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A mother asked a question about how children in the second grade like to be lazy, whether it's washing their faces and brushing their teeth, or reading and writing homeworkI like to deal with everything I do, and I don't want to take it seriously

Mom has also talked about the truth, coaxed and coaxed, scolded and scolded, but the child is still the same and is not willing to change at all.

The mother is very anxious and wants to know if there is a way to completely change the childCorrect your child's bad habit of being lazy

I believe that many parents have encountered similar situations. The child has bad habits, and the parents try to reason with their children and want the children to correct them, but it does not work.

Why is this so?

If you think about it, it's pretty obvious. Because we only tell the child".What bad behavior", but did not teach them".How to changeAnd the latter is the key to change.

It's like if you submit a report to the leader, and he only says that the report is not good and needs to be redone, butIt's not good not to tell you what he wants you to becomeAre you very annoyed, and at the same time very helpless, feeling like you don't know what to do?

If you really want your child to change and are willing to help him, you may want to try the following 3 methods to test them for yourself.

Not only is the effect a hundred times better than verbal education, but alsoIt will not cause resistance from the childYour parent-child bond will be even stronger than before.

Want to know what the magic method is? Then hurry up and look down.

Take, for example, a child who is lazy in brushing his teeth. Why do parents think that their children are not serious about brushing their teeth, but their children do not admit it, and even feel aggrieved?

The reason for such a disagreement is because:Parents and children have different standards for "brushing their teeth seriously".

If you want your child to improve their current brushing standards, instead of putting a toothbrush in their mouth and tinkering with it a few times, you need to first identify the standards you want and put them togetherWrite it down in black and white and explain it to your child

Of course, this standard should be gradual and gradually raised. From the beginning, use the standard of brushing your teeth as a model for your child, and he will definitely not be able to do it.

You can prescribe the child firstBrush each side of the tooth 5 times

First the front teeth, then the outside, occlusal surface, and inside of the left tooth, then the inside of the front teeth, and finally the outside, occlusal surface, and inside of the right tooth.

Tell your child directly and verbally, and the child is likely to be confused. We can show the child the brush ourselves and then take the child's hand and brush the tooth for him. You can also find a model to show your child.

Make sure your child really understands our standards before he brushes his teeth on his own.

This step is very important, and it is impossible for the child to be satisfied with us without setting the standards in advance.

Children will also feel aggrieved and unwilling to change because of frequent accusations from adults.

If you want your child to do things properly, adults mustTake the initiative to provide support to your childDon't expect your child to be able to meet our standards on their own.

How can you help? Let's take brushing your teeth as an example.

We can both in personDemonstrate to your childHow to brush your teeth, you can also find outPicture books, ** modelsand other resources to help children master the skills of brushing their teeth.

At the same time, yesLet your child choose their favorite toothbrush and cup,**Synchronous guidance on children's brushing cartoons,**To increase the fun of children's brushing.

For children,Fun is a very powerful motivator**

We parents should learn to make good use of this motivation and not always be very serious about letting our children do this and that.

From a psychological point of view, when a child performs an act, if he canGet immediate positive feedback, he is likely to increase the frequency of this behavior.

Conversely, if there is no immediate positive feedback (the behavior is rewarded for a long time), or even negative feedback, the behavior may be reduced.

Especially inThe beginning of habit formationIt is important to give your child timely positive feedback to help them persevere.

You can be in the kidsGive him a round of applause immediately after brushing his teethPraise him for brushing seriously and carefully

You can prepare a punch sheet, brush your teeth carefully and stick a little star;

You can also brush your child's teeth and reward them with happy parent-child companionship.

It is important to note that it is not the child who fully meets your standards to reward him. As long as the child is improving, close to your standards, you should reward the child in time.

AbsolutelyWhere there is a reward, there is a punishment

If the child does not brush his teeth, or if he brushes his teeth perfunctorily, there should also be a corresponding punishment. Like deducting a star, or telling your child that you're disappointed.

As with the standard, so should the reward and punishment measuresAfter discussing with the child, write it down in black and whiteWe can't just pay lip service, otherwise there will be no impartiality and deterrence.

The above 3 methods are suitable for cultivating any good habits in your child.

Whether it's life skills, housework, studying, sports, you need itDefine the criteria first, and thenHelpand finally giveTimely positive feedback

A lot of the time,It's not that the child doesn't want to do it, but that he doesn't know what to do。Instead of verbally nitpicking on your child, it is better to help him learn and improve his skills in a down-to-earth manner.

The ability to keep up, the child is naturally willing to perform well, right?

I am a sample mother, a master's degree in Fudan, an early education instructor, a family education instructor, and the author of "Understanding Psychology, Parenting is Simple".

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