On the stage of love, there is often a puzzling phenomenon: knowing that the other party does not love him, he still chooses to stay with him, consuming precious time. This tangled way of getting along with each other is deeply confusing, because the line between love and non-love is often blurred in love. Even if a person doesn't love you deeply, they don't want to stay away from you, and this situation often stems from the following reasons.
First of all, people are reluctant to change their habits and are afraid to face an unfamiliar future. In a relationship, both parties are accustomed to each other's existence, and the greetings and slapsticks every morning have become a part of life. This habit has been deeply imprinted in each other's hearts and has become a path dependence. People are more afraid to break these habits than to face the fact that they don't love, because change means re-establishing a new way of life and crossing the comfort zone of relationships. A striking example is my cousin and brother-in-law, who met at the age of 20 and got married at the age of 22, although the relationship was destroyed by the pressures of life and the quarrels continued, but after the divorce and automatic remarriage. It wasn't until the brother-in-law had an extramarital affair that the two finally chose to separate happily. Sometimes, people think that they are reluctant to leave because of deep love, but in fact it is because of the fear of the strange and unknown that they prefer to stay in their painful but familiar comfort zone.
Secondly, some people choose to keep the spare tire for multiple preparations. Adult love is often accompanied by realistic considerations, which are genuine, but more rational thinking. I once saw a **, after men and women met on a blind date, the man took a fancy to the girl's enthusiasm, so he agreed to try it together. However, when the girl asks the man if he likes her, the man ostensibly says he does, but the narrator reveals his true thoughts: "There is no better choice, to be able to catch one counts as one." The girl asked when the two would get married, and the man replied that he meant to look at the girl, but the narrator revealed the man's true intentions: "I want to find a better look." Such a man treats the girl as a spare tire, and the relationship seems stable on the surface, but in fact his heart is never really settled. For people who are treated as spare tires, it is difficult to feel sincere love in each other, because they are only one of the other person's lives, not the only one. There is no fixed answer to love, the truth is always hidden in the other person's heart, and we often can't accurately guess what the other person really thinks.
Overall, when we feel love, we should love with courage and heart. However, when love is not felt, we should not hesitate to leave. Someone who truly loves you will change for you to cater to the love you want. If the other person is unable to do this, then love and dislove have become very obvious, and there is no need for us to embarrass ourselves. Love is a journey, and we should choose to spend the rest of our lives with someone who is truly willing to walk with us.