A person's model often has a profound impact on the future, because of his thinking about the world, there is his thinking about life. People with patterns tend to be open-minded and can take and put them, while people with small patterns are a bit like frogs at the bottom of a well, with a narrow vision, and they don't think deeply about everything and live a thorough life. Life is naturally bumpy and infinite. If you have the following manifestations, then you are a person with a small pattern, hurry up and get rid of it.
In "Idle Travel", listening to Peng's migration to the southern world, the vulture smiled and said: "I decided to fly, grab the elm and stop, when I can't come, but control on the ground only, Xi to the south of 90,000 miles." ”
Similarly, in the face of his companions' ridicule of his pursuit of wealth, Chen Sheng sighed: "A bird knows the ambition of a whooper swan. ”
Different models don't conspire with each other. The same is to write materials, and people with small patterns think about how to highlight their ideas and highlight their personal achievements. People with a big picture will stand on a global perspective, combine the background of the times, and write with depth and breadth.
Haggling is a great feature of the little people. People who love computing are narrow-minded and like to look at things with a narrow mindset, but they don't know how to think and plan for the long term. A craftsman built a house for his master's family for decades, and when he was ready to retire, his master asked him to build the last house. The guy thought he was going to squeeze me when I was about to retire, so he cut corners on construction and didn't really do it. When the house was completed and accepted by the other party, the other party said, thank you for my dedication, this house is for you. Although the craftsman smiled and said thank you, he couldn't say what was in his heart.
The size of a person can often be seen in his words and deeds. Those who are small tend to be overly arrogant and pompous, they like to show off their achievements in front of others, or they despise the successes of others. Such behavior can often be uncomfortable and even disgusting.
Bai Yansong once said something like this in his speech. A student who was not admitted to Tsinghua University felt like he was in the darkest moment of his life. I don't think it's a setback. He believes that real setbacks are things related to life, such as these career setbacks are just an experience. However, because we don't encounter any setbacks, we magnify this small local setback and feel like the sky is falling. When you can't solve it, your psychological quality will get worse and worse.
On the road of life, we will encounter problems of one kind or another. In the face of these problems, maintain an optimistic attitude and believe that the storm will pass and you will go more smoothly. As the saying goes, "Not everyone can be the first to eat a crab." ”
Now that we follow the rules, it is easy to feel limited, because we lack the courage to innovate and grab crabs, and it is easy to blindly follow the trend. A person with a big pattern must be a person who dares to break through, innovate, and can continue to break through himself. On the contrary, people in small patterns have limited thinking, cannot develop and innovate, and are easy to stick to the rules.
We often say that we should take a long-term view, and those who are really successful have a big pattern, because only the higher they stand, the farther they see. If a person's eyes are too short and they only look at the present, then their tricks are small, and even if the opportunity is in front of them, they can't grasp it.
While reading the book "Rules of the Workplace", I came across such a case. Xiao Li, an employee of a company, has strong business ability, and the boss sent him to teach new employees experience. When Xiao Li received this task, he agreed on the surface, but he was reluctant to say a word behind his back. The boss didn't say anything, but he knew. Later, once the company sent Xiao Li to study abroad, but Xiao Li refused the company on the grounds that there was no bonus. He said he had enough experience that he would rather take paid leave than work. This time, the boss fired him directly and commented on him with eight words: "The pattern is too small to become a big tool." ”
Confucius said, "Wealth and status are what everyone desires and pursues." "On a secular level, most people have a goal in life, which is to make more money and achieve higher status. While the goals are similar, everyone takes a different approach and approach. For example, opening a restaurant is also for better management, some people will attract customers by improving the quality of service, food taste, etc., while others will suppress competitors by slandering and spreading rumors.
In the same way, the great powers will not focus on their immediate interests, but will compete in a fair and legitimate way. Only in this way can his business last. As a child, I learned Pushkin's fable "The Farmer and the Goldfish". The old woman who lived by the sea was a little pitiful, until she met a little goldfish who could help her wish come true. But the little goldfish fulfilled her wishes again and again, but she was never satisfied, and in the end she could only be "beaten back to her original shape" and continue to live a poor life. Such a result is applauded, and in their eyes there is nothing to ask for but profit.
