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Recently, a wedding storm occurred in Taiyuan, Shanxi, which caused widespread controversy and attention. A woman's insistence on recovering the 500 yuan wedding money she gave to her classmate has raised questions and discussions. The woman said that when her classmate got married in 2017, she gave her 500 yuan of money. However, when the woman got married by herself, when she invited her classmates to attend the wedding, she was rejected by the other party on the grounds that she was pregnant, and she has been silent about the wedding money. Therefore, the woman felt very angry, found a screenshot of the transfer that year, and decided to return the 500 yuan gift money she gave.
This incident has aroused heated discussions among netizens. Some people supported the woman's decision, arguing that since the classmate did not fulfill his promise to attend the wedding, he should take the initiative to return the gift money. After all, Suili is very closely related to relatives in China. Only with relatives can it be taken back. If you give it to your friends and classmates, when you are in your 30s or even 40s, you will feel that the gift you gave at the beginning is a stupid act and there is no return. As people's geographical locations continue to change, so will friendships, is it necessary for us to forcibly maintain relationships with the so-called "friends" of the past? In fact, forcibly retaining these relationships will only be a waste of money and will not lead to anything substantial. When people go to big cities and start a new life, the old friendship should gradually fade and stop coming and going back and forth again. It's the same if you go back to your hometown, it's your relatives and new colleagues who can really help you, not your former classmates and friends. So, in general, the question is not a question of snobbery or having money or not, but a reality that has to be accepted. The number of friendships we can maintain is very limited and prone to breakage. It would be better for us to get used to accepting this fact.
As a way to express emotions, we all need to abide by some rules and precautions when attending weddings, birthday banquets and other occasions. This not only maintains harmony in our relationships, but also demonstrates our courtesy and respect. Here are some rules and precautions about the ceremony, let's take a look.
Gifts are a kind of mutual affection, so no matter how much money others give you, we should give a similar share, or even an appropriate amount. If we give less money than others give us, others will think we are stingy and will look down on us. Therefore, no matter who you give the gift to, you must respect the share of the gift money and don't take advantage of others.
The share of the gift should be determined according to one's own financial ability, and should not be too comparative. Especially when giving gifts to leaders and superiors, you should be consistent with your colleagues. If we are too ostentatious and beyond what we can bear, we will only attract the disgust and opposition of others.
We will meet some people who do not have a very harmonious relationship with our relatives, and for those relatives who do not have good intentions for us and have impure motives for us, it is completely understandable to refuse to give gifts. Gift-giving is a way to express emotion, not a means of coping with entertainment. Therefore, we have every right to maintain an independent position and not be swayed by it. In this way, we can better screen out relatives who are really good to us and reduce unnecessary troubles.
Overall, courtesy is an important form of social etiquette and an expression of respect and concern for others. When attending weddings and other occasions, we should follow an appropriate share of the gift money, understand and respect the other person's financial situation, and maintain an independent position with unfriendly relatives. In this way, we can maintain good interpersonal relationships and increase the depth of friendships.
The incident of the woman recovering the 500 yuan wedding gift of her classmate caused a heated discussion among netizens. We can see from this incident that as an expression of human affection, Sui Li has a very important position in China. However, we also need to recognize that gifts can only be recovered between blood relatives, and that gifts between non-relatives are likely to become wasteful. We can't force our relationships with past friends, because friendships are limited in number and can easily break. And when attending weddings and other occasions, we should also abide by the corresponding etiquette rules, maintain moderation and sincerity, and enhance our friendship with each other.
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