In a harmonious family, there are few superfluous and useless thoughts in the child's brain, and it is easy to form an effective problem-solving brain circuit. In families where the parental relationship is broken and in crisis, the child's mind will be filled with fantasies, to explain the family disharmony, and even to blame himself for being the one who is not liked.
Children will have more circuits in their minds that are different from ordinary people. When a child encounters an unstable situation in the outside world that threatens his or her own safety, and the child's cognitive ability cannot make an effective explanation, the child will tend to interpret the situation with fantasies. In addition, children will also invent some means of coping with their parents in order to benefit their own safety. And these methods are often ineffective in society.
For example, some children's parents are strict, causing them to invent a lot of means to please and please, which will become their behavioral inertia, but it is not easy to get along with society after entering society. Some children's parents are emotionally unstable, resulting in children being emotionally unstable when they encounter some situations with their parents, so that when they grow up, they are too sensitive and others feel unhappy to interact with them, because it is not easy and pleasant to interact with them.
For example, if you are still born in a harmonious family, the economic conditions are not necessarily good, but the thinking inertia is always very happy and positive, which makes it easy to make a group of high-quality friends, because each other's brain circuits are relatively close, and the interpretation of things is more consistent, it is easy to become friends, which can also promote growth.
Self-consistent thinking and behavior without internal friction are often the behavior habits of parents in the family, and it is easy for them to make similar friends.
Children with harmonious families may not be excellent, but their thinking will be more normal and they will look more sunny and relaxed, which makes it easier for them to get more opportunities after entering the society and form an effective practice review earlier. Children with disharmony in the family need to have a process of setting things right, first discovering their own problems, and then repairing the problems, this process may take ten or eight years, then it will be later than the effective practice of children with harmonious families.
One step slower in life can lead to many different things, different efficiency of growth, and affect personal development.