People who are greedy and unforgettable have been struggling with "making two more money" all their lives. They can't enjoy all the good things in life right now except money. In fact, even in poor days, as long as you can be with people who love each other, it is a kind of happiness. Unfortunately, they want something far more real and broader than just emotion.
As the grumbling continued, I was reminded of those who were jealous of the success of others. In their eyes, the light of others seems to be a dazzling light, which makes them can't help but close their eyes and choose to close their hearts in jealousy. Being jealous of someone else's success is an inner battle. In their eyes, the achievements of others are like an invisible dagger that pierces deep into their fragile hearts. And the success of others turns into a fire of jealousy, burning with their jealousy and unfulfilled desires. They are like a group of children who are lost in the jungle, watching others find their way out, only to be trapped in the dense bushes. Each other's cheers were like piercing laughter, making themselves feel even heavier helplessness.
Those who don't have a "pattern" are also often conservative and have a hard time accepting new things and changes. They like to follow the rules and think that any new ideas are not relevant to them. For example, in the digital age, they still cling to the traditional way of doing business or learning, refusing to update technological devices such as software or operating systems, or even trying new cultural products such as food and**. This kind of mindset makes it impossible for them to adapt to the trend of the times and the progress of society.
In modern society, we are in an era of information, and it has become extremely easy to obtain and disseminate information. People are becoming more and more reliant on social** and the internet. However, this dependence also brings with it the problem that people are easily influenced by other people's opinions and opinions, and thus lose the ability to think independently. In this case, many people will become "conformist", blindly conforming, unable to maintain independent thinking. This kind of behavior not only makes people a rabble, but also deprives people of the ability to fully understand and think deeply. Moreover, people are easily misled by some bad information and thus get lost in the world of false information.
A person's model is a comprehensive expression of his vision, way of thinking, values, etc., and one of the most important aspects is the sense of sharing and cooperation. If a person's structure is too small, he tends to be too selfish. This kind of person is not good at sharing, and is not willing to cooperate with others, only thinking about their own interests, and will not consider the feelings and interests of others. This kind of behavior is not only humiliating, but also affects interpersonal relationships and social development.
If a person is too selfish, his interpersonal relationships will be greatly affected because his attitude and behavior towards others make people feel that he does not care about the feelings of others and only cares about his own interests. It is difficult for such a person to win the trust and respect of others, and it is difficult to establish a good cooperative relationship with others.
In life, we will inevitably encounter some things that are difficult to let go. Some people can calmly face the pain and frustration of the past and start a new life, while people with small patterns often have a hard time getting rid of the shadows and pain of the past. They are always immersed in the past, and this negative mindset will make them lose confidence and courage in the future, and it will also make them miss a lot of good opportunities. Therefore, people with small patterns need to learn to let go of the past and see it as a process of growth and learning, so that they can learn from it experience and wisdom. At the same time, they also need to face the challenges and opportunities of their future lives.
People with a low lifestyle are more difficult, which leads to the illusion in their eyes that their lives are the hardest and most tiring, and that others are better than themselves, and new jealousy arises. I always feel that the world is working against me, and I don't like what I see, and what I don't like when I see it. As long as people with low modes see others making mistakes, they will never take the initiative to comfort them, but will only attack them with the most vicious words, so as to stand on the highest moral height, improve their own value, and gain a sense of superiority. They always speak with thorns, never say good things, only find fault with others, and others will only feel uncomfortable when they listen to them.
Some people are self-centered, they are right and others are wrong. Worst of all, when you make mistakes, you are passing the buck. Such a situation is often encountered in some units, that is, everyone does one thing together, and if it is messed up, the "hypocrite" will run away, and it has nothing to do with him, or even "the villain sues first".
Men with big tricks dare to say no. If you really make your mistake, you have to take responsibility, and then actively redeem it, no matter how big it is. A person's pattern not only affects his destiny, but also determines the key to personal achievement. A truly broad person can see the truth in adversity, hone his will in challenges, and reach a higher realm. Therefore, each of us should constantly improve our own model, broaden our horizons, and enrich our hearts.