Now educate children, so to speakIt's the parents who fight. What kind of family is what kind of child is raised. All parents should be the first responsible person for their children's education and adhere to the "three more, three less".
Three more
1.Take more responsibilityHome is the root of education. Parents are lifelong teachers of their children.
Excellent parents do not depend on the level of culture, but on whether they have a sense of responsibility.
The sense of responsibility refers to the fact that parents can take the initiative to take responsibility when facing their children's education problems, do not shirk, do not evade, and solve problems with a positive attitude.
Some parents may think that their children's education is a matter for the school and has nothing to do with them.
However, this notion is wrong now.
Children's education is not only a matter of school, but also a matter of family and parents.
When parents have a sense of responsibility, they will take the initiative to learn, take the initiative to understand their children's needs, educate their children in the most suitable way, be a guide on the road of children's growth, and set a good example for their children.
2.Spend more time with each otherObama once said, "I won't be a ** for the rest of my life, but I will be a good father for the rest of my life." "You know, excellent children, parents will spend a lot of time with them to grow up.
The companionship here does not mean that you can just be there as long as someone is there, butYou must not only be in people, but also in your heart. This kind of companionship is called high-quality companionship.
Even if you leave work late every day, as long as you take half an hour a day to talk to your child about what happened during the day, he will naturally be willing to communicate with you.
The child will be willing to tell you the confusion he encounters, and then you can understand what the child is concerned about, what he needs, what he fears, and give the child spiritual strength, so that you can really enter the child's heart.
3.Multi-cooperationTo educate children, we need teachers, and we need parents. Only by co-parenting between home and school can children grow up healthily.
A child's greatest luck is to have both parents who are never short of places and teachers who abide by their duties.
The more successful the child's education will be if parents and teachers actively cooperate.
Therefore, parents should respect their children's teachers and learn to maintain the teacher's image in the children's hearts.
Of course, if a child makes a mistake, it is necessary to have clear rewards and punishments in order for the child to grow.
Only when there is harmony between home and school, can children really benefit.
Three less
1.Less commandsMany parents think that children who obey orders are well-behaved children, but this is not the case. Children have been called around for a long time, have no own opinions and thoughts, and are prone to psychological problems. And a harmonious parent-child relationship should be,Command your child less, learn to listen to your child's opinions, and talk more to your child on an equal footing. 2.Less big talkSome parents always like to teach their children this or that big truth, but this kind of education is often counterproductive.
The reason why children are children is that their way of thinking is not as good as ours, and if you just talk about big truths, many times they can't understand and won't understand.
Of course, this does not mean that you should not reason with your childrenThe truth should still be taught, but it is necessary to grasp a degree, and more importantly, let the child experience it for himself.
3.Less material rewardsWith the use of material rewards, children will gradually develop the psychology of pursuing material things, which is not conducive to the healthy development of children's physical and mental health. Parents should learn to make good use of material rewards and grasp the balance. For example, you can focus on rewarding children for good behaviors and weakening the rewards for results. Rather than material rewards, we advocate more:Spiritual encouragement is the mainstay, supplemented by material rewards. Spiritual encouragement often has a greater and more profound impact than material rewards, such as a hug, a smile, etc.
Parents are a mirror of their children, and their words and deeds will become their children's "learning materials". So,Teaching by example and being a good example is the best education for children.