When we were young, we lived a very fulfilling life, and in addition to work, there were many entertainment activities to pass the time. When people are old, they don't have the energy of their youth, they are not interested in many things, and they easily feel lonely, and they hope to have an old companion by their side.
But finding a wife is not a simple matter, and all factors must be taken into account. For example, whether two people have the same three views, whether their living habits are similar, or whether their children support them, etc. If one of these problems is not solved, it is likely to affect the lives of the two elderly people.
58-year-old Aunt Xu and 62-year-old Uncle Yu remarried in October last year, and their lives were relatively harmonious when they first got married. But after a long time, contradictions began to appear, and Uncle Yu proposed the AA system to Aunt Xu, asking Aunt Xu to share half of the living expenses. Aunt Xu also put forward three requirements, but in exchange for Uncle Yu's sentence "The abacus is fine". Let's take a look at their stories.
My surname is Xu and I am 58 years old. I started retiring two years ago, and when I say retirement, I don't mean a formal retirement like someone else, but I don't work anymore. I used to have a hard time, opening a breakfast shop, and I had to get up in the early hours of the morning to start preparations, which was very difficult, but I also persevered for decades.
When I got older, I had plans to retire and enjoy life, after all, I worked hard for half my life, and if I didn't enjoy it, I wouldn't have time. One of the reasons why I was able to give up my job decisively was also because I had the confidence to buy social security since I was young, and now I have a pension every month, and this money can support me.
But since I retired, I've been a little uncomfortable. Because my previous life was so busy, I was suddenly asked to do nothing, and I really couldn't change it. Some people of my age will help their children with their children, and I don't have this happy trouble. Although my daughter is married closely, her in-laws' family conditions are better, and she hired a nanny early, and she doesn't need my mother's help.
My ex-husband and I also divorced a long time ago, and we have always lived alone. I didn't feel anything before, but I felt too lonely later, so I thought about finding a wife. I have known Lao Yu for a long time, he used to be a regular customer in my store, and the two of us also have ***
Later, Lao Yu didn't know that I heard that I had plans to find a wife, so he took the initiative to find me and said that he wanted to try it with me. I have a good impression of Lao Yu, and when he used to come to the store to eat, he would occasionally help me. So I'm willing to try it with Lao Yu.
After being together, I feel that Lao Yu is a suitable person for life, and he has done a good job in all aspects, and I can't find anything too wrong. Soon we got a marriage license and became a real family.
Lao Yu was a cadre before retirement, with a pension of more than 10,000 yuan. At the beginning, he took the initiative to pay 4,000 yuan for living expenses every month, and gave me an extra 1,000 yuan of pocket money. At that time, I thought Lao Yu was very generous, so I didn't let him do the housework, after all, he paid for it, and I should contribute, so as to maintain the balance it should be.
In addition to giving me money, Lao Yu occasionally buys me something, and I am quite satisfied with this marriage. But such a comfortable life didn't last long, and conflicts began to arise between the two of us, mainly because of Lao Yu's son.
Xiao Yu has a big opinion of me, dislikes me very much, and thinks that I am here for Lao Yu's money. At first, I also wanted to get along with Xiaoyu, after all, now that I have become a family, I don't see anyone who looks up and looks down, how can I do it if I don't have a good relationship.
But Xiaoyu doesn't take my affairs to heart at all, always has a nose that is not a nose and an eye, as if I have a deep hatred with him. Although Xiaoyu doesn't like me, as long as they have time, their family of three has to go home for dinner, and they love to call me.
I feel that I am living a very aggrieved life, and I remarried to be able to live a good life, instead of living a life like a nanny every day, and being disliked by others. But at that time, Lao Yu was really good to me, always coaxing me, to be honest, I also had some feelings for him, and I never thought about ending this marriage.
I originally thought that my forbearance would be able to maintain a peaceful life on the surface, but Xiao Yu was still dissatisfied, and often spoke ill of me in front of Lao Yu to provoke the relationship between us. At first, Lao Yu would speak for me, but after all, they are their own sons, and they have a continuous blood relationship, and I, who have just met a few wives, are far less important than Xiao Yu in Lao Yu's heart.
Lao Yu and I also began to have some quarrels, no surprise it was all related to Xiao Yu, and our relationship slowly cracked, I really don't know if this marriage will continue.
A few days ago, Lao Yu took the initiative to talk to me and proposed the AA system to me. I don't want to say yes, so why should I pay half of the money? I was doing housework at home and serving their family, and I was also very hard. If I give half of the money, I will lose a lot, how can there be such an operation?
So I told Lao Yu that I didn't agree, but Lao Yu was very resolute. Later, I thought about it and made three requests.
It's okay if you want me to agree to this request, but I have three requirements as well.
Clause. 1. In the future, your son is not allowed to interfere in our lives, nor can he come home for dinner frequently. Of course, I'd welcome to come back once in a while, but if I came back for more than 20 days a month like before, I wouldn't be able to say yes. We should also discuss our affairs, and you should not tell your son everything, let alone allow him to interfere with us. If it weren't for your son's joining, our days would still be as sweet as honey, and we wouldn't have quarreled every few days like we do now. Have you ever thought that most of the problems between me and you are because of your son?
Second, you have to share the household chores with me. In the past, I didn't let you work because you already paid for your living expenses, and I wasn't the kind of person who took advantage of others. That's why I took the initiative to take care of the housework, but now that you have proposed to implement the AA system, the housework should be divided equally. In the future, if one person does it for a day, no one will suffer.
Third, give me some personal space. You're so possessive, I feel very unfree with you, and you have to take care of whatever you do. I used to think you were good and willing to spend money on me, so I was willing to take a step back and be controlled by you, but now we are all going to AA system, and I don't owe you anything. So I don't want to live this kind of controlled life anymore, I can do whatever I want in the future, you can't hinder my freedom to make friends anymore, and you can't stop me from doing what I like.
That's what I want from you, and if you promise you, we'll go on. Otherwise, let's close and disperse! ”
I thought Lao Yu would agree to my request, but as soon as I finished speaking, he hurriedly said, "Lao Xu, you are too good at this abacus, right?" I just made one request, and you immediately made three requests to block me. Let's not talk about anything else, just say my son, I'm just such a child, he is worried that I will interfere in our lives, it's all for my good, why can't you understand it? My home is my son's house, he can come back whenever he wants, he will always be the first important thing in my mind, I can't even want a son for you, your request is too much, just can't see our father and son. ”
Don't speculate for more than half a sentence, I really don't know how Lao Yu became like this, it's really too vexatious. At the beginning, our relationship was very good, everything was discussed, he was very considerate of me, and even made me feel at home. But because of his son's constant interference, the relationship between the two of us began to break down, and there were more and more contradictions, and finally came to the step of divorce.
This short marriage also made me understand a truth, finding a wife is not only good for the other party, but also for the consent of both children. The reason why Lao Yu and I ended up was also because of Xiao Yu, otherwise we might have a good ending.
Therefore, if you are really sure that the other party is the person you want to find, you can't get married casually. If the other party's attitude is not good and they don't support the relationship, then it's best to choose to end it early, because even if you barely continue, it is difficult to go long.