The best education in the world is something that children get inadvertently when they talk to their parents.
In daily life, some words may seem like nothing to parents, but for children, such a way of communication builds a wall between parents and children, narrowing the distance between parents and children.
You're so stupid, you can't teach it", "Why can't you do it when others can do it", "Don't cry, it's annoying" ......
Accusing, denying, preaching, and belittling, because language has feelings and temperature, so although these words are not offensive to the body, they are offensive to the heart.
Purely by yelling at the child or strict discipline, it is basically in vain, and the child is even more disgusted, I came over like this, until a few months ago, I studied for a period of time in the Gaotu beautiful family, and I learned too much with Mr. Song Li, at first because after the junior high school, the child's learning was originally in the middle of the stream, but after the junior high school added geography and biology, the child was very hard at the beginning, but in the second half of the year, the opportunity was very backward and even he was rotten and did not study!
The family was also very anxious, but they couldn't control their emotions, which caused the smell of gunpowder at home to be particularly strong during that time, basically blowing up at one point, and the child was becoming more and more rebellious. Ask the teacher for help, the teacher let the science guide, recommended the Gaotu beautiful family, the first half of the second year of junior high school, basically we stabilized, the child also realized the value of learning, caught up, and the atmosphere at home was also good, so it is worth learning.
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Marshall Luxemburg, the author of Nonviolent Communication, a doctor of psychology and a doctor, once said, "When language tends to ignore people's feelings and needs, so that they are alienated and hurt each other, this way of communication can make it difficult for people to feel the love in their hearts."
Home is not a place to reason, not a place to show authority, but a place to talk about love, and with love, there is communication and understanding.
Please don't let your language become a wall and cause your child's pain, please focus on your child's needs and feelings, promote listening, understanding and mutual assistance, and let language become a window to open your child's heart.
I hope that every parent can connect more closely with their children's hearts through this window. High Path