The three emotions of a man in extramarital sex: novelty, excitement, and need.
As Wang Xiaobo said, "Sex is just a part of life, not everything." "Men can ignore moral norms and get caught up in the maelstrom of extramarital affairs. In addition to sexual attraction, it is often driven by three "emotions":
In experiments, scientists found that when male mice were confronted with multiple female mice in heat, they would immediately mate with all the female mice until they were exhausted. But once they are exhausted, even new female mice will not be able to arouse their libido.
Does this phenomenon also apply to the infidelity of some men in marriage? For example, a friend of mine wrote to me about the "pain" he felt as a result of cheating.
Despite his guilt, he couldn't control his desires and kept repeating the same mistakes. He explained that his cheating partner was too much in line with his aesthetic standards, that his wife was the only woman in his life and that he loved her.
He tries to alleviate his guilt by making amends to his wife, but this behavior is like eating a small thorny fish, which inadvertently brings pain every time. Despite this, his affair did not change his love for his wife and his responsibility to the family.
The story of Ji and Lee in the Korean drama "The World of Couples" tells us that seeing is not necessarily believing. Everyone thinks they are a model couple, but over the years of marriage, some subtle changes have taken place.
Qi is the chief physician of the hospital, and Li is the famous director. They have a child, but Lee becomes greedy after getting everything he dreams of.
On the surface, he and Qi are in love, but in fact he is with a little ** Lu Duojing. He claims to be single-minded and in love with both of them at the same time, but his real motive is only to get excited.
Lu Duojing is also keen on this kind of stimulation, putting personal belongings and *** into Lee's suitcase, and even holding hands with Lee at a birthday party. This story reminds us that love is not always simple and must be understood with the heart.
The value of understanding" - the Eternals say of understanding: "It is a blessing to be understood, and it is not necessarily a misfortune not to be understood, because people who value the understanding of others completely often lack self-awareness and self-awareness.
However, there are still many people who are obsessed with being understood and neglect the realization of self-worth. There was a scene in the TV series "Women's World" that left a deep impression on me. After Li was caught cheating, Ms. Chi reflected on herself and realized that in the relationship between husband and wife, the ultimate perpetrator and victim are often herself.
Ms. Xu tried to understand her husband's deviant behavior, but this understanding seemed to fail between the cheating man and his supporters. It's too late. For example, Li's mother blames Qi but ignores that Li is also responsible.
What she should reflect on is why her son would do such a thing. ”
When it comes to gender, men can sometimes be disoriented. In the confusion, they do not hesitate to violate the bottom line of morality and do outrageous things. When fraud is exposed, they always blame it in four words: "You can feel the emotion. ”
Ironically, they dare to express it, and some people want to believe it. For example, in the conversation afterwards, my wife Zeng Qi said: "Don't touch other people's husbands, for a married man with children, no matter how hot his body is, he can't destroy other people's families.
It's possible. "Only a woman can do it. "Indeed, there is no doubt that the hostess is at fault. But what I want to say is that there is no sin in loving Xiaosan. After all, unilateral efforts will not bear fruit.