The sense of husband has become a new trend, why is the image of a white guest so attractive?
After the white customer, there is no blue ocean in the domestic entertainment market.
He is the ceiling of the waste track, and the smoky class smell on his body has attracted countless dream girls, even if he plays a social animal, he exudes the smell of home and **.
Overnight, "husband feeling" has become the highest praise for male stars.
It has been said that the popularity of high-quality men for women is a good thing, a triumph of the female gaze.
Or, in fact, this is another slippery slope of female aesthetics.
"My hard-working husband".
It has been 10 years since the debut of the wrecked king sledgehammer, and he has returned as a noble national husband.
Source: "Never Expected" and "The Annual Meeting Can't Stop".
Bai Ke, a well-known beta man on the Internet.
With no pheromones (from the ABO world view setting), no masculine charm, no aggressive personal traits out of the circle.
But this "three-no" man is expensive in the temperament of IKEA and IKEA, and he has become the January husband of the majority of dream women.
It is known as the "male version of Gao Yuanyuan", creating a "male version of a good marriage style".
Source: Little Red Book.
His smoky appearance made people fiercely substitute for "my husband who works diligently in the company, does not dare to resign with a mortgage, and is worried about layoffs".
When the wedding ring is worn, it shows the sense of security of his family.
Looks like the guy who will buy groceries after work and go home to help his children with homework.
Source: "The Annual Meeting Can't Be Stopped".
Baike became popular in January, but the rivers and lakes of internal entertainment have long had his husband legend.
In his place, "the salary is handed over to the housework" is a kind of temperament, and before he played husband and wife with Wan Qian, he contributed many famous scenes of female A and male B.
Wan Qian shouted "husband" to hug, he moved the chair and took off his apron to comfort him in seconds.
Busy cooking three dishes and one soup in front of the stove, it was he who waited for his wife to get off work.
He was the one who poured water and soup for his wife at the table.
It was he who obediently snuggled into his wife's arms.
My wife was wronged and said, "It's okay, wife, I'm on top when the sky falls", it's still him.
Source: "Lady's Character".
Up to the hall, down to the kitchen, down-to-earth and reliable, emotionally stable.
Such a "Mr. Tianluo" is only played by Bai Ke without violating the harmony.
He opened the door and looked at Ma Sichun, both exuding the virtuous wisdom of "when my wife comes back, do you eat or take a bath first".
Source: "Jiang Zhao Dawn".
Up to now, the husband's temperament of the white guest is summarized as follows:
Source: Weibo.
Nest bag is already the most beautiful medicine for men.
To be more specific, Bai Ke's sense of husband makes people think of a type of middle-aged married and depressed man who can be seen everywhere around you and me in reality.
They are willing to be social animals, and they dare not resign when they are angry, and they are depressed because they are shouldering the responsibility of supporting their families.
It's better not to have strong sexual attraction and aggression, there will be no cheating, no domestic violence.
As soon as the pattern is opened, this is simply a natural choice of marriage partners who "have a stable job, no bad habits, and take care of their families".
Source: "Lady's Character".
Bai Ke has created a new imagination of spouses for women:
He goes to work hard every day to make money, no matter how much pressure he has, he will only smoke a cigarette downstairs and digest it by himself, and then go home to share the housework with his wife and run this small family together.
There is no fatherly taste of Puxin, not a hands-off shopkeeper who pretends to be dead, he is a haven for his wife's eternal emotional stability.
Those sought-after ordinary people
Bai Ke single-handedly set fire to several other husbands and brothers.
After him, the most popular is Xia Donghai in "Family with Children".
This mediocre-looking, divorced, second-married man with two children is now also a twenty-four filial husband who can arouse many people's desire to get married.
Source: "Family with Children".
He also has a distinctly good-tempered sense of home.
For example, educate children and never be absent.
He and Liu Mei are a cat father and a tiger mother, with dense parenting sentences and civilized behavior, which can be called the ceiling of East Asian fathers.
Source: "Family with Children".
For example, he never forgets to provide emotional value to his wife.
From time to time, I have to reflect on myself, whether I have fulfilled my responsibilities as a husband and taken care of my family.
Source: "Family with Children".
In addition, his profession is a director and screenwriter, which is elegant and funny.
So even if the cooking is unpalatable and almost never does housework, it does not prevent Xia Donghai from being a scarce "new good man" certified by Xiaoxue himself.
Source: "Family with Children".
The good man also has Li Xiang in "Hurricane", and his sense of husband also has a very specific atmosphere scene:
It seems that he has to sign 10 documents a day, and during the Chinese New Year, he will drive a car with a trunk full of rice and flour oil issued by the unit to visit relatives.
The husband's sense of husband in the system is wonderful in those decades of stable work and abstinence in suit shirts.
Source: Little Red Book.
In addition, there is a more famous two-dimensional husband -
Crayon Shin-chan's father, Hiroshi Nohara, who has been elected as "the man who wants to marry the most" and "ideal father" in Japan all year round.
