Ballroom dancing is very popular among the elderly, and there are often elderly people dancing in the squares of the city. However, ballroom dancing is also a much-criticized sport, and some people feel that they should not be exposed to ballroom dancing, otherwise it is easy to have a bad impact on their families.
60-year-old Aunt Luo also likes to dance ballroom dancing after retirement, and it is unbelievable that her wife wants to divorce her because of this. What's going on here? Next, let's listen to Aunt Luo's story.
My surname is Luo and I am 60 years old. My ex-husband and I are in free love, and although his family's economic conditions are not very good, and my parents are not very happy with him, I still insist on marrying him. After marriage, I also lived the happy life I wanted, although the material conditions of the family were not very good, but my husband has always been very good to me and did not let me suffer any grievances.
But happy days are always short-lived, and my first marriage was short-lived. When I was 32 years old, my ex-husband died in an accident, and my daughter was just four years old at that time.
But my mother-in-law always felt that it was my bad life that caused my ex-husband to leave early, and he didn't give me a penny of compensation, and he never gave us any help materially. I didn't earn much at that time, and my in-laws didn't care about it, so life was really difficult.
So after two or three years, I took my daughter to remarry my current wife. This second marriage is like living together, my wife also has a son, he only thinks about his son, and marrying me is also to find someone to help take care of the children. We live together, the living expenses are given by my wife, and I do the housework.
However, I was not happy in this marriage, my wife always felt that he gave more money, and we both had to rely on him to support him, so he often looked high in front of me.
He was also not good to my daughter, he was always very cold and never bought anything for my daughter. But he is also a double standard person, he can be bad to my daughter, but if I treat his son badly and don't buy a copy for his son when I buy something for my daughter, he will definitely be angry with me.
Although I knew that this kind of life was not fair, it was really difficult for me to raise children alone at that time, so I didn't think about getting divorced. Bear with it, don't divorce, you can give your daughter better material conditions.
In this way, our marriage has been more than 20 years, and I have become completely accustomed to this kind of life.
I retired relatively late, only last year. Originally, I thought that I would help my daughter take care of the children after I retired, but my in-laws went to help early, and the two old people with a child were also busy, so I didn't need me at all.
My daughter also said that I should enjoy my old age, and that she can be responsible for her own life when she grows up, and told me not to worry about her affairs all the time.
So after retirement, I lived a very leisurely life, drinking tea and chatting with friends every day, this kind of life was something I never thought of before, I really didn't expect that I would be able to live such a comfortable life in my old age after retirement.
During this period, my wife asked me to help his son take care of the children, but I was unwilling. His son has always looked at me unpleasantly, and he used to embarrass me, although I have a good temper, but I am not stupid, and it is impossible to repay me with virtue.
Because of this, my wife complained about me a lot and always quarreled with me. I didn't pay much attention to him, I have no worries now, my daughter is married, and I still have a pension of 2,000 yuan a month, why should I look at his face to live.
However, he was always annoying to talk about me, so I didn't like to go home, so I went to my friend's house when I had time. Later, I found out that two sisters liked to go ballroom dancing and ran to the square whenever they had time. I thought to myself that I would be fine anyway, so I went to see it, and as a result, I became obsessed with ballroom dancing.
I think ballroom dancing is really a good sport, especially for seniors of our age. So from then on, I went ballroom dancing every morning after breakfast and didn't come home until four or five o'clock in the evening.
I met a lot of new people there, and my life was very rich. Two or three times a week, we all have an event to hang out together. I feel that this kind of life is very good, every day is full and happy, I used to be at home every day face to face with my wife, the two always quarrel, it is a world of difference.
But after about two or three months, my life was not so good. My wife was very upset when he heard from a friend that I went ballroom dancing every day.
He thinks that only people with bad styles like to go ballroom dancing, and those who dance ballroom dances do unknown things in the name of ballroom dancing. So he didn't allow me to do ballroom dancing, I think this request is very unreasonable, we do our duty to do ballroom dancing, and we have never crossed the line.
Everyone is just friends, and none of the dancers develop into other relationships. My wife doesn't trust me when she says this, she is suspicious of me, and whoever puts this kind of thing on will be unhappy.
The two of us quarreled over it, and of course I didn't listen to him in the end. After all, I am worthy of my heart, my body is not afraid of shadows, and I have never done anything to betray my marriage. If I don't go ballroom dancing after listening to him, I will have a ghost in my heart, and she won't let me go when the time comes. Besides, I'm also an independent individual, so I listen to him in everything.
So after that, I insisted on going ballroom dancing every day, and we both quarreled about it every day. One day, when it was late at the end of the day, a few of us dancers went home together, and we ran into my wife on the way. In fact, there were men and women that day, and we kept a distance from each other, so there was nothing misleading.
As a result, my wife immediately got angry when she saw it, and ran over and pushed the male friend who was closest to me, and before we could react, he scolded as if I had done something sorry for him, and those words were really ugly.
The two of them fought in the end, and we fought for a long time. Later, when I went home, my wife said to me very seriously: "You must not go to square dancing in the future, how can I rest assured that you are so close to those men all day long?" My friend didn't laugh at me behind my back when he found out, and if you dare to go again, then we will divorce. ”
I've never seen anyone like this, how can I be so controlling? I am not even allowed to make normal friends, and I am not his belonging, so why should I be asked to do this? In the past, he always liked to laugh with some women, which has long exceeded the scope of normal friends, and when I talked about him, he also said that I had a small belly and chicken intestines, and that I misunderstood him.
As a result, I haven't done anything yet, and he just said such things, which is really too much. The more he wouldn't let me go, the more I wanted to go. It's natural to have your own hobbies, and it's not wrong to love ballroom dancing. So I still didn't listen to him, and my wife threatens me with divorce every day, but he just doesn't take action.
Everyone commented on me, is it really wrong to love ballroom dancing?