Li Chengzhi committed domestic violence against Meng Mingwei for the first time, because Meng Mingwei refused to go back to his hometown to spend the Spring Festival with him. Meng Mingwei's decision was not vexatious, but there were actually two solid reasons behind it: first, she was pregnant at the time, and the fetus was not stable, so it was not suitable for her to travel long distances; Second, due to the inconvenience of her legs and feet, and Li Chengzhi's hometown is located in a mountainous area, the rugged and long mountain road is unbearable for her with limited mobility.
In order to appease the angry Li Chengzhi, Qiao Haiyun bought a large number of expensive gifts as compensation, but Li Chengzhi was not grateful for this, but misunderstood that the Meng family looked down on him, so he angrily smashed the gifts and did something to the pregnant Meng Mingwei. In the face of this bad behavior, Qiao Haiyun responded by drastic means - she mixed sleeping pills into the fish soup for Li Chengzhi to drink, and fasted him on a chair for two days and two nights, and at the same time made a rule that her daughter would not return to her mother-in-law's house for the New Year.
Throughout the book, Meng Mingwei repeatedly mentioned that her appearance and ability were not as good as her parents and sisters, and the real reason behind this was that she was not Qiao Haiyun's biological daughter, but was adopted by Qiao Haiyun after being abandoned and regarded as her own.
Meng Mingwei still failed to find a home at the age of nearly 30 because of his physical disability and poor appearance, so he almost morbidly urged Li Yijin to get married as soon as possible. Her persistence stems from the painful experience of "not being able to get married", and she is afraid that her daughter will repeat the same mistakes.
Although Meng Mingwei's fate is sympathetic, it must not ignore the malicious behavior she showed in her treatment of Li Yijin. She seeks a sense of self-existence by belittling and scolding her daughter, and this distorted way of behavior cannot be affirmed in the slightest, but can only arouse criticism.
Out of deep expectations for Meng Mingwei's happy marriage, Qiao Haiyun carefully planned two arrangements: one is to personally select Li Chengzhi, a down-to-earth and enterprising young man in the factory, as his son-in-law, and help him rise step by step in the workplace; The second is to throw a set of real estate as a dowry, so as to protect Meng Mingwei's status in marriage. However, instead of being grateful to Dade for these two actions, Li Chengzhi and Meng Mingwei were full of hatred in their hearts.
Li Chengzhi resented Qiao Haiyun for forcing him to marry a disabled and mediocre-looking wife with his wealth and power, and also hated his inability to marry a young and beautiful woman, and even complained that his parents failed to give him enough money and love. While coveting the material conditions of the Meng family, he was unwilling to accept his own incompetence and did not dare to resist Qiao Haiyun, and finally transferred this hatred to the weak and helpless Meng Mingwei, and tortured the other party with indifference and ruthlessness for thirty years.
And Meng Mingwei also harbored resentment towards Qiao Haiyun, especially disgusted with the dowry room given by his mother, thinking that it always reminded him of the status quo of his marriage that no one cared about. Although she hated her mother, she never dared to fight the criminal Li Chengzhi. When she had a daughter Li Yijin, she poured out all her dissatisfaction and unwillingness on this innocent and weak life.
One of the highlights of the TV series "Fireworks People" is that the image of Meng Mingwei has been adapted in the play, giving her the feat of bravely resisting hooligans, rather than the cowardly nest in the original book. In fact, Meng Mingwei has three precious "trump cards" at the beginning of her life, but she, like Li Chengzhi, chose to vent her unwarranted grievances on more vulnerable people because of her own weakness and despicability.
Meng Mingwei has three precious "trump cards" in her life, and these advantages have made her transform from a little girl abandoned by her biological mother and in distress to the eldest lady of the Meng family under Qiao Haiyun's knees. First of all, Meng Mingwei has an extremely solid backing from his mother's family. In reality, many women often do not receive strong support from their mothers when they suffer from domestic violence, but Meng's mother, Qiao Haiyun, with her firm determination and resolute action, showed Li Chengzhi her unconditional protection for her daughter: in the face of domestic violence, she did not hesitate to kidnap and punish Li Chengzhi, and warned him with an almost crazy attitude that if he hurt his daughter again, he would pay the price of his life.
Secondly, the material security provided by Qiao Haiyun for Meng Mingwei is also a trump card that cannot be ignored. Although the dowry property is written in Qiao Haiyun's name, this set of property that has nothing to do with Li Chengzhi means that in any possible property disputes, Meng Mingwei can ensure that his rights and interests are not infringed. Soon after marriage, even in the face of divorce, Qiao Haiyun gave Meng Mingwei a bigger house, which undoubtedly provided strong support for her sense of security and belonging in marriage. At the same time, Meng Mingwei also has a stable job and enjoys a pension after retirement, so he has no worries about life without having to face the pressure of survival.
In addition, Meng Mingwei's family network also constitutes her third trump card. She raised her two younger sisters** with her own hands, took care of her elderly mother, and did her best to raise her daughter Li Yijin. Although her husband lacked love for her in her married life, Meng Mingwei always had someone around her to care for her, whether it was her sister or daughter, who gave her selfless companionship and support.
However, when reading this work for the first time, people may mistakenly think that this is a story of female awakening, but in fact, Meng Mingwei and even the entire Meng family have limitations in their understanding of marriage, they seem to think that everything in marriage should be beautiful, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are harmonious, and husbands are motivated and considerate. In fact, marriage cannot be flawless, and challenges such as contradictions, conflicts, and run-ins are common in almost every marriage.
In the TV series, the details of Meng Mingwei's life reveal her hard-working and capable side, especially good at cooking. Although she has entered old age and has some physical ailments and inconveniences, the real dilemma she faces is not external conditions, but inner despair. In the original book, Qiao Haiyun had a premonition that he could no longer protect his eldest daughter after he was old, so he proposed to divorce Meng Mingwei, but when Meng Mingwei mentioned the matter to Li Chengzhi, he was snubbed. At this time, Meng Mingwei felt helpless after losing the protection of his mother, chose to hide in his own world, and even tried to end the pain by jumping off the building.
Fortunately, Qiao Haiyun sensed the abnormality in time and saved his daughter. In the end, she once again showed her resolute and decisive side, forcing Li Chengzhi to agree to the divorce and expelling him from the house. Meng Mingwei's life is largely dependent on the safe harbor built by his mother Qiao Haiyun, from marriage to coping with domestic violence to planning divorce, all of which reflect his mother's support.
To sum up, life is like holding a deck of cards, even if some people get a bad hand, they can also play the king with perseverance; Some people have multiple seemingly invincible trump cards in their hands, but they can lose everything if they don't use them properly. **In this play, we should not only see Meng Mingwei's pathos, in fact, compared to many people, she was lucky enough to have the opportunity to play a good hand that no one can beat.