The deepest love for children is never for "your benefit", but encourages them to show their true selves.
In this vast world, if there is one person who can lead you to change your life path, it is undoubtedly your parents. Every word and deed of parents will affect the direction and path of a child's life. They have the ability to stand at the pinnacle of morality, provide guidance and advice on your life, and confidently claim to be for you.
For you, there is no room for any rebuttal.
In the TV series "Parents Love", Jiang Weimin is a typical character. Although the work mainly focuses on the love story between the parents, the author presents those shocking tales of fate when dealing with the nuances of family relationships.
In those days, every family had three or four children, so education was not seen as an important thing as it is now. In this process, the relationship between parents and children becomes a problem, especially for children. Jiang Defu and An Jie cannot be considered a pair of competent parents. Their son was sent to live with his grandmother when he was a child, while An Jie lived with his mother until he grew up. In the original work, the daughter chose to commit suicide because she liked sleeping pills excessively, and this indifferent attitude towards her children reflects the author's deep dissatisfaction with her parents.
However, this was actually a common phenomenon of homeschooling in that era, different from the more open-minded way of thinking that we are now exposed to. We need a kind of inclusion, a space where we can create value for ourselves. Although knowledge may not change our lives for the better, it does inspire a strong desire for independence and freedom.
As the years passed, more people began to desire to leave their homes. In this noisy world, people yearn for freedom, for being free from shackles, for a life that is free from constraints. As Ni Ping expressed in the show: If there is an afterlife, I don't need parents, nor children, let alone a family. Perhaps, the more we try to escape, the deeper the confusion becomes. In many cases, we seem to live more transparently, but this only makes us feel more pain, because life is essentially a rare, confusing act of self-deception.
At that time, children were limited by conventional thinking and lacked control over their own destiny. Jiang Weimin is full of enthusiasm for the operation of the tea shop, and he regards every piece of tea as his own child, and takes care of and manages it with his heart. As a result, Jiang Weimin spent his life under the control of An Jie, and despite his misfortunes, he never complained. Jiang Weimin felt An Jie's kindness and was determined to work hard to run the tea shop and create a better future with his own hands. It is for this reason that the writer strengthened An Jie's compensation to Jiang Weimin in the play, and helped him open a tea shop by raising funds, thus giving him a free life.
In the original work, Jiang Defu and An Jie have three sons and four daughters, but their attitude towards Jiang Weimin is unfair, and this unfairness is because of their parents' high expectations for them.
A life full of expectations, with the honor and dignity that parents expect.
An Jie has always been a woman who pursues vanity, in her married life, she deeply felt the honor brought by Jiang Defu's identity, and after hearing the words "officer's wife" said by her sister, she was secretly proud in her heart. She knew that she was a good man, that she was a good husband. For intellectuals like her, she has always had a sense of reverence for the superiority that comes with intellectual identity.
In Jiang Yaning's body, she saw the hope of a writer's daughter, so she took out all the books in her cabinet to show her, and this hope made her happy and proud. In her eyes, a writer is not only a creative genius, but also a unique existence. Unlike Jiang Defu's view of a writer, her definition of a writer is intellectual and superior to others.
After her two sons enlisted in the army, Anjie put all her expectations on her youngest son, and her goal was to raise a college student. She spent a lot of time and energy working hard for her youngest son's studies. Only in this way can she achieve perfection in her life, which is both her expectation and her pursuit.
Although his peers on the island had already left the island, and although Jiang Weimin, who was naturally fond of excitement, had long wanted to pat his ass and leave, he could not convince his mother. Because in her opinion, her son is the only child on the island who can rely on and rely on. The woman's position in the family is indestructible, and she insists that her youngest son at least complete high school.
An Jie was basically not discussing, he just said to Jiang Weimin in the form of notice or inform: "You have to finish high school for me." An Jie's words fell, and a spark of rebellion surged in Jiang Weimin's heart. Jiang Weimin has lived under the influence of his brothers and sisters since he was a child, his character is always so obedient and submissive, and he always listens to An Jie's suggestions without reservation.
After verification, AnJie's choice is indeed correct. In the near future, the Nanjing Academy of Foreign Chinese Languages plans to recruit a student from among the younger generation within the military in order to include him in an English course designed for diplomat training.
Due to An Jie's resolute request, only Jiang Weimin is now the only child on the island who meets the age requirements. Jiang Weimin became the focus of attention on the island, and everyone asked him for advice on the wisdom of life. The whole family cheered for An Jie's past ingenuity, and Jiang Weimin was also considered a stupid person, and his life was once again facing a huge transformation.
It is a pity that he paid for the mistakes made by Jiang Defu, which is what people often say, "the father pays off the debt."
The person who took away this only qualification was the family of the martyr bullied by Jiang Defu's son in the play, the child named Xu Mengmeng.
Because of this child, Jiang Defu had a physical altercation with him, which was also the only time he acted violently against his own son in the play. In the play, Jiang Defu did not hesitate to use force in order to protect the child. Jiang Defu's consistent tolerant attitude is actually unreasonable to treat children in this way.
