In the past, people always visited each other on festive or festive days to send blessings and greetings. Today's social climate, however, has changed dramatically. Many people began to avoid visiting relatives and friends, except for gathering together on red and white ceremonies, which is rare on weekdays. There are even some people who have long since cut off contact with their relatives. They mainly belong to the following types of people:
1. "Rootless" young peopleIn this bustling society, there is a group of people who are far away from their familiar homeland because of their studies and work. For them,It's not that there is no concept of relatives, it's just that it's been too long, too long to be in touch, and it's almost forgotten.
When you need help from your relatives, you don't see your relatives, and you don't see yourself when your relatives need itEven face-to-face, I can't recognize "whose relatives this is". For them, the frequency of spending time with relatives has become irrelevantAfter all, I used to be a stranger, and now I am still a stranger, so it's easier not to see him。In the minds of these wandering people, the presence or absence of relatives seems to have become insignificant.
2. The poorChina was originally a country with a strong kinship, and in the past, there was still a "patriarch" to maintain the interests of the family group. Now that the patriarch is gone, the "bond of interests" has been broken, and the dislike of the poor and the love of the rich in human nature have become prominent. Many relatives in life tend to be inflammatory, dislike the poor and love the rich. If you have no money, they look down on you.
It's okay to be fine, I can maintain a superficial harmony, and I can hide away from everything. And even 90 college students, especially the families in the village, are not wealthy because of the "provision for their children to go to college", and their relatives hide away when they go to school. (This is the opposite of ancient times, when people who came out of the family to study, not relatives, even neighbors, were respectful and convenient.) ）Later, this group of people completed their studies, especially some of them had certain achievements (turned over),After settling down in the city and taking his parents to his side, he didn't want to have the slightest interaction and intersection with his relatives who once looked down on him.
In addition, there are some poor relatives who are overwhelmed. A colleague of mine, when she was in college, her uncle took some money from her, and she repaid all the money as soon as she graduated from college. Later, my cousin borrowed money from her to build a house, and his daughter-in-law borrowed money from her, and he borrowed money from her to do business, and he borrowed money from her to have children. She said: "I don't dare to contact anymore, I'm afraid I won't be able to hold on!" ”
And then, too, the majority,It's just that I'm not good at mixing and don't dare to see my relatives. The social pressure is getting bigger and bigger, and I can't find a job after graduating from college, how can I have the face to see those people who are waiting for me to get ahead after graduating from college and turn a lot of money. ”
3. I hate rich people who are scolded by relativesA phenomenon in society is like an insurmountable chasmThe rich do not accept the poor. Its meaning is deep, revealing a subtle yet cruel fear in human nature. When people are wealthy, they often choose to stay away from poor relatives who were once closeFear of being borrowed, fear of being asked for. It's like a war without gunpowder, in which the wealthy have chosen to protect themselves, and they have developed a deep antipathy and rejection for those relatives who once befriended them. This rejection is not motivated by malice, but by an instinct for self-preservation. Over time, this sense of distance gradually deepened, and the former family relationship was broken because of it. This phenomenon is not isolated, it exists in every corner of society. 
4. People who like to be aloneThere is no family honor, no majesty of the "big parent", no awe of "don't bully the poor youth".Everything looks at the modern society of "eye money".Reality is like a cold director, making many kinship hypocritical and contrived. The ** of money and interests is like an insurmountable gap, which lies in people's hearts, making family affection fragile. Some people have seen the truth under this veil, and they have chosen to remain silent, no longer talking, but silently distancing. Their hearts are like the surface of a lake blown by the autumn wind, although it is calm, but it can no longer find the temperature it once was. The gap between the rich and the poor, the gap between levels, the conflict between the three views, and the differences in ideas ......All of this is like an invisible wall separating relatives. They no longer want to get together often, they no longer want to be in constant contact, because they know that they have lost that spiritual fit with each other. They began to like a solitary life, without hypocritical politeness, without complicated entanglements. What they pursue is a kind of freedom of mind, a kind of casualness of life. They would rather enjoy the solitude and tranquility than be bound by the hypocrisy of their relatives. 
Relatives are relatives, fate allows us to meet, we should maintain close contact, move around often, and let family affection warm each other's hearts. However, there are always some relatives in life, but the family relationship becomes indifferent, they intrigue, calculate each other, and hurt the hearts of their relatives. As a result, more and more people choose to cut off contact with their relatives. If you can become a relative in this life, cherish it and strive to maintain this family relationship with warmth. If there are relatives who really can't be exchanged for sincerity, then don't force it, just let it be. We must do what we should do, and we will not owe or hurt.