It is very sad that the problem of singles in rural areas has not been resolved. Although the development of rural areas has brought many improvements, such as improved roads and improved family conditions, the problem of singles has not been alleviated. In my rural village, there are many classmates in their 30s who still don't have a marriage partner. I just learned today that a classmate is getting married, and I am very happy, but there are still many people who have not yet solved the singles problem. Whenever I go back to the village, I always see these unmarried young people playing cards or gathering in the shop to chat. Their parents always can't help but talk about their marital problems, and I understand this very well, as parents, they don't have it easy either. However, the problem of singles in rural areas has not been alleviated, but three puzzling phenomena have emerged.
1. The lives of men and women who used to weave have changed dramatically
The lifestyle of the once rural farmer and weaver has changed dramatically. Today's men no longer work in the fields, and some even do not want to work in the fields, but choose to work in the city to earn money to support their families. The status of married women, especially young daughters-in-law, is gradually declining. They no longer go out to work and stay at home all day. They completely dump the responsibility of caring for the children on the elderly, and sometimes even leave the elderly and children at home, while they go outside to play cards with friends. Sometimes they lose playing cards, and they will go home and lose their temper, blaming their husbands for not making money and marrying the wrong person. They complained to their husbands and in-laws that everything was not going well, and even shirked their responsibilities. The husband and in-laws knew that they could only silently endure their reproaches. In the face of them, the husband can only coax and offer, for fear that they will lose their temper and want a divorce. Now it is more and more difficult to find a daughter-in-law. In rural areas, marrying a daughter-in-law costs a lot of money, even hundreds of thousands of yuan in bride price, and you also need to have a house and a car. This is a big burden for the average rural family. If the daughter-in-law leaves, how can the family raise hundreds of thousands or even millions of yuan again?
2. The phenomenon of divorce in rural areas is increasing day by day
In the past, marriages in rural areas were arranged by parents and did not focus on love. Even if there is a difference of opinion between husband and wife, it is just a quarrel, and it is not easy to divorce. Before I was 18 years old, I had never heard of a divorce in the village. However, since the freedom of love, divorce in rural areas has become more and more common. It's not hard to see why. When parents designate marriage, the bride price is relatively small, and there are not too many cumbersome requirements for the wedding. But nowadays, the bride price is constantly **, and even the purchase of an RV is required. This is unaffordable for many rural families. Many people have to borrow money in order to make up the bride price, resulting in poverty after marriage. Living in poverty day in and day out is unacceptable for most women. The money earned every day is used to pay off debts, and this dilemma is not only unbearable for women, but also for men to carry the financial burden. In order to make more money, the man goes out to work, the husband and wife live separately, communication becomes difficult, the relationship breaks down, and finally chooses to divorce.
3. The outflow of rural population and the decline of population
More and more rural people are choosing to go out to work because they no longer have much income from farming in rural areas. But many choose to leave the elderly and children in their hometowns. Although this is a helpless move, after all, working outside the home rarely has free time to take care of the elderly and children. Although they are reluctant to leave their families, they set their sights on working in other places, hoping to earn more money. As a result, the rural population is declining. Due to the limited education level of the peasants, most of the manual labor they do when they go out to work is usually only a few dollars a year. As a result, they rarely go home, or even come back for several years to visit their families, just to save money for the elderly and children. While this is due to financial considerations, such a separation is a pain for the family. I hope that the economy in our rural areas can continue to improve, and every family can live a happy life, no longer running around for a livelihood and not being able to go home. It is believed that with the development of society, the country's policies will get better and better, and the countryside will become better at that time.
1.Strengthen family education: Educate family members to respect, care and support each other, enhance their ability to communicate and understand each other, and repair family relationships to reduce the occurrence of divorce.
2.Publicize the correct outlook on marriage and love: Educate young people in rural areas to establish a correct outlook on marriage and love, not to pursue material things excessively, but to pay attention to the stability of feelings and families, and to the warmth and happiness of the family.
3.Strengthen rural economic construction: provide more employment opportunities, improve the income level of peasants, reduce the burden of bride price, and fundamentally solve the problem of marriage.
4.Strengthen the construction of rural culture: Through the development of rich and diverse cultural and recreational activities, improve the cultural literacy and quality of life of rural residents, increase opportunities for mutual communication, and promote family harmony.
It is hoped that through these measures, the problem of singles in rural areas can be solved, the phenomenon of divorce can be reduced, the rural population can be increased, and the rural areas will become better and happier.