Source: Douban.
In her sister's previous impression, Nohara Hiroshi was not a good man.
He is lustful, will fantasize about falling in love with the company's juniors, is a nest uncle who often goes home drunk, and is also an ordinary office worker with no future.
But in recent years, the popularity of ordinary man Hiroshi Nohara has remained high in Japan.
Japanese women have found that this man who has a 32-year mortgage and a 36-term car loan to support a family of four and a dog is a scarce high-quality man.
Source: Internet.
Japanese men also have a deep belief that ordinary Nohara Hiroshi has extraordinary wisdom.
They bought a copy of "Hiroshi Nohara's Super Famous Sayings" and learned from him how to be a good husband, a good father, and a good man.
Source: Internet.
It has become a trend for husbands to be in demand.
From the popular Hiroshi Nohara, to the white customers who have become popular, and the family husbands who have stubble one after another, they actually have one thing in common:
Although there is no stunning appearance and abundant conditions, it is better to be reliable and down-to-earth under the backdrop of peers.
They may not be able to make romantic love, but at least they won't bring blood.
If we look at it by the standards of traditional patriarchal society, these little family men with a strong sense of social animal and nest will not be a positive success, but closer to a compromiser, or even a loser.
But it is these little men who have become a new option sought after by women.
The domineering president has taken a back seat, and the husband of the nest is the one who really understands what women think and uses for women.
Nu Ning's victory?
To be honest, when the wind of the husband first blew, her sister didn't understand it.
Obviously, it is very common for men to have stable jobs, sharing housework and childcare is their duty, emotional stability is the basic cultivation, it is normal to not cheat and not commit domestic violence, and even the nest can be beautified into a charm point.
Why can these "ordinary" men be touted so far, and even become a new trend in mate selection?
After reading the psychology of Japanese women behind Nohara Hiroshitaka's popularity, I probably understood its inner motivation.
Source: "Crayon Xiaoxin".
The direction of the tide has indeed changed.
Before the bubble era, when Japan's economy was booming and the people's mentality was positive, the standard for women to choose a mate was the "three highs".
That is, highly educated, high-income, and tall.
After the economic bubble burst, the "three highs" of women's mate selection soon slipped to the "three lows".
The characteristics of the so-called "three low men" are taken apart, and they are similar to today's "sense of husband":
Typical Japanese husband, source: "Escape is shameful but useful".
From the ideal romantic love, to a more down-to-earth life.
From looking at the upper limit, to holding the lower limit.
It is because women have let go of their expectations for marriage and men in a less optimistic environment.
They no longer expect to achieve a leap in the quality of life through marriage, and their imagination of marriage is becoming more and more conservative, so men who can meet their basic security needs are worth a lot of money.
Obviously, this is a compromise.
In Maslow's well-known hierarchy of needs, the "love and belonging needs" that establish emotional connections belong to the higher level of growth needs.
The need to ensure security and stability is at a lower level of missing requirements.
Source: Internet.
And now, whether it is Japan's "three low men", our stable and reliable "sense of husband", or the popularity of boyfriends in the bureau and husbands in the system, they all point to the forced downgrading of women's needs to a sense of security.
So when I see someone say, "The dominance of the husband is the triumph of the female gaze," I just feel ridiculous.
It seems that the husbands and wives accurately meet the needs of women, and it is women who are more subjective in the relationship.
It seems that it is the needs of women that have shaped men into this ordinary and pleasant appearance.
Source: Weibo.
In fact, it is more likely that women adapt to the environment and the quality of men's basic plates and adjust their needs.
The aesthetic decline and taste degradation have deteriorated, so that even the "nest" can become the capital of a man's realization, and even ordinary men can beautify the shining point, and then be held up to the altar by a pair of hands.
Commonly known as, I love men too much.
You must know that the "sense of wife", which is opposite to the "sense of husband", is not only about living a down-to-earth life.
Married women, while maintaining mature charm, maintain youth and beauty; If you want to take care of people while taking care of people, you can't be uninteresting; It must be able to arouse people's desires, but it must be dignified and gentle.
This is a long-standing male gaze on women in all aspects of appearance, ability, and morality.
Gao Yuanyuan is the ideal type of a married woman for many people, source: Internet.
And what about the husband? Ordinary is a sense of security, depression is a sense of brokenness, and the nest is **.
Therefore, you must know that if the subject's gaze gives the object full freedom but does not have the deterrent power to make it transform itself, then this gaze is just wishful thinking.
Her sister has said many times before that "female condensation" is equivalent to a pseudo concept, and it will not be a simple and crude sexual reproduction of "male condensation".
If you don't see the popularity of husbands, it's a compromise for women and a slippery slope for aesthetics.
I can't see that the sense of husband is another deification of ordinary men.
At least, let's not deceive ourselves that this is a progressive "female condensation".
This progress is really unnecessary.