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Recently, a wedding turmoil in Taiyuan, Shanxi Province has aroused widespread attention from netizens, and the news that the woman is determined to return 500 yuan to her classmates for marriage has spread quickly on social **. This incident sparked heated discussions and thoughts among netizens, and some people supported the decision of the parties, believing that the other party should take the initiative to return the gift if they did not fulfill their promise to attend the wedding. Others, on the other hand, believe that the gift given and received is a mutual relationship in human relations, and whether or not you should insist on returning the gift money in a specific situation also raises deeper thinking.
In that year, in 2017, the party transferred 500 yuan to a classmate as a wedding gift. However, the client invited the classmate when he got married, but was unable to attend the wedding because the other party was pregnant. What is even more puzzling is that the student did not take the initiative to return the gift or express gratitude, which caused the dissatisfaction and determination of the person concerned to return the gift.
Although 500 yuan is not much in real life, it implies mutual assistance and trust in human exchanges. In a fit of anger, the party found a screenshot of the transfer that year and insisted on returning the gift money of 500 yuan. Such a reaction also sparked extensive discussions among netizens.
It is worth pondering whether relationships between people should be based solely on monetary interests. In China, gifts are considered to be directly related to blood relatives, and gifts given to friends and classmates are difficult to take back. Has it become a helplessness to maintain and maintain past friendships as time and geography change? How should we view and accept this reality?
In human relations, there are some rules and guidelines that are conventional. And these rules have also become the principles that people follow when they follow the ceremony. Here's an overview of some of the rules:
1.Do not reduce the share of the gift money: When giving gifts, you should try to give the same share of the gift money as the other party. If it is less than the gift money given by the other party, it will make the other party feel uncomfortable and think that he is stingy and takes advantage of others.
2.Don't be too showy: Don't have a comparison mentality when giving gifts, and give appropriate gifts according to your own financial ability. Especially when courtesing leaders and superiors, you should be consistent with your colleagues to avoid unnecessary trouble caused by being too public.
3.Refusal to give courtesy to relatives with bad intentions: In relationships with relatives, although most people have sincere feelings, sometimes they also encounter relatives who do not have harmonious relationships. In this case, for those relatives who have no good intentions towards you, it is perfectly reasonable to refuse to give gifts.
By following these rules and guidelines, you can better maintain the harmony of your interpersonal relationships and reduce unnecessary embarrassment and disputes.
However, the uncertainty and fragility of relationships are also unavoidable. When we are geographically disparate and no longer work together as often, this friendship tends to break down and relationships disappear with it. We should gradually accept and adapt to this phenomenon.
No matter how good the relationship is, when giving gifts, you must remember the rules and agreements. Giving gifts is a way to express emotion, not a means of coping with entertainment. Dwelling on the so-called "friends" of the past may well be a waste of money and will not have any practical effect.
The number of friends that can be sustained in a relationship is limited and extremely fragile. When we are no longer in the same place, when we no longer work together often, this friendship is bound to disappear. Relationships with blood relatives or colleagues who have worked together for a long time can only be strong. Therefore, we should slowly accept this reality and learn to let go of the so-called "friends" of the past.
Through this wedding turmoil, we can not only think about the rules and norms of human relations, but also understand the uncertainty and fragility of interpersonal relationships. In the face of such a reality, we need to gradually accept and adapt, and reduce the entanglement and stubbornness.
Human relations are a relationship of mutual assistance and should be based on sincerity and trust. When giving and receiving gifts, we should abide by the relevant rules and guidelines and respect the other person's choices and decisions. We also have every right to maintain an independent stance and not be swayed by those who are scheming towards us and have no good intentions.
Ultimately, the value of relationships is not only in money, but more importantly in mutual understanding, support and companionship. There are some friends who may be getting farther and farther away from us, but there are some people who are willing to grow with us all the time. Relatives and friends who are truly good to us will genuinely give help and support in times of need.
Let us pursue sincerity and goodwill, maintain independence and perseverance on the road of dealing with interpersonal relationships, so that we can truly establish precious friendships.
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