In the original work, Jiang Defu's son bullied the father of the martyr's child, and all this was caused by Jiang Defu's judgment error. Jiang Defu listened to the advice of his subordinates and ordered all personnel to evacuate. It was a little-known mine, and when everyone thought it didn't pose a threat, the subordinate warned Jiang of the potential risks.
Despite this, Jiang Defu did not listen, he asked them to carry out demining and bomb disposal work, and at the suggestion of his subordinates, Jiang Defu chose to leave the scene. Jiang Defu carried the concern and apology of that subordinate alone, and was lonely in the dead of night, often falling into endless self-blame and repentance. It is regrettable that the subordinate was killed in the sudden bomb incident, which has also become the regret of Jiang Defu's life.
Since then, Jiang Defu has often been responsible for taking care of the family left behind by his subordinates, and even because his son bullied Xu Mengmeng, his son's right ear was injured and deaf. Xu Mengmeng's mother pondered that if she could join the foreign **, she would not only win glory for the family, but also seek justice for her son. Xu Mengmeng's mother has a strong interest in this foreign ** place, and she is also witty and smart, and she also recognizes that this is a rare and good opportunity.
Although Xu Mengmeng is not too old, the backdoor turmoil that year did set a precedent for this field. Children are no longer limited by age in this day and age. Even a child with a deaf ear is eligible to join the military, so why can't a child with good hearing and vision join the military?
The woman was on the move, but An Jie was determined not to compromise, and she was responsible for sorting out Jiang Weimin's clothes and daily necessities. An Jie rummaged in the cabin looking for the things Jiang Weimin needed, carefully sorting them out one by one. Jiang Weimin's long-distance voyage undoubtedly injected new hope into An Jie's future life, so she naturally put in a lot of work.
It is a pity that An Jie finally chose to back down. When the woman knelt in front of An Jie, she couldn't ignore the respect of the tradition, and even though it represented all her expectations, she chose to back down.
Jiang Weimin missed the opportunity in his encounter with the English language, and his life has gone through one turning point after another, but in these turns, although he is the central character of the story, he has always been helpless.
Jiang Weimin's fate was very fortuitous and did not have much to do with his personal efforts and struggles.
Originally, he thought that he would have the opportunity to learn ABC in Nanjing City, but a few years later, during the boom of going to the mountains and going to the countryside, he was sent to the production team to plant crops. The dreams of youth are tightly bound by the chains of reality, and the longing in his heart has turned into the sweat of being with the land, and each burden of soil seems to carry his desire for the future. Shovels, hoes, and rakes constituted an indispensable part of his life's journey, and he set out reluctantly but helplessly.
An Jie's indebtedness to Jiang Weimin is obvious. When describing the plot of sending Jiang Weimin off, the author Liu Jing described it in the book: "My mother's hand kept shaking in mid-air, and suddenly she withdrew her hand and covered her mouth, blocking her choking in the depths of her trembling throat."
The woman who took away Jiang Weimin's place kept apologizing and currying favor with him, but Jiang Weimin's face showed strong disgust, and he discarded the relics she had given to his husband on the boat. Jiang Weimin silently cursed this arrangement in his heart, feeling that he was forced to leave the life in the city, and going to the mountains and the countryside became a kind of helplessness. Choosing to go to the mountains and go to the countryside was not only Jiang Weimin's personal decision, they were even deeply disgusted by it.
Jiang Weimin's concession brought stability to Jiang Defu, and if Xu Mengmeng received more compensation, Jiang Defu's mood would also be better. Jiang Defu was quite relieved in his heart, and this cold attitude seemed to bring him some relief. Therefore, he was indifferent to this incident of competing for a place, and even supported giving up the place to Xu Mengmeng.
Jiang Defu's loyalty and honesty are destined to only let his own people be wronged, and choose to make amends for others. Jiang Weimin savored the bitterness of life in helplessness, and he knew that the trick of fate was not the only way out. However, Jiang Weimin's life experience is reshaped, and although he is innocent, he does not have a choice.
As Jiang Yafei said in the play, choosing to go to the mountains and the countryside is Jiang Weimin's personal decision, and he does not have any right to complain. Jiang Weimin was grateful, worked silently, and finally opened up a world in the tea shop, and his persistence was admirable. When I saw An Jie raising money for Jiang Weimin to open a tea shop, I was full of dissatisfaction and couldn't understand why An Jie felt so guilty.
After reading that book, I deeply realized Anjie's shortcomings. For the writer Liu Jing, she wanted to show everyone how much An Jie owed Jiang Weimin, but because of this unfinished plot, we misread Jiang Weimin.
Throughout his life, he was immersed in the expectations of his parents, and unlike other children who were free and easy, he was expected to have high expectations, but the reality did not go as smoothly as expected.
Perhaps, on the road of life, we need to make our own choices after all, whether we regret it or not, we are no different from others.
Everyone's life journey is full of uncertainties and unexpected twists of fate.
Although we can't foresee the end of every road, it's really one of life's highlights, right?