Mom, we only have10,000, you can't buy a house.
Title: The daughter-in-law contributed 150,000 yuan, and the mother-in-law forced her to buy a house: filial piety is principled, and the children's affordability should be considered Text: In China, filial piety is a traditional virtue. Whether life is rich or ordinary, we should all fulfill our filial piety.
However, filial piety should also be principled and combined with one's actual ability. Some parents use the name of filial piety to make demands that are divorced from reality, without taking into account the financial affordability of their children.
For example, after the son got married, the mother-in-law did not pay a penny, but the son and daughter-in-law bought a house in the city by their own efforts. When the mother-in-law saw the neighbor's newly renovated house, she forced her son and daughter-in-law to pay for the house.
But every family has its own difficulties and troubles. Therefore, while we are filial to our parents, we should also take into account the financial ability of our children and avoid putting too much burden on them.
My husband and I, classmates in high school, failed after the college entrance examination. We met at the trough of our lives and chose to go to Shenzhen together. In a foreign land, having a hometown that belongs to us has become our greatest comfort to each other.
In Shenzhen, we spent seven years together, during which the years shortened our distance, we cared for each other, helped each other, and experienced the ups and downs of life together.
Time has slowly honed our personalities, and also let us have a deeper understanding and tacit understanding of each other. Two years of love have made our relationship deeper. We all want to settle down in our hometown, where our roots are, where our family and friends are.
So, we made the decision to quit our job in Shenzhen and return to our hometown. Now, I work in a supermarket in the county seat, and he works as a courier for a logistics company.
Although the salary is not high, we can enjoy a lower cost of living in our hometown, and we can save 70,000 or 80,000 yuan a year. This is our story, ordinary and real.
Our love is like the lights of Shenzhen, although it is short-lived, but it flashes with the light of hope. We believe that as long as there is love in our hearts, we can find our own happiness no matter in **.
At the end of 2014, my husband and I entered the palace of marriage hand in hand. At our wedding, my in-laws selflessly paid for everything, even though they lived in the countryside and were not financially well-off.
Since then, we have visited my in-laws every weekend, and before leaving each time, I will give them one or two hundred red envelopes and buy them new clothes on holidays to show our filial piety.
Although we lived in the city in a rented house until 2017, when we took out a loan to buy a 70-square-meter house, I am already very satisfied to have a small nest of my own.
However, shortly after moving into a new house, I found out that I was pregnant, so I decided to quit my job and raise the baby at home, leaving the burden of raising the family to my husband. In order to alleviate our financial pressure, my parents often subsidized us, which made me feel very guilty because I felt that I was gnawing at the old age, hated myself for not being able to earn money, and needed parental support.
Recently, my mother-in-law often called her husband, saying that the house at home was very old, and whenever it rained, the house became an open-air rain field. She also mentioned that the neighbors had all moved to a new house in town, which made us feel a little uneasy.
I thought my mother-in-law was just complaining, but I didn't expect her to have other ideas.
My mother-in-law wanted our family to buy a house in the town, but she asked us directly about the amount of deposit, which may have surprised and confused us. When she offered to let her daughter-in-law contribute 150,000, we found out that her real intention was to buy a property for herself, not for the sake of our lives.
Considering our financial pressure and future plans, we decided not to lend money to my mother-in-law, but this seemed to leave my mother-in-law disappointed and dissatisfied. We don't understand why my mother-in-law insists that we buy property in the town despite our practical difficulties and future plans, especially when she disregards our feelings and needs just to satisfy her own face and vanity.
We hope that the mother-in-law will understand our position and respect our decision.