In-laws' pension10,000, eat more than 10,000 every dayYuan.
I've always tried to buy new clothes for my parents, but recently I've noticed that the clothes they buy for me are often sitting in my closet and I don't want to wear them. On weekdays, they shop in the small shops on both sides of the market for good and cheap clothes.
I know that their pension is limited, and the total is only 4,000 yuan, so they need to live frugally, buy cheap clothes and food, and control their monthly living expenses at about 1,500 yuan.
But I was shocked to find out that my in-laws, who earn more than my husband, actually live a more frugal life.
My father-in-law is 66 years old, my mother-in-law is 65 years old, and before retirement, the two were engaged in primary school and kindergarten teachers respectively, with a total pension of more than 10,000 yuan, and both have medical insurance, and the financial pressure is not great.
Although their monthly living expenses are only about 2,000, they can save more than 8,000. I've always been curious about their savings**, so last week the unit sent out some fruits and New Year's goods, and I decided to take some of them to visit them.
They looked very surprised, but accepted very politely and asked me to take the cherries back to the kids. Although I first went to visit them, I am deeply grateful for their kindness.
02 My parents-in-law have always been the "paying parents" of our family. During my pregnancy, my child was assessed as being at high risk of growth restriction and was consistently underweight for her gestational age.
In order to let her grow longer, she can grow to 6 catties when she is born, and the family often buys beef and mutton, and I have to eat half a catty of meat every day. At that time, my mother-in-law was already retired, and she would come over every night to help me cook, and my father-in-law would come over after work to eat together.
However, they always gave the beef and mutton to me and my husband to eat, and my mother-in-law only sandwiched one piece, and my father-in-law sandwiched two pieces, although we told them to eat it, they always said that they liked to eat pork, and it didn't matter if they ate beef and sheep or not.
My father-in-law likes to drink two sips of wine at night, and he always eats until the end, and often my husband and I are full, so he uses chopsticks to clip two more pieces of beef and mutton that we have eaten.
I like to eat Swiss rolls, but because I am worried that trans fats are unhealthy, I only buy animal butter and few additives, and it is correspondingly higher. Once, I bought a box of Swiss rolls and gave them to my mother-in-law, but she always refused to eat them, saying she didn't like them; To my father-in-law, he didn't want it, and said let's both eat.
At first I thought they didn't like to eat, but then I tried to make some of them according to the online method, and my parents-in-law knew that I made them myself, and I didn't spend any money, and I ate two yuan for one person.
I realized that they didn't eat it because they thought it was expensive and wanted to keep it for us. With my previous relationship, I knew that if I wanted them to let go of something, I had to take into account two factors: cheap and not wasteful.
So I told them: "The cherries are issued by the unit, they don't cost money, and this thing is not durable, so we have to eat it in a week, and we can't eat it in three bites, and if it is broken and thrown away, it will be wasted." ”
With that, I put the cherries on the table. At this time, I noticed that on the dining table, my in-laws had a bowl of noodles and a bowl of tomatoes and eggs.
03 I knew that my in-laws were thrifty, but I didn't expect to be so thrifty. In order to save some water bills, they always turn on the faucet very small, let the water drip down, and then pick it up to flush the toilet and mop the floor.
They say that if the water is connected like this, the water meter will not turn. Even the water used to wash the vegetables is used to water the flowers. At that time, I thought that my in-laws have a pension of more than 10,000 yuan a month, so they should not be so frugal for dozens of dollars in water bills.
Today, I suddenly came to see them and found that they were so frugal even on what they eat. I went home and told my husband about it. My in-laws are in their 60s, they are not bad for money, and they don't need to subsidize us.
Besides, in order to live a long and healthy life, at least the meat, eggs and milk are balanced, and meat must not be missing. My mother-in-law has diabetes and needs to take medicine to control it, and my father-in-law is obese in the waist and abdomen, and they like to eat pasta, eat too much rice, consume too many carbohydrates, and eat less meat, eggs, milk and vegetables, which is not good for their health.
Unexpectedly, my husband already knew about it. He said that if we don't go back to eat, my in-laws usually eat by themselves, and only eat one stew, such as cabbage, vermicelli, potatoes, eggplant, beans, and pork belly.
In the past, they didn't drink milk, but it was only in the past four or five years that he bought them two boxes a month, and they developed the habit of drinking milk. For breakfast, I usually eat white porridge, steamed buns with eggs, or leftovers from last night, plus eggs and chopped green onions to make fried rice.
Even the liquor that my father-in-law drank was a few dollars a big bottle. Once, he talked to his in-laws, who said that they usually eat no more than 30 yuan a day.
My husband and I have been married for 8 years, and we have a stable life, both children and children, and a stable job and a considerable income. Although I don't usually have to be subsidized by my in-laws, I always hope that they can live a better life.
Parents-in-law have no burden and should enjoy life more. However, they are always too frugal and reluctant to spend money, and I, as a daughter-in-law, have no way to persuade them. Two days ago, I discussed this with my mom, who reminded me that people born in the 50s have experienced poverty and hardship, so they have been frugal and industrious all their lives.
She wants us to understand that our parents' money will be ours in the future, but they are reluctant to open up to us unless the time comes. This made me feel deeply touched and guilty.