The two parents talked about marriage, 4800 for dinner, my boyfriend asked me to transfer him 2400, and the red envelope 800 also returned to him.
My family has been urging me to go on a blind date, and has even publicized it to relatives from all walks of life. They even set up a special blind date group, and people post the man's information and ** every day. In their eyes, I was already an older unmarried young woman. They think that time flies, and if they don't get married, they will go to a nursing home alone in the future.
As a result, I go on blind dates more often than I go to the beauty salon. However, the blind dates I met were varied, and I began to doubt myself. Still, I had to go on a blind date. In the eyes of my family, whether or not to go on a blind date is a matter of attitude, and whether or not a blind date can be successful is a matter of luck. So, I have to have a good attitude in order to live a comfortable life.
The blind date this time was introduced by Aunt Wang in the community, named Xie Cheng. He is 32 years old and works in a state-owned enterprise with an annual salary of 200,000 yuan. He is said to be personable, well-educated, and well-educated. We met at a Chinese tea room. After meeting, I found out that Xie Cheng was completely inconsistent with what he said. I just understood what it means to be "a matchmaker's words, a deceitful ghost".
Since it's a blind date, I also have to talk about my own conditions. My name is Chen Yi, 30 years old, engaged in real estate consultant work, annual salary of 150,000 yuan, height 168cm. In terms of appearance, others say it's okay. Xie Cheng looked calm, which made him even more attractive. Maybe it's the temperament he has developed at work.
After we introduced each other, we found that there were many common interests and hobbies, and the more we talked, the more speculative we became. After the tea, we even made a direct appointment for dinner, which was the first time in my blind date experience.
After getting along with Xie Cheng, I was quickly attracted by his calmness. He always took it in stride, and this kind of steadiness made me envious of a person with a lively personality. However, the two years of getting along did not mention marriage, even though I explicitly hinted at it many times. Eventually, I had to tell him directly that it was either to get married or to break up.
After some discussion, we finally agreed on a schedule for the wedding, and the two families met. However, when it came time to negotiate the marriage, Xie Chengjia made some requests that bothered me. They asked my family to marry a car worth about 500,000 yuan, on the grounds that they had already left the house and the bride price, and hoped that our family could also contribute something substantial to our marriage.
This made me feel very uncomfortable because my parents had already prepared a house and cash for me as a dowry. What made me even more unacceptable was that Xie Cheng's family actually hinted that they did not agree with our marriage, thinking that my job was not stable enough and I was not young. This thought made me feel very uncomfortable and angry.
Although I am optimistic, my father is very unhappy about this, he feels that he has raised me all my life and should not be allowed to suffer such grievances. I tried to comfort him, telling him that I didn't care if Xie Cheng's family agreed or not, as long as Xie Cheng and I were happy.
Last night, I had been waiting for Xie Cheng's **, but after he went back, there was no news at all, and he didn't even send a message.
The next afternoon, Xie Cheng suddenly sent me a message, saying that he had spent 4,800 yuan on dinner last night, and he had paid the full amount in advance, and then asked me to transfer 2,400 yuan to him.
We've been together for two years and we've always been AA. Although we occasionally entertained each other, I knew that Xie Cheng's family was not wealthy and his parents did not have high incomes, so I always understood his financial situation.
However, I didn't expect him to stick to the AA system in this situation. I felt very aggrieved, but I still immediately transferred 2,400 yuan to him, and the speed of his payment was like a second.
Then, Xie Cheng mentioned that his parents were getting older and asked if I could return the red envelope I received yesterday to them. The total amount of red envelopes I received yesterday was 800 yuan, and he still wants to go back? I was too embarrassed to tell my parents, so I made up a number and told my mom that I had received 2,000 yuan. Although my mom thought the amount was exaggerated, she didn't look into it because she didn't see the actual amount.
I told my mother that neither family is wealthy, and 2,000 yuan is already very suitable, so don't be too harsh.
I immediately called Xie Cheng and asked him what he thought, do we want to get married?
Xie Cheng replied calmly: Of course you want to get married, but your parents didn't say anything about buying a car yesterday. We will marry whenever they agree.
He also said that his job is stable and he can find any kind of girl he wants. He has turned down a lot of girls for me, but if he wants to get married, I hope our family will show sincerity as well.
His self-confidence and courage are simply inexhaustible, and they can be sold out.
I hung up **, went home and told my parents about it, I know that this kind of family must not be married.
I'm a bit of a romantic person, but not to the point where I can't get it incurable.
Since the two families discussed marriage, my mother decided to respect each other and called Xie Cheng's mother, saying that she would not continue to discuss marriage, thinking that our two children might not be suitable, and hoped to end the relationship amicably.
Soon, Xie Cheng himself called** and asked me to return the red envelope, the gift he gave me, and the meeting gift given by his parents that day. I thought it was reasonable, so I made a ** overnight detailing the gifts I received and their value.
The next day, I went to Xie Cheng's home with 800 yuan in cash, a bottle of red wine, two T-shirts, a pair of slippers and a bracelet worth 400 yuan. I know that Xie Cheng's relatives are all gathering at his grandfather's house.
I put everything on the table and said to Xie Cheng, "We need to get a receipt." "My relatives who were there at the time looked at me curiously. I explained that Xie Cheng and I could not continue to marry due to family circumstances, and his family asked me to do something that I could not afford, so we decided to break up and return all the gifts he gave me.
I turned to Xie Cheng's mother and said, "In addition, Auntie, Xie Cheng asked me to pay 2,400 yuan for our meal, and you don't need to ask me for it anymore." Xie Cheng's mother looked a little embarrassed and panicked, and asked me why I did this.
I ignored her and urged Xie Cheng to hurry up and write a receipt. In order to end this embarrassing situation as soon as possible, Xie Cheng hurriedly wrote a receipt to me.
After sorting out the receipt, I took out the ** I prepared: Xie Cheng, here is a list of the gifts I gave you and the money I lent you, a total of 36,500 yuan, what do you want to do? Is it a cash settlement or a transfer? I can erase the $500 and make the total $36,000. ”
Xie Cheng was suddenly furious, and was about to go crazy, so I quickly hid behind his aunt: "Don't hit me, I'm scared." Didn't you say it yourself, and you don't owe each other? ”
Xie Cheng's aunt had always had a discordant relationship with his mother, and immediately stood up to protect me: "Chengcheng, beating someone is illegal. Yiyi has already returned the things to you, and you should return hers to her as well. We can't disgrace the old Xie family. ”
As soon as Xie Cheng's aunt said this, other relatives also persuaded him to pay back the money and end the matter as soon as possible, after all, the family was ready to eat.
Xie Cheng was helpless and transferred 36,000 yuan to me through WeChat.
After receiving the money, I wish everyone to eat, drink, and be merry and go home in a good mood.
After this incident, my mother stopped urging me to go on blind dates for the time being.
We girls, always have to be kind to ourselves. Getting older doesn't mean we have to get married in a hurry.
Marriage is a woman's second life, and she would rather shine alone than marry someone who increases the burden of life.
If you meet an ordinary man, take my advice to you and evacuate quickly. Ordinary men are looking for "marriage volunteers"? They need to pay money and toil, but they still have to endure grievances.
Marriage is based on mutual respect, and I understand your hard work, but I also need to feel valued by me. A marriage is only meaningful if both parties give.
Therefore, do not marry casually, girls should be responsible for their own lives.