Approaching the end of the year, a group of daughters-in-law who do not want to go back to their in-laws' homes for the New Year will emerge every year, and this phenomenon has shown a significant increase in numbers, and there are some little-known essential problems hidden behind it. In this question, we will focus on three key aspects, revealing the subtle psychology of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as well as various difficulties during the Chinese New Year.
1. Uncomfortable state of mind.
When returning to her mother-in-law's house for the Chinese New Year, for her daughter-in-law, she needs to re-adapt to getting along with her in-laws. In this process, both sides need to be patient and accommodating and strive to seek common ground while reserving differences. However, when many daughters-in-law wander around their in-laws' homes, they often feel an indescribable restraint and cannot find the warmth of their parents' home. This uncomfortable state not only affected the daughter-in-law's mood, but also made the in-laws feel the same trouble. How to achieve mutual adaptation in a short period of time has become an important challenge in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Netizen message: Celebrating the New Year at my mother-in-law's house, I always feel that I can't find my mother's home. When I was with my in-laws, I was greeted by an indescribable restraint, especially when I was with my mother-in-law, and I found her to be even more uncomfortable than I was. Therefore, when I go back to my mother-in-law's house for the New Year, I can only try my best to adapt, hoping to alleviate the discomfort in mutual accommodation.
Comments: The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law needs to seek common ground while reserving differences and adapt to each other during the Chinese New Year at the in-law's house. Only through joint efforts can both parties alleviate the feeling of discomfort and make the New Year more enjoyable.
Second, there is a lack of deep emotional foundation.
Unlike biological parents, the relationship with the in-laws is based on the extension of the relationship with the husband. Due to the weak emotional foundation established the day after tomorrow, the daughter-in-law may have a lack of emotional support for returning to her in-law's house for the New Year. In this case, not only will the in-laws treat the daughter-in-law as an outsider, but the daughter-in-law herself will feel as alienated as an outsider. Therefore, it becomes a reasonable choice not to be willing to go back to your in-laws' house for the New Year.
Netizen message: In the final analysis, the essence of the problem lies in the fact that the family relationship between me and my in-laws has not really been established. On the surface, we get along okay with each other, but during the Chinese New Year, the increase in the amount of time we spend together allows us to understand each other's hearts better. Unless one day my in-laws and I can truly establish a deep family relationship, I will still choose not to go back to my in-laws' house for the Chinese New Year.
Comments: The management of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law requires the efforts of both parties. Only by establishing true family affection can the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be improved, and returning to the in-law's house for the New Year can be an expectation rather than an escape.
3. Care for the physical and mental health of your in-laws.
As they get older, their in-laws gradually weaken, but they still have to take on the tedious work of preparing for the Chinese New Year. The daughter-in-law needs to be careful in this process, for fear of inappropriate words or mistakes, so as not to incur the dissatisfaction of her in-laws. Even if the daughter-in-law tries to maintain harmony with her in-laws, in some unsatisfactory circumstances, the in-laws may transfer their grievances to the daughter-in-law, making the daughter-in-law feel physically and mentally exhausted during the New Year.
Netizen message: My husband and I went back to my in-law's house together, although there was only one more person, but my in-laws would complain about the cumbersomeness of the New Year. If I am not skilled enough to arrange the New Year's affairs and do not help Zhang Luo, my in-laws will be reproachful in their words, while my husband can do everything without worrying and just enjoy the beauty of the festival. As my in-laws get older, going back to my in-laws' house for the Chinese New Year is even more physically and mentally exhausting for me.
Comments: The Chinese New Year is a rare holiday time, and the improvement of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law requires the joint efforts of both parties. When you go back to your in-laws' house for the Chinese New Year, try to reach a consensus and make the process comfortable and enjoyable. It is important to understand each other, tolerate each other, and make the New Year a good memory.
Conclusion: On the spiritual stage that crosses the New Year, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a delicate performance. In this process, we need to find resonance in understanding and tolerance, and strive to create a warm and harmonious atmosphere for the New Year. If you like this article, you may wish to click the "Follow" button in the upper right corner, and let's explore more wonderful journeys of the soul together. Thank you for your support!
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