In the first year of a girl's marriage in Shanghai, she and her husband discussed going back to their parents' house for the New Year, and when she excitedly told her mother the good news, her mother's words made her cry, "You are already married, you should live with your own family." Now your in-laws are also your own family! ”
The girl, who was originally happy, couldn't help crying when she heard this, and her mother saw that she was sad, and hurriedly added, "Welcome my daughter back." "I can see it's a bit perfunctory.
She is a newly married girl, and she has not yet put herself in the right position, and she can see that her in-laws are also reasonable people, so she married her daughter-in-law and put her son in.
I can also understand this girl, who has lived in this family for more than 20 years, in her consciousness, her mother's family is the closest, her mother-in-law's family has no feelings when she just enters the door, and she is not even familiar with it, she still wants to celebrate the New Year with her parents.
But in traditional culture, the daughter who marries out is the guest, and the only daughter goes back for the New Year, if there is an older brother or younger brother, we are taboo to marry the daughter to go back for the New Year, and the divorced daughter is not good.
In some places, daughters can go back for the New Year, and some families will quarrel over whose house to go to for the New Year.
After reading it, netizens did not sympathize with the girl, and there has been such a sentence since ancient times, "The water spilled by the married daughter." "It can be passed down to this day, which shows that he still has a certain truth. 0
It takes time for a girl to understand this truth, and it is only after being frustrated with a certain amount of life experience that some netizens said that she just got married, and she still doesn't understand the truth that her in-laws' family is her own family, and she hasn't put herself in the right position.
There are too many things involved in going back to your parents' house for the New Year, even if you want to go back, sometimes your mother-in-law and husband are unwilling, and even sometimes your mother's family who you think is the closest is unwilling to want you.
In fact, it's the same in the **Chinese New Year, isn't it just to have a meal together, it's okay to eat more often, or to eat in the second year of junior high school, meet one day earlier, what if you meet one day later, do you care about that day? Why is it so real that it makes everyone uncomfortable.