Don't tell your children about it.
Life is short, fleeting, and most people are already old before they know it. In old age, we will find that money is not the whole of life, and a happy family is the most important thing.
In a family, there are always many people and many things involved, and these complex interpersonal relationships can be annoying at times. However, in old age, we will understand that if we want to avoid family disputes, we must keep some things in our hearts, especially these four things.
When the wealth that older people have worked so hard to accumulate throughout their lives is distributed, their children often covet it. Although the custom of "sons inheriting property" is prevalent in some rural areas, the inheritance rights of children are legally equal.
It is this equality of inheritance rights that leads to the high number of people who go to court every year over the distribution of property.
Children hope that their parents will be fair in dealing with the distribution of property, after all, property is a sensitive topic, and if there is injustice in the distribution issue, it may cause dissatisfaction among the children and even hurt the relationship between them and their parents.
Therefore, in order to avoid family disputes, the elderly should try to deal with the distribution of property in private and avoid public disputes.
1. The reality of complete fairness cannot be realized. Life is like ten fingers, each finger has a length or shortness, and parents cannot treat every child completely fairly, so partiality often occurs.
Especially in families with many children, the bias will be more prominent. Although this biased choice may not seem like a big problem, it can leave a permanent shadow in the hearts of children.
When dealing with injustices in the family, it is important to consider the whole picture and avoid favoring one person over the other. If you can't be fair and just, you can listen to your children's ideas, you can't run away from problems, and you should start from the perspective of the whole family to avoid stigma.
3.Parental dissatisfaction with their children Many parents still see their children as children, even after they have started a family. Therefore, they will express all their love and dissatisfaction with their children.
However, as they get older, everyone has their own ideas and lifestyles, and they may be reluctant to let their parents interfere too much in their lives. Family relationships may deteriorate if parents speak out to hurt their children.
4. Harmonious handling of neighborhood relations The relationship between neighbors will undoubtedly affect our quality of life. Especially for the elderly, if they want to live happily in their old age, they need to deal with their neighbors.
Even if there is a contradiction, it should not be remembered all the time, and it is wiser to forget it at the right time.