In real life, why do some men and women have a second lover and still don't break up with their current one? In the final analysis, the other party still has the value he wants.
First, the most direct embodiment is the economic value. Xiao Su and Xiao Hu have changed from passionate love at the beginning, to getting married and having children, to their children in junior high school, and their relationship has changed from strong to weak. As our closest friends, we feel that Xiao Su has developed a romantic relationship with another man.
When chatting, Xiao Su said: "Love is passion, it may fade after a while, my husband is family affection, besides, it's really divorced, go to live in **?" The house is so expensive now, and the high-rise of the community where I live now is relatively satisfied, don't be so serious, just be happy. ”
Xiaohu works in the ** department, has a set in the city, and also builds a self-built house in the countryside. In comparison, Xiao Su's lover outside is farming in the countryside, he is very funny and considerate, and we all have a good time together.
But at the moral level and the economic level, Xiaohu has the advantage. Therefore, Xiao Su and the outside have been dating for a while, and after the freshness has passed, she and her husband have returned to their original state, and they are very affectionate on the surface, we are glad that Xiao Hu has great economic value, and the honest Xiao Hu is the real destination for Xiao Su.
Second, in the process of getting along, you can provide emotional value to each other. Humans are social animals, we work hard at work or outside, and when we come back, we all want to have a warm greeting from our other half.
Being able to listen and comfort yourself when you encounter setbacks, being able to say what you like to hear, being able to show that you understand what we are suffering from outside, and in general, being able to provide yourself with a sense of spiritual harbor.
Xiao Song often hangs on his lips: "My wife said、、、 and then, when he talked about his wife, he looked intoxicated, looking at his expression, he knew that after he went home, his wife was gentle and considerate of him."
3. The value of that aspect between two people and husband and wife. Men have a need for women, and women have a need for men.
I heard from a friend that she had a good friend. The need in that area is stronger, and she knows 1 man who is relatively strong in this area and can satisfy her. She helped him take care of the children, do housework, and even take care of the elderly.
My friend couldn't see it, chatted with her and asked: "This man, I don't think he has given you any help in life, you also said no, and you didn't give you any help in terms of resources in your career, why are you still so low and small to him?" ”
A friend's friend runs his own beauty salon and has a strong financial ability. She said: "He is the strongest man I have ever met in that aspect, so I can't do without him and let her do anything." ”
Therefore, in the relationship between men and women, the most important and long-term relationship is valuable, either with economic value, or can provide emotional value, or the value of husband and wife.