In a mediation of a family conflict in Surabaya County, a mediator was violently attacked by the family of a domestic violence woman because he persuaded a woman who had been subjected to domestic violence, resulting in a head injury and bleeding. The incident raised questions about the mediator's conduct and concerns about the way family conflicts were handled.
It is understood that the mediator went to the domestic violence woman's home and tried to persuade her to reconcile with her domestic violence husband. His logic is that no one is perfect, it is normal for husband and wife to quarrel, and temper tantrums are inevitable, and husbands should be given a chance to correct their mistakes. He also used human nature as the reason to promote goodness, and suggested that the woman who was subjected to domestic violence magnified it, endured the fault of the violent husband, and maintained the marriage relationship.
However, this remark was not endorsed by the domestic violence woman and her mother's family, on the contrary, they believed that the mediator stood on the side of the domestic violence man, emphasizing the persuasion of peace and ignoring the support and protection of the injured woman. This led to violence by the domestic violence of the woman's family, which resulted in injuries to the mediator.
When subjected to the ** investigation, the mediator stated that he would not forgive and insisted that the perpetrators be severely punished. This incident has made people think deeply that when dealing with family conflicts, mediators should stand on an impartial standpoint and protect the rights and interests of the victims, rather than condoning violent acts to avoid more serious consequences.
The role of the mediator is crucial when dealing with family conflicts. However, the incident has become a painful lesson for mediators to be more cautious in their approach. The mediator cannot ignore the interests of the victim just for the sake of persuasion, because this will not only fail to solve the problem, but will also exacerbate the conflict. It is also impossible to stand on the side of the abuser to defend him, otherwise he will lose the trust and support of the public, and even suffer accidental harm.
Mediators should always maintain a neutral and objective attitude when dealing with family conflicts. They need to have an in-depth understanding of the situation and listen to the views and demands of all parties in order to better assess the situation. At the same time, mediators need to have a wealth of knowledge and experience in order to make informed decisions in complex situations.
In addition, the mediator needs to have keen insight and judgment. They need to be able to identify the core issues in family conflicts and take effective measures to resolve them. Mediators need to be particularly cautious in handling cases involving domestic violence. They need to ensure that the safety and interests of the victim are adequately protected, while also preventing the perpetrator from using the mediation process to threaten or retaliate.
All in all, this incident is a profound lesson that reminds mediators of the need to be more prudent and meticulous in dealing with family conflicts. They need to maintain a neutral and objective attitude at all times, and take effective measures to resolve conflicts in order to maintain social harmony and stability.