Text丨The West Chamber is affectionate.
Time is not long, may you meet in my words before it is too late!
After falling into a relationship, who doesn't want to completely conquer the other person and let him be fascinated by himself alone? But it's easy to imagine, but it's very hard to really make a person toss and turn for himself.
Because men and women have different ways of thinking, if you only use a woman's thoughts to judge a man's behavior, he will naturally be unmoved.
Love is actually a game, the more you calm down, the more anxious the man is, because he can't control you, so he will pay more enthusiasm to please.
Remember, in a relationship, a woman, the biggest hole card to conquer a man is not beauty, but these things.
1. Your attitude
A woman's attitude is crucial in a relationship, you can actually imagine yourself as a handful of sand, if you hold it too tightly, you can't hold the sand; If you hold it too loosely, you will have very little to grasp.
Therefore, it is especially important to maintain a basic sense of relaxation.
Mr. Lim, 28, who is still single, said: "I'm really scared of falling in a relationship, I hate the feeling of being watched on my every move.
When I was in a relationship with my ex-girlfriend, I didn't have any personal space or time.
No matter what she does, she must guard me, and her phone must be checked once a day, I am also a human being, this kind of relationship is too depressing, I can't stand it. ”
Men hate being completely disciplined, but you can't be completely undisciplined, so your attitude is especially important at this time.
You can clearly express your bottom line when you should be in charge, and never regress; Give the other person enough time and space to be free when it's time to relax.
Love is not a shackle, you want a man to completely surrender to you, you let him be unsure of your attitude.
A smart woman will turn herself into a cat, which is both cold and clingy, so that men want to get closer, but they dare not cross the line easily, so they can only be obediently handled.
Second, your way of thinking
There are fundamentally different ways of thinking between men and women, so when it comes to expressing love, both parties cannot quickly understand each other.
If this misunderstanding is not resolved in time, it is likely to lead to a breakup.
Therefore, women with high emotional intelligence will use male thinking to think and understand feelings from a man's point of view, so that men can't stop.
Miss Yang said: "Men actually hate women who twist and pinch them, and they have to guess everything, and both of them will be tired."
Because I used to be like this, I always wanted the other party to surprise and romance for me, but I didn't like what he prepared, thinking that he didn't understand me, and then sulking silently.
Then I changed my mind, and I started to ask for something directly, even if I wanted to buy something.
Since changing the way we get along, our relationship has gotten better, and he loves me more and more. ”
Relationship is a long business, and men and women are easy to get tired in the process of getting along, so what women have to do is to relieve this fatigue on both sides.
And to put it bluntly, a quick and quick solution is undoubtedly the best way.
If you put yourself in a man's shoes and be honest with each other, the man will feel more relaxed.
He can also understand you more quickly and pay for you more quickly when he gets along with you, so that he will be willingly controlled by you.
3. Your charm
Note that the charisma we are talking about here is not the physical attractiveness, but the charisma of your personality.
There are many ways to make a man swoon for you, and the most stupid is to use your appearance to gain the favor of the other person.
Before conquering a man, you must first understand that for a man, what he can't get is the best, and the easier it is to get it, the less he will cherish it.
Therefore, you have to guide him to give more for you when you get along.
There are some silly women in the relationship, and the man just sends a bouquet of flowers or invites a candlelit dinner, and she immediately falls in love with it.
But men usually don't cherish this kind of woman, because it's too easy to get, and he will feel cheap.
Smart women know that it is necessary to guide a man to spend time on himself, and slowly guide him to pay more energy in getting along.
A woman who loves to toss has a different kind of charm in the eyes of men, and men will think that this kind of woman is worthy of his distress and worthy of his treatment.
So, you have to learn to release this charm of yourself in getting along with each other and let men be conquered.
Closing Remarks:
Love is like a game, but it's not a game, because defeating the other person is not really a victory, conquest is.
And men have their own thinking and logic in relationships, you can't blindly use a woman's way of thinking to pinch him, let alone try to use beauty to make men surrender.
After all, what you get in exchange for your appearance will be lost sooner or later.
I hope you remember that conquering a man depends on means, and you can use these three things to stimulate a man's sense of loss, arouse his desire for comfort, and guide his desire to give.
Once a man falls into this kind of love atmosphere that you arrange, he will soon fall and be pinched by you.