealthy, and I have lived a comfortable life since I was a child, often traveling around the world. The sense of superiority expressed by this sentence made the netizen couple from the countryside feel embarrassed and wanted to end this slightly depressing dinner as soon as possible.
Showing superiority in someone else's warm home is a foolish act that is sure to harm others and oneself. Other people's homes are not a stage to show off their wealth and status, nor is it a place where they can trample on the dignity of others at will.
Your arrogance and rudeness will not only fail your host's hospitality, but also expose your own ignorance.
In the popular program "Exciting Offer", Ren Lu, a famous education lawyer, is not only from a famous family at Peking University, but also a partner in a top law firm in China, with a considerable income. 。
However, Leng Lu did not show the slightest sense of superiority because of this, and his life field also transcended the worldly label. At the end of the internship period, in order to express his deep gratitude to Ren Lu, intern Fan Kai invited him to the dormitory for a family dinner.
When Leng Lu arrived at the dormitory, she saw Fang Kai busy in the kitchen. Ren Lu did not hesitate at all, immediately rolled up his sleeves and joined in, picking and washing vegetables together, and doing it himself.
At the dinner table, everyone admired Mr. Huang Kai's craftsmanship and paid attention to each other's lives, and the atmosphere was harmonious.
In real life, there is often such a situation: the more shallow and ignorant people are, the more eager they are to show off, and the more profound people are, the more they know how to be humble, modest, and modest. Be humble with others.
Everyone has different circumstances and family backgrounds. No matter how good our environment is, we don't have the right to dictate the lifestyle of others.
You know, many people have put in years of hard work and gone through countless difficult roads to achieve what they are today.
We may never fully understand their spiritual journey, but we must at least learn to respect everyone's choices. Because in the world of emotions, everyone is equal, and there is no distinction between high and low.
Don't peek into other people's privacy out of curiosity.
Have you ever been invited to someone's home and wanted to see the full picture?
This curiosity is in human nature. However, home is everyone's private domain. The more curious you are, the more you need to control your impulses and respect other people's private space.
Blogger Huang Xiaoyu has personally experienced this kind of family conflict caused by excessive curiosity. My cousin and aunt want to go to Qingdao**, and temporarily stay with Mr. Huang Xiaoyu for a few days, but because of family affection, Mr. Huang Xiaoyu is also willing to agree.
However, as soon as the cousin and aunt entered the house, they looked around without hesitation, entered the bedroom without asking, and sat on Fan Xiaoyu's bed, ignoring the master's displeasure at all.
The next day, the sample clothes sent to Huang Xiaoyu by the customer arrived, and the aunt tried them on without authorization and soiled the clothes. At the same time, the cousin also opened the wardrobe himself, selected Huang Xiaoyu's clothes and accessories, and tried them on. In order to prevent similar things from happening again, Huang Xiaoyu specially accompanied them to buy new clothes.
Unfortunately, this move did not change the attitude of the cousin and aunt. They were also scrutinizing Fan Xiaoyu's belongings. One day, Fan Xiaoyu came home from work and found that the house was in chaos again.
Faced with such a situation, Fan Xiaoyu finally couldn't bear it anymore and said firmly to his cousin and aunt: "You can leave now, I don't want to see you again." ”
However, until they were asked to leave, the cousin and aunt refused, believing that Fan Xiaoyu was too sensitive and did not realize that he had crossed the line.
Excessive curiosity is often a double-edged sword and a potential threat to ruining relationships. It is very inappropriate to enter without permission, especially if it is an intrusion into the private sphere of another person, i.e. a family member.
There is a line in the movie "Breakfast at Tiffany's" that is deeply rooted in people's hearts. "If we choose to be friends, we should come to an agreement at this time, respect each other, and don't go to each other's petty problems. "Living someone else's life without permission. This phrase aptly describes the full respect for the privacy of others.
The essence of curiosity is to explore the unknown, not to inquire into other people's private lives.
Deep down in everyone's heart, there is a forbidden area that no one wants to touch. No matter how close or far away, we must abide by this invisible boundary and cannot violate it.
Residences are not public places, let alone tourist attractions. Following basic social norms, behaving appropriately, asking fewer questions, and observing more are at the heart of being a guest.
When you are invited to someone's home, you need to suppress your curiosity in time and carefully maintain the host's private space. Only in this way can estrangement be avoided and a harmonious atmosphere can be created.
The most important thing in interpersonal interactions is to recognize the boundaries correctly.
Whether you're invited to someone's home or interacting in a social setting, you should avoid overindulging your behavior. Only by knowing how to control oneself can you embody cultivation.
Keeping a smile on your face and not talking too much about your worries is conducive to maintaining a harmonious communication atmosphere; Suppressing one's arrogance and being humble with others can effectively bring the emotional distance closer. Suppressing excessive curiosity is a sign of respect and respect for others. the privacy of others; Protect the area.
These seemingly insignificant details of behavior are actually the care and respect you convey to the other person, as well as silent evidence of your personal character.
Cherish those who are willing to open their doors to welcome you. They are full of warm power, like a shiny treasure left behind after years of washing.