Nutritious compliments will make the child really self-motivated, the child draws a picture, in order to encourage him, you say "you are so good at drawing" "you are awesome".
After the child cleans the room, in order to praise him, you say "you are amazing" or "well done" ......
Although success can be replicated, if we always use such a general and empty language, not only can we not let the child know clearly where the "good" is and where the "good" is, but also make the child feel that the parents are perfunctory and casual, so if we want to praise the idea.
I am also a person from the past, as parents, just rely on our own thinking, and even emotionally educate children, there is no scientific method, it is basically counterproductive, the parent-child relationship will not improve, and it will also delay the child's ** development period!
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Effective praise means that the more specific the language, the clearer the child's goals, which can not only give the child the affirmation he expects, help him build self-confidence, but also give the child a clear direction for growth and promote his self-thinking.
In the face of children's small paintings, we can say, "Your colors match greatly", "The big tree you painted is so imaginative".
When the child finishes cleaning the room, we can say, "You swept the floor cleanly", "The books on the table are really neatly arranged", ......
As the saying goes, details determine success or failure, and when it comes to children's education, I think, we are even more so.
Don't waste children, every opportunity for growth, please start by learning to praise children! High Path