The role of the psyche is unstoppable and sometimes produces a force greater than the real environment.
For cheating men, wives understand the psychological characteristics of cheating men, which is more conducive to wives understanding this man, whether it is the reason for cheating or the way to solve cheating.
Men who are prone to cheating have these four psychological characteristics, and wives need to understand them clearly.
The first psychological trait: always dissatisfied with the status quo.
If you ask why a cheating man chooses to cheat?
Most cheating men will begin to complain about their marriage, accusing their wives of all kinds of badness, summing up the reasons why cheating men say, in fact, Oh Du can be attributed to one point, that is, dissatisfaction with the status quo.
He was not satisfied with his wife's performance in the marriage, and was not satisfied with what the marriage could bring him.
So cheating on the mistress he felt could give him something extra, and developing his extramarital affair to meet more of his needs.
Is it wrong for a man to cheat for the sake of demand?
If it is said that the needs of cheating men must be satisfied, and the cheating man communicates with his wife many times, but the wife refuses to meet it, then it is understandable for a man to cheat, but there are almost no such men, and most men's needs are excessive.
It's just that there are not so many problems in marriage, and it's not that the problems can't be solved.
Even marriage is considered happy in the eyes of others, but cheating men are just not satisfied, and they just want to find excuses to cheat.
This kind of cheating man who is dissatisfied with the status quo, they will also show it in their usual life, their dissatisfaction, not only for marriage, but also for many things, so they will always complain, very cynical, wives should be more vigilant before he cheats.
The second psychological trait: an extreme lack of self-control.
There were fans before, and Lan Fang reacted to her husband's problem, at that time her husband had not cheated, and the two had just been married for less than a year.
But after getting married, her husband had a lot of problems.
For example, if a friend is slightly seduced, the cheating man will do some bad things, play cards all night, eat, drink and have fun, etc., and the wife has disciplined him many times, and the cheating man also knows that this is not good, it will affect the marriage, but he can't control himself.
Even if he refuses once or twice, and his friends keep lobbying, the cheating man will still choose to make mistakes.
What Lan Fang said to this original partner at the time was that this man's problem was not that he was instigated by his friends to eat, drink and have fun.
It's that he doesn't have enough self-control, or even a great lack of self-control.
This kind of man not only makes small mistakes, as long as he has **, he will also make big mistakes, but fans don't take it seriously, they think that men just like to eat, drink and have fun, their essence is not bad, and they will not make big mistakes.
As a result, half a year later, this fan came back and said that the problem was that the man cheated.
and was instigated by the mistress to divorce, and his wife didn't know what to do.
So the real problem with this man is that he doesn't have enough self-control, any problem may arise, and cheating is just one of them.
The third psychological trait: selfishness and unknowing
Many men are really selfish and only think about themselves in what they do.
But they themselves don't have this self-knowledge and don't feel selfish.
Wives many times, if they don't say it, or they can't see it clearly, then you don't know why men cheat.
Many men cheat on them simply to pursue enjoyment, as long as extramarital affairs can bring a certain amount of enjoyment, regardless of whether they have marriage and children.
What will happen to the wife and children is to enjoy cheating.
This kind of cheating man, their problems, are not only manifested after cheating.
Before they cheated, they only cared about themselves in many big and small things.
When the wives find out, they have to say it, and the cheating man can't change it, so the wives have to leave a way out for themselves.
The fourth psychological trait: lack of communication skills and like to escape
The reason why many men cheat is that there is a problem in the marriage, and the problem cannot be solved.
But wives will say that there are problems in marriage, but the problems are not unsolvable.
The wives also knew about the problem and wanted to solve it, but the cheating man refused, they were unwilling to communicate, they refused to communicate, and they ran away directly.
Many men just regard cheating as a haven for marital problems.
After cheating on the mistress, if there is any problem in the marriage, he will go to the mistress to hide.
After this kind of man cheats, the more noisy the wives are, the more the cheating man hides on the side of the mistress.
So when there are some problems in the marriage, the cheating man does not communicate and does not solve it.
Every time he quarrels, he is either indifferent or slams the door, and the wives need to pay attention to whether this kind of man is easy to cheat, or the type who blames his wife for the problem after cheating.
Whether a man is easy to cheat or not, you don't have to wait until he really cheats, in fact, it shows up in daily life.
Men who are prone to cheating will usually have some obvious words and deeds, such as complaining and picking thorns every day because they are always dissatisfied with the status quo.
Another example is that because of the lack of self-control, I will always make some mistakes, especially I am easily influenced by others to make mistakes, and I will not care too much about my wife and children, and I like to be cold and violent when I encounter any problems, and I refuse to communicate with my wife because of my lack of communication skills, so I avoid problems.
In their daily lives, wives can find that cheating men have a lot of problems, which are not the main factors of cheating, but because of these psychological characteristics, men are more likely to cheat.
Wives need to be more vigilant, you can't change this man, and you can't guard against it, so it's better to make plans as soon as possible.
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