Chinese have always attached great importance to "blood relatives" and believe that "blood relatives" are an important link in social interactions.
Every year, during the festival, many people go to relatives and get to know each other.
In the past, the family had a group of children, a growing population, and many descendants, and the family was reunited and happy.
However, it is not a good thing to have too many relatives, although it can make people feel the warmth of the family, but it may also cause unnecessary trouble.
Pushkin once said that it is a good thing for relatives to help each other, but for the most part, help between relatives will only bring trouble to themselves.
In your life, if you meet these three types of relatives, you must not give too much for them, otherwise, you are likely to become an enemy.
In human nature, everyone has selfishness, and this selfishness cannot be eliminated.
But if you can't restrain your selfishness, you are ruthless and only see superficial benefits.
The relationship between many relatives is to use each other and use each other.
When they find that they don't have any use value, they don't hesitate to throw it away.
In order to achieve their goals, they can do whatever it takes, regardless of their previous feelings.
Ai Qing once said: "Selfishness and greed will hatch a lot of poisonous snakes." ”
In "It's All Good", Zhao Meilan entered the Su family, and she helped her brother openly and secretly.
Although she knew that the Su family was not a rich family, out of the mentality of "helping her brother", she would give him the money she had saved from time to time.
But her selfish brother, not only was he grateful to the Su family for helping her, but he also had to inch in.
After Zhao Meilan's death, he was used to living under the fence, but he was cheeky and asked his nephews for money.
This kind of person has been carried away by greed, and only cares about his own interests, and does not take into account the feelings of others.
Dealing with such relatives can only get deeper and deeper, so it's better to stay away from them.
When relatives are together, they inevitably have to chat a few words, talk about their own affairs, and complain about their daily life.
It's just an emotional exchange, but some relatives are not so simple, and they prefer to communicate in this way.
Either add oil and vinegar, or make up nonsense, so that the people around you talk about it.
Many people don't want to talk about it, but in their opinion, it's a big joke.
Such relatives seem harmless to humans and animals, kind-hearted, and trustworthy.
If you let your guard down on them and tell them your secrets, they will be revealed.
There was once a man who once complained about his aunt and said that she always talked about herself:
Her aunt has loved to inquire about family affairs since she was a child, whether it is in school or work, she knows everything clearly.
Her mother is a very simple person who can explain everything to others, so she is often discussed by relatives.
Every year during the Chinese New Year, there are always some relatives who speak ill of her behind her back, and it is not because her aunt is spreading it outside.
There is a saying that is good, but what is said is wrong.
If you don't want to be bothered by worldly things, stay away from them so that you don't get discovered.
Because we are connected by blood, we have a natural sense of affection for our loved ones, and we will lend a helping hand when others are in trouble.
If he is a person who knows how to repay his kindness, then he will remember this favor and have the opportunity to repay it in the future.
But if you are ruthless and will take revenge, that is, you will turn a blind eye and do not want to repay.
There are even some people who will do some things that will lose their conscience and fall into the well, and treat others in their own way.
Despicable without |Shameful people have always been ungrateful.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Liu Bei had a good relationship with Mi Zhu and Mi Fang in Xuzhou, and their sister was also Liu Bei's wife.
Since then, the Mi brothers have followed Liu Bei, and Liu Bei also regarded them as his confidants and treated them well.
After Liu Bei captured Chengdu, he appointed Mi Fang as the Taishou of Nanjun and assisted Guan Yu in guarding Jingzhou, which won Liu Bei's respect.
But Dongwu suddenly attacked Guan Yu, Mi Fang surrendered to Dongwu without any resistance, Guan Yu was attacked before and after, and finally died on the battlefield.
Mi Fang's injustice ruined Liu Bei's foundation for many years, and he has been in a slump ever since.
Some relatives are born ungrateful, even if you are kind to them, you can't let them know what is most important.
If you believe in them, then your sincerity will be betrayed by them, and eventually you will be hurt.
Oscar Wilde once said, "Insincerity is dangerous, but too much sincerity is fatal." ”
In interpersonal communication, sincerity is the most powerful**, but it cannot be given without reservation.
If you can't see people clearly, you can't see people clearly, and you will only put yourself in danger and let others slaughter you.
Some relatives, if they can't treat them with sincerity, then they must completely dissociate themselves from the relationship, which is not cruel, this is a wise approach.
Some feelings can no longer be maintained, so they must be cut off immediately, after all, sincerity is precious, and it is impossible to take care of everyone.
Only in this way will you be treated sincerely by others, and you will have the extra energy to give the purest emotions to the person who should